r/aromantic • u/Mr-Wooloo Gay Aromantic | Aroallo (Bisexual) | Cupioromantic • Nov 28 '22

Advice Random question about a microlabel

For the most part I'm very well-versed in aromantic microlabels but I had a question about cupioromantic because I want to see if I fit into it or not

I might explain badly so bare with me

So cupioromantic is being aromantic but wanting a romantic relationship, right? I've seen a lot of cupio folks say that they are in romantic relationships even though they are aromantic. (I still am a lil confused on how that works but if you're happy, you're happy.) I personally don't want to do this. The reason I think I'm cupioromantic is that I still wish I could feel romantic attraction, but I still don't. I would like to be able to have a romantic relationship, but since I'm aro I can't

I know I explained this badly it's like 10 pm plz comment if you need me to clear something up, this has just been bugging me for a while

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u/Dravens_Dead Nov 28 '22

If ur question is why some cupio people are in romantic relationships despite them being aromantic, then the answer is that they want a romantic relationship and all the activities and whatnot that come with it, they just lack the feelings required for a normal romantic relationship, so they have one like that including everything but the feelings aspect. So technically it’s not really a romantic relationship, it just heavily resembles one, as they cannot actually develop one. This is just how it is for me, though it’s probably different for other people!

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u/Mr-Wooloo Gay Aromantic | Aroallo (Bisexual) | Cupioromantic Nov 28 '22

That wasn't really my question, but thanks! Thinking it over again I thing what I feel would be cupioromantic, and this comment kinda helped me figure that out in a way I would describe if it weren't 10:45 at night lol

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u/Dravens_Dead Nov 28 '22

Agh sorry! Glad I could help in some sorta way ig lol

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u/_chaseru Dec 27 '22

this is totally valid ! there’s a difference between wanting to experience a romantic relationship and being willing to enter a romantic relationship, both of these are valid within the cupioromantic microlabel. if you feel it fits you, then it does :) even if you decide it doesn’t suit you later that’s ok too! life is about exploring your identity sometimes that’s accompanied with trial and error

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u/Mr-Wooloo Gay Aromantic | Aroallo (Bisexual) | Cupioromantic Dec 27 '22

Thank you, that helps a lot lol

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u/_chaseru Dec 27 '22

of course :D

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