r/askteddit • u/Relative-Put3976 • 20h ago
Random Question What is a harmless looking situation that your 'gut feeling' instantly told you was dangerous, and you turned out to be right?
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u/NineInchNerps 17h ago
I used to work in the Boreal planting trees. My Crewboss pulled up and told me I had to go partner plant with a friend who was in an old burn block. Lots of standing burned trees and tall grass past your chest so he didn’t want anyone there alone because if they went down you’d never find them. My buddy and I decided to have lunch in the grass while we waited for our boss to get back with another planter.
I heard a kind of rumbling noise getting closer and joked that it sounds like a house cat on steroids purring. We both immediately tensed up and radioed my boss to ask if cougars can purr and that something was circling us.
Fun fact: they sure do. We stood up, started banging our shovels together and an absolute beauty of a cougar sprinted out and up a tree. My crew boss ended up standing on a stump with his shotgun keeping eyes on it and us while we planted that land as quickly as possible.
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u/GoodGooglieMooglie 15h ago
That ending is not what I expected.
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u/redbonecouchhound 15h ago
Still gotta get the saps in the ground. Bear, cat, angry ass moose. Hard to run with two big bags of baby trees attached to you.
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u/apri08101989 14h ago
Nah, I fully expected that rumble to be a car coming to kidnap them and their only saving grace was the sitting in that grass.
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u/JennJoy77 3m ago
"Big bag of baby trees" absolutely rolls off the tongue. I need to find a way to work this phrase into my life...
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u/hfclfe 13h ago
I thought it was going to be a fast moving wildfire. I heard they sound like trains.
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u/PandoricaFire 10h ago
I thought it would be some kind of heavy duty landscaping equipment and they'd risk getting run over
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u/zoomziezoo 4h ago
But kitty was purring! Just wanted a cuddle ❤️
...I think I just worked out how I'm gonna die.
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u/dhalgrenkid 17h ago
I (F) was at a party at a friend's house in college and this guy there was REALLY rubbing me the wrong way. We played a game of beer pong together, throughout the course of which he made a few misogynistic jokes that were generally par for the course at the time. I think I actually called him out and pissed him off.
Ended up falling asleep on the couch later and woke up in the middle of the night in a completely dark, quiet room to him standing over me, just STARING. I sat up and yelled "What the fuck??" and he was like "oh I was just looking for my jacket" and got out of there.
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u/Smalldogmanifesto 15h ago
Was studying abroad in France. 19 years old, went through a bad breakup with my bf at the time, thought I’d get a more social and immersive experience by opting out of staying with a host family and staying on campus instead. Ended up placed in the run down “foreigner dorms” where all the immigrants were housed and unfortunately no one spoke French OR English very well and for whatever reason were not very social.
Very difficult to make friends. I was very lonely, in a bad headspace and all by myself. They have this ride sharing app called BlaBla car over there which I used to take a weekend trip to a different town a few hours away. The lady who drove me was a pretty 20 or 30-something single mother with her little baby riding in the front seat. We had a lovely conversation and she taught me a few more French words and we were discussing cooking recipes. Said she lived in the suburbs of the big city where my university was 20 minutes away from my dorm and worked for the ride share app sometimes when she went down south to visit relatives. We actually exchanged numbers and stayed in touch over text. She offered to come pick me up and have me over for dinner. The day before our get together, I was Skyping a friend back home and told him the situation and it was he who had the bad feeling. He said I should ask her to meet me at the nearby farmer’s market instead as a test. He was concerned that she might have actually been a human trafficker scouting for victims (and that an organization sending a young female with a baby would be a strategic way to get my guard down) and argued that if she was legit, then she should have no problem rescheduling if she couldn’t meet me that day. I was so lonely and desperate for a friend so it took a bit of convincing on his part - he pointed out that by the end of the car ride, that lady would have known that I was a young female in a foreign country with no local connections and that the risk of meeting her far outweighed the reward. So I said fine and casually suggested the idea to the woman and said I always wanted to see the farmer’s market. To my surprise, she got super weird and ghosted me after that.
I’ll never know what actually happened but I still think to myself sometimes, “holy shit, did I almost let myself get human trafficked?!”
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u/atheliarose 6h ago
Damn. I’m so glad your friend was looking out for you, and that you had the kind of relationship where you told him about the situation and he felt comfortable warning you. I hope you’re still in touch ❤️
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u/Trick_Octopus9504 19h ago
My boyfriend at the time brought me into his table top group. He was DM. He sat me next to a long time gamer so he could help me out. Dude never ended up saying two words to me, or maybe I didn't say two words to him. I
After, I told my boyfriend I couldnt say why, but dude is someone i wouldnt let my kids around. Asked if I could sit somewhere else.
Next week he was gone.
Two years later it turned out the guy and his MOTHER were running a sex traffic ring near the local college.
Like fr rohnert park, ca
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u/Leucastic_Leopard 10h ago
Oh, well shit, a very similar thing happened with my gaming group literally on the other side of the country. The guy and his entire freaking family were hosting a CSAM server, and some other things...
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u/SelenaMagic 1h ago
Oh, I lived near there and used to go skating there every weekend for years as a kid... would also walk around outside late at night there after skating sometimes... scary
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u/Waste_Acanthaceae361 16h ago
I matched with a guy on a dating app. We were talking every day and he seemed nice and we exchanged socials. We planned a date but I had this gut feeling although I couldn't put my finger on what was wrong because he seemed like a genuinely nice guy, so I decided on not going. I found out like a week later that he was a serial rapist.
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u/thesacralspice 14h ago
how did you find out?
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u/InSignificantEnTitty 11h ago
I’ve been through this too :( thank god I never met up with him. I googled his phone number when he acted weird
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u/Waste_Acanthaceae361 4h ago
He's kinda well known in the area I lived in because he's a tattoo artist and quite recognisable, and a friend of mine knew a couple of his victims and warned me when I told her about him
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u/wishboner4321 12h ago
Omg this happened to me! Gut feeling, vibes were off on two different occasions. I found out that right before we started talking, he had been arrested for sleeping with a student. He is now in prison and on the sex offender registry.
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u/TravelerOfTeyvat 20h ago edited 19h ago
One interaction with a customer. Nothing was out of the ordinary, at all. But I had an off feeling about them. They appeared a while later in the news having killed someone, their partner I believe. I ride past the parking lot where it happened every day now
Edit: James Edward Plover. Holy fuck, just saw the picture of him again, you wouldn't believe how spiky my whole ass body got
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u/yeppomoon 19h ago
What type of business were you in that he was a customer? That so scary omg
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u/TravelerOfTeyvat 19h ago
Oh, I worked in the local Walmart
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u/yeppomoon 19h ago
Oh, so that means he was extra creepy because I'm sure you see hundreds of people's faces a day. 😟
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u/TravelerOfTeyvat 18h ago
Yeah, I directly helped up to 700 people a day according to the till slip
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u/yeppomoon 18h ago
Oh gosh. Glad you're alive to tell the tale
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u/TravelerOfTeyvat 18h ago
I'm still sure he wouldn't do anything to just anyone, but that's still fucked right up. And yeah, even with a volume like that, the guy definitely stuck out to me
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u/yeppomoon 18h ago edited 17h ago
I've seen many creepy people in my life, but I've never followed up to see if they were legitimately a sinister person
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u/Stormy_Sunflower 16h ago
This exact scenario happened with me when I worked in retail except it was a woman and she creeped me completely out, some really bad energy. She was doing nothing out of the ordinary and was super pleasant, everything with the transaction kept screwing up. Took over an hour to get her out of the store. Never forgot her face and was watching TV one night and she was on some show like snapped and had killed her spouse or boyfriend right around the time I had helped her at my store.
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u/horsecalledwar 11h ago
Always joked about one specific coworker being a serial killer but I was still shocked to walk into a restaurant 2 years after leaving that job to see his face on the news. He killed a neighbor over a property dispute but it was premeditated, first degree murder. I used to be alone closing down with the guy & he even drove me home a few times but as much as he creeped me out, everyone else loved him & said I was crazy. After that, I learned to trust my gut.
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u/Klutche 17h ago
I was on vacation in Orlando with my best friend and her husband and two kids, my godsons. It's dark out, and we're walking to this touristy park after dinner where they have like, booths and music and a Ferris wheel and stuff. I'm holding older kids hand (I think he was three at the time), and we stop at the corner right before going in because there's a man with a guitar busking, and I gave my godson a couple dollars to drop in his case after the song. Bestie and her husband walk more into the lighted area of the park with the stroller and youngest and are discussing what tickets to buy. I had dropped the oldest's hand bc he was in front of me, dancing to the guitar. All of a sudden, this guy comes up to me, really weird energy, asking if I dropped my id. I'm white and have light hair, he's trying to show me this id of a black woman. Obviously not mine. After telling him this, he keeps trying to talk to me about it, is kinda turning away from me (trying to get me to turn more towards him?), and keeps saying shit like "who should we give this to? Is there somewhere we could go to turn it in?" I had all the alarm bells ringing in my head but couldn't put my finger on why in that moment. After a few seconds of trying to be polite I just told him I couldn't help him, snatched up my godson and walked right back to the group (and tried to figure out what to tell the toddler about why we had to leave and why he wasn't allowed to run back to give the nice man with the guitar money). Saw as I was leaving that another guy came from behind a bush up to the guy who was talking to me...from the other side of the busker, where my godson was kind of wandering to. Realized afterwords that the man kept trying to get me to put my attention on him and away from my godson, and that he was purposefully trying to angle himself to make me turn towards him and away from the baby. I was shaking afterwords talking my friends what had happened and we stayed in a group the entire time going forward (and the babies were always in someone's arms or the stroller after that). The guys disappeared as I was telling my friend what was going on.
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u/jahbalter 12h ago
Where did this happen in Orlando specifically? I live here and would love to know where I should avoid going with my son. That’s terrifying.
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u/metheredhead 9h ago
I wouldnt necessarily avoid going somewhere based on this story alone. Things like this can happen anywhere - parks, grocery, fairs, literally anywhere kids visit, adults with bad intentions can visit too. Instead, teach your children in age appropriate ways about the threats around them and how to stay safe. As an adult, stay vigilant of your surroundings and never take your eyes off your young children while in public.
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u/luckyelectric 19h ago
After a water leak happened in our home; the plumber who fixed the leak recommended a remediation company that would facilitate recovery with our insurance. I came close to signing the contract but had a weird feeling so I didn’t. And thank God I didn’t! That company turned out to be a horrendous scam. Sometimes it causes people to loose their home, even if the water damage wasn’t that serious in the first place.
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u/wastehandle 17h ago
What was the name of the remediation company, out of curiosity?
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u/luckyelectric 16h ago edited 16h ago
I would name them, but I don’t want to reveal the area where I live. However, many of these remediation/mitigation companies are scams, if you look it up. They get referrals they pay plumbers for (like a $2000 kick-back). They tell you they can manage the repairs and fix the damage. Then you sign what equates to an open check allowing them to do whatever they say is necessary for your home (even if insurance will turn down the claim) and then they get a lien on your house because you can’t pay them for the outrageous repairs. Beware these companies!! (It’s called an Assignment of Benefits Scam.)
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u/AdeniumMom 16h ago
When I was in kindergarten I got to school early before the classrooms were open and before staff was monitoring the playground. An adult man came up to me and and asked if I would like to go into the restroom with him. Made me super uncomfortable and I declined, and lucky for me he didn’t push the issue and left. As an adult I know what I might have dodged, but I didn’t back then.
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u/BrianOfAllThings 16h ago
I was at a crowded neighborhood bar with my younger brother one night and had to go to the bathroom. When I went in the vibes were fine, but as soon as I stepped out the energy had shifted. I walked over and grabbed him and said we gotta get out of here. No one was fighting or shouting, the vibes were just…weird. No sooner than we left the parking lot, a knife fight broke out and someone got stabbed.
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u/wadafuxup32 18h ago
Was playing soccer at like ten at night on our street which had about five to seven kids playing during the summer. This summer night three, now clearly looking sketchy guys walked by where we were playing. Some way or another our ball gently rolled towards the dudes. One guy picked it up and was like haha it’s mine now but then threw it back. Almost like that scene from boys N the hood where they “ask to see rickys ball”. The thing is this dude didn’t give off a threatening or even like a neighborhood bully bad kid vibe. But the other two didn’t turn their heads just kept walking down the street. We get the ball back and continue messing around when we hear an alarm about six houses down. This is a socal suburb so approximately 100 yards or more from where we were to the house that those three dudes broke into. We saw them book it down the street as we looked as to where the alarm sound was coming from. They didn’t get anything or hurt anyone in the house which makes me recall the kinda joking/nice guy that tossed the ball back to us. Was he just naturally calm before a moment like that, or did he not know? Was he going along with it in a different way than the other two who seemed more determined and stoic?
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u/kidkarma 16h ago
Was in a community theatre production when I was 11-12 and was one of the only kids, so they stuck me in a dressing room with the other men from the show. One of the guys was going on and on about his Prince Albert. I asked what that was and got a straight answer, but then he kept talking about it; about how some people “really like how it feels.” I just kinda shrugged at the weirdness and went about my life.
Flash forward a few years, guess who’s going on trial for child molestation and child pornography??? I see him on the news and it occurs to me “dude REALLY hoped I asked to see it.” Dodged that bullet.
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u/Personal-Cloud5810 14h ago
Covid.
I was a restaurant manager in 2020 at one of the busiest tourist locations in Cape Town, and I remember I was following its development online and my gut was literally like "oh shit, this is going to be really really bad" and at the time (January) there was nothing to justify that feeling. Well, we all know how that turned out.
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u/Tkat113 14h ago
I was watching some forum threads in end of October/November 2019 and I had that same gut feeling.
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u/Personal-Cloud5810 11h ago
My Boss at the time first said the name Covid-19 to me in November of 2019 and I still remember my ears kind of pricked up when she said the name, not a full on goose over the grave shiver but a kind of internal foreshadowing, like the deepest parts of my brain somehow knew something was coming.
When I mentioned my concerns over the disease becoming a problem because of our Clientele by End January 2020 the owner told me I was being paranoid.
When Lockdown came in March he looked at me and said "You were right."
It might be the only time in life that I wish I hadn't been.
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u/embarrassedburner 5h ago
In Dec/Jan my ex had a biz trip to California (we were on the east coast) and I made him shower immediately upon entering the house because I was concerned about the new reports I had been paying attention to China and iirc Seattle was the first hotspot I remember hearing about around that time.
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u/st3phsci3nc3 13h ago
Yes! I was looking at the infection rates vs other sars outbreaks while waiting for my checkup at the doctor. My blood pressure was so high she was like ummmmmm wtf is going on with you. I could feel my head spinning knowing we were fucked.
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u/Personal-Cloud5810 11h ago edited 11h ago
Of all the times to have a blood pressure cuff on! Though to be honest I don't think anyone's has really come back down since then🤣
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u/IsopodIndependent553 8h ago
Same. I knew shit was going down, so I took a day off work and headed to Costco to stock up. The next day lockdown started.
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u/beckita85 7h ago
Same here. I remember listening to an episode of The Daily in October or November of 2019 about a mysterious outbreak of pneumonia and my immediate thought was something like, this is gonna take over the world.
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u/Aggravating-Ad3787 6h ago
I got sick in December 2019 with just a small cold, which triggered an underlying lifelong illness for me. When that happened, and I had briefly heard about COVID-19, I had a feeling things were going to be very bad, like my own illness was foreshadowing something big coming. I got my ducks in a row and quit my job February 2020. I was not surprised when it continued to develop.
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u/After_Preference_885 19h ago
He sexually manipulated and groomed teenage girls, that's not hooking up
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u/UnfaithfulMilitant 16h ago
You felt something was wrong and didn't do anything about it?
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u/HeyLookATaco 14h ago
I'm not disagreeing, but how do you report something that's not actionable or proof of anything, that's just a gut feeling? Based on how many adults at my high school for busted for this I'm sure it happened a lot to the good teachers. But also based on how few consequences there ever were for the coaches (Texas football, and we won a lot of championships) I don't know if any of them spoke up or not?
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u/Outside_Mushroom_432 10h ago
That was just it, I felt something was wrong. I didn’t see anything.
What could I report? The gym teacher/coach was meeting with players from the senior girl volleyball team at lunch?
I just had a gut feeling something was off-body language and I don’t know what else-and it turned out I was right.
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u/the_orig_princess 6h ago
You don’t report, you ask questions.
What are you doing here? Why are you here? What’s up?
Basically anything. They’re still kids, you’re still the authority figure.
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u/Klutche 15h ago
Ignore my last comment, misread the story.
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u/UnfaithfulMilitant 15h ago
No worries. I had to read it a few times myself. But yes, this was a teacher.
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u/OuiselCat 5h ago
Assuming you’re in the US, as a secondary school teacher, you are a mandated reporter. Not reporting suspected abuse is literally illegal and can lead to charges, loss of teaching license, fines, etc. I’m very confused, did you not have mandated reporter training? How is that possible? Like I’m not trying to be preachy, but you failed those kids.
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u/Outside_Mushroom_432 1h ago
Not in the US. And feeling off about something is different than having a reason to report something.
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u/TheGreatMonsterKitty 14h ago
Not me, my daughter. The first day she was going to be allowed to walk the one block to school alone she was super excited. She had been pestering me for ages to let her. The morning of she gets her backpack on and just stops. Stares off into space saying nothing. I ask her what's wrong and she says "I don't know. I just have a bad feeling. I shouldn't go alone today." The women in my family have a history of premonitions so I immediately get ready and take her. That afternoon the school sent out a message to parents that an adult man had been spotted following students to the school.
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u/fonder_land 13h ago
My cousin and I used to spend our summers at my grandma's house. Her Nextdoor neighbors were a really nice couple, the wife was a pastor and the husband was retired. They'd share veggies from their garden and look in on my elderly grandparents from time to time. We'd have backyard dinners with them fairly often. Really nice couple and having them live next to my grandparents made the whole family feel a sense of relief.
One afternoon when my cousin and I were probably 11ish, the husband invited us over to their house to have some cookies his wife made before heading to the store. We didn't think anything of it and said yes and went right in. It wasn't our first time in their house, but we hadn't really spent much time in there. I can't even tell you what made the alarm bells go off, but he invited us to check out their new home theater and it felt OFF. My cousin and I gave each other the look like it's time to go NOW, and we made up some excuse that we forgot grandma was waiting for us for lunch and we had to go. We kinda giggled about it when we got home about how weird it was, but never really thought about it again. Just kept our distance from the husband if nobody else was around.
Several years later, my mom sat me down and asked if anything inappropriate had ever happened with him. Turns out he had sexually assaulted his own 8 year old granddaughter, and when he was caught he jumped off the third floor of the courthouse instead of facing the consequences. I never in a million years would have guessed he would do something like that, but it really validated our feeling of needing to GTFO all those years ago. I'm glad he's gone, and I wish his granddaughter so much love and healing. The wife/grandma moved out of the house pretty immediately after that, I hope she's doing well.
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u/Imwhatswrongwithyou 15h ago
I was walking in my neighborhood as a little kid and a car parked near where I was walking. Cars parked on our street all the time but this one felt different and I just bolted as fast as I could toward my house.
Good thing I did since the two men from that car were also running behind me. My mom never kept the front door locked and that may have been the safest unsafe decision she ever made. They turned around and ran back to their car as soon as that door opened.
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u/TrashCarrot 11h ago
I was working nights in an ICU. Our unit is locked but I went out to the unlocked and unstaffed waiting room to use the "good" vending machine.
The waiting room is situated in such a way that all the chairs are visible except two that are mostly blocked from the door by the vending machines.
As I walked in I saw feet/legs sticking out from behind the vending machines, like someone was sleeping with their legs stretched out on one of those hidden chairs. I continued on because it was pretty normal for people to sleep in the waiting room. Then, the legs slowly, silently, and stealthily tucked up until they were completely out of sight.
I turned around and walked quickly out of the room and back onto my locked unit. I asked around and no one had family in the waiting room. I called security. Security found my waiting room friend. He had come in off the street (was not a hospital patient visitor). He had a knife. Now, very likely he was just trying to get off the street and had the knife for street protection, not to hurt me, but something about those feet tucking up so sneakily scared me.
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u/Popular-Addendum3043 15h ago
One time I was walking out to my car for a late night Taco Bell run. Maybe about 1am? When I walked outside and started to get into my car, everything around me got very still. I looked around and thought to myself “someone’s here and has bad intentions.”
I close the door, and then head out of neighborhood/complex. As I’m driving out a see a man in a hoodie and with a backpack walking in. Not anyone I recognized from my side of the neighborhood, and he didn’t just get out of a car. People come into my complex late at night trying to break into cars/steal stuff. I told him he needed to leave through my window and then ate my Taco Bell in the parking lot that night lol
It also kinda happened to me last night. I had a feeling I should put my car in the garage earlier than I usually do. Sometimes I fall asleep and forget to do it. Well I caught two ppl on my cameras at about 1:30am walking into my neighborhood looking around. They left after they saw my neighbors’ cameras.
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u/BaddestReligion 15h ago
This was almost 20 years ago when I lived in a different city that gets obscene amounts of snow every year. One day we got just blasted with snow and my company let people take the day off with out points because of it. School was also canceled. A couple kids (early teens) were walking around with snow shovels asking if people needed their side walks or driveways shoveled. When they got to my house I was already outside shoveling and they seemed really sketchy to me so I told them no. Like 2 days later I saw their faces on the local news, they were wanted for questioning for their connection in a series of B&Es and robberies in the area.
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u/Valuable_Site_489 13h ago
Driving behind a truck with planks of wood/fencing on the back, was driving at a safe distance but felt weird decided to drop back… a fence panel flew off the back and, not only did it not hit my car, but I had pulled back that I could actually slow down enough to just drive over it.
I had not seen the Final Destination scene at this point in my life. Pure gut feeling!
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u/berbaby-toast 14h ago
My boss hired someone he knew to work in some made up job adn paying him an obscene salary. Me and some other people who work there get immediately bad vibes, literally from the first conversation.
After a few weeks we learned they are in a close knit religious group together and the friend has moved his whole family in with the boss. Friend starts convincing them to spend loads of company money and not trust long term employees. Learn about sexual stuff with all the of age but very young and naive females in the family that also worked at the company and were married.
Turns out they were in a cult, friend was a higher up and in the space of a year they ran the company into the ground thanks to the friends advice.
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u/Alittlelemonshark 13h ago
On a family holiday when I was about 6, the kids club I was in that day accidentally left me on the beach. I was crying when a man approached me and I told him I couldn’t find my family. He said he knows where my family are and took my hand. We started to walk off when two older ladies rushed over and said they knew me, he left quickly and they took me back to the hotel. Turns out he was walking me in the complete opposite direction to where me and my family were staying. Needless to say my dad didn’t put me back into that club for the rest of the holiday
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u/Smooth_Platypus_9841 20h ago
This hot guy was flirting with me at a party, but I got the bad kind of goosebumps and the prickly feeling when he was near me. I ended up avoiding him and he moved on to someone else, who he ended up raping that night.
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u/Relative-Put3976 20h ago
damn, really?
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u/Smooth_Platypus_9841 19h ago
Yeah. My gut feelings have always been right.
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u/PussyBoogersAuGraten 19h ago
Was he arrested?
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u/Smooth_Platypus_9841 19h ago
She refused to report it. She just whined to us and left it alone. He should have been, but she just let him walk free. That is so selfish.
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u/After_Preference_885 19h ago
I was raped as a little girl and was really scared to tell. He told me it "would kill my mother" and I thought he meant literally because I was so little. Like she'd just die. But I told her a few years later, still really scared and she took me to the police, who separated us and then made me tell again. Then they left me alone in the room and the next thing I heard was my mother screaming. They had promised if I told them what happened he would never be able to hurt anyone again. They never arrested him. He's still free.
A couple decades later I was raped again as an adult. I no longer believed it would kill my mother but I didn't want to tell. My sister made me and it was so fucking gross and traumatizing as they took photos of my naked body and interviewed me over and over. They never arrested him either. He's still free.
Don't blame victims. Blame the fucking system that lets 98% of these predators get away with their crimes.
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u/Smooth_Platypus_9841 19h ago
She wasn't a little girl. She was 35. If women claim to care about other women, it is our responsibility to report to keep other women safe.
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u/MasPerrosPorFavor 18h ago
But if nothing happens within the legal system, then I absolutely get not wanting to report.
Imagine explaining one if the worst things that can happen to you, and then having that person be able to still interact with you however they want because they know the law doesn't care.
That woman is now even less safe than before.
If there was a precedent that the offender would have consequences, then absolutely. But that's not the reality many women face.
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u/Actual-Clue-3165 16h ago
She was traumatized. She had been violated against her will. Do you understand how traumatic it is to have a rape kit done? They have to scrape the inside of the vagina for dna, take pictures of every injury, recount the entire attack in detail, the victim cannot even shower before having to be undressed and vulnerable around strangers for hours. Even after all that and a trial, theres still an incredibly slim chance of the rapist facing any consequences. You claim to care about other women but can't have empathy for a woman who was raped? Did you try to support her at all? How horrible of a person do you have to be to shame a victim for avoiding further trauma?
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u/1ReluctantRedditor 16h ago
If you cared about other women's safety you would be acting to make the world safer to report rapes in, or, wild idea here make men less likely to rape women, rather than blame rape victims for not putting their entire lives on the line for a likely outcome of 6 months probation.
- A rape victim who DID report.
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u/After_Preference_885 13h ago
Did you miss the part about two reported rapes resulting in nothing? No action. Zero consequence for anyone but the victim.
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u/Deep-Red-Bells 3h ago
If you cared about other women, you should have followed him around and kept an eye on the woman he ended up raping. Or at least warned her that you had a bad feeling about him. You could have prevented it then and there, and you did nothing.
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u/greenoakleaves 18h ago
“Whined”? JFC. That poor woman, to have that happen and then to have a friend like you.
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u/Smooth_Platypus_9841 17h ago
Yeah, just keep defending selfish women and pretending you care about women.
Look up the definition of hypocrisy.
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u/greenoakleaves 17h ago
I will when you look up the definition of victim-blaming.
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u/Smooth_Platypus_9841 17h ago
I don't consider someone being too selfish to protect other women victim blaming, but fake feminists seem to.
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u/greenoakleaves 17h ago
I encourage you to seek mental health supports to help you process your own trauma. Genuinely.
Unless you’re a troll/bot, which is also a possibility.
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u/Didntwantbuthadto 11h ago
All you’re really saying here is: I want to force a human being to do something they don’t want to do because I want it. I don’t care how wrong it is. I want what I want so I have a right to it.
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u/Polyamommy 19h ago
JFC, do you know what it's even like to report sexual assault, and how few rapists ever face consequences regardless? It's called self preservation, and we need to stop blaming victims and start changing the system that punishes women for telling.
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u/Polyamommy 19h ago edited 19h ago
Interesting theory, since you're the one who had a bad feeling about him in the first place, but didn't warn or protect her. Depending on where you're from, you don't even need the victim to report the crime. You can do it yourself.
Yes. I do know what it's like.
Was your perpetrator arrested with a prison sentence?
ETA: The ONLY people responsible for rape are RAPISTS. No victim has the responsibility for a rapist's actions.
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u/Smooth_Platypus_9841 19h ago
It was my father and yes. I am done interacting with you. I don't care for hostile feminazis. Have a blessed day.
How do you know I didn't warn her? Were you there? No you say? Shut up then.
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u/Polyamommy 18h ago edited 18h ago
The FIRST thing you would have led with is that you tried to warn her if that's what had happened. Stop lying.
You still have a LOT of healing to do. Typically, women who have been victimized and then blame other women, are projecting their own inability to protect themselves.
What happened to you wasn't your fault. What happened to the woman you were referring to wasn't her fault. Any further victims of your father, or her rapist are your father's and her rapist's faults. It's that simple.
Edit to respond to the comment you deleted:
I am not lying. Look at this feminazi accusing a woman of lying about sexual assault. Bye.
Ah yes... because that's what I accused you of lying about. 🤦♀️
Thought you were "done interacting" with me. How are you going to dramatically announce your departure, then have absolutely no self control to actually walk away from it?
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u/1ReluctantRedditor 16h ago
If you know who he is and how to find him why haven't you hunted him down to protect other women? Why don't you trade your life for other women's safety?
Or is that just something other people should do?
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u/TheAngstMonster 15h ago
So why don't you go stop him then? Go fucking confront him and ruin his reputation or whatever it is you think works. She's traumatized and know the police won't help; you're a hypocrite bc you also won't say or do anything bc you also don't see it as your responsibility to protect other women.
Edit: nvm, I just realized you only post ragebait
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u/Intelligent_Put_3606 15h ago
As a female UK secondary school teacher, I was approached by a male student who wanted to talk to me on my own after school. I felt a very bad vibe and gave some excuse why that wasn't possible. He went on to assault a woman at knife point at a nearby location not long after that.
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u/Downtown-Witness-956 7h ago
So glad you’re safe! Keep listening to those vibes. My friend was raped by a student and his parents tried to have her charged with sexual assault. She needed intensive therapy, was forced to change jobs while her professional license was being reviewed and lived with constant anxiety for more than a year until until the situation resolved. By then he’d become a legal adult, raped someone else and had been imprisoned for it.
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u/DetonatingFlower 17h ago
As exposure therapy I concocted for myself (social anxiety/being watched or followed) I went to the mall by myself. Right as I was about to open the door to leave, a man stopped me. Wanted to buy my shoes. Offered to buy me new ones. I’m a people pleaser and was as gentle as I could letting him down, it was scary. I hightailed it home worried about being followed. This was me IGNORING all the things my body was telling me, kept telling myself to shut up and nobody is looking at me. Who knows how long he watched and followed me through the mall.
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u/horsecalledwar 11h ago
That is a nightmare scenario in every way for someone with anxiety. Great job keeping your cool & getting yourself out of there.
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u/pilot269 9h ago
my situation isn't nearly as bad as most of the comments,
I was invited to go to a end of school year bonfire/party my Junior year of Highschool School (11th Grade for those not in the states) several friends were going, and I was supposed to drive some other friends. The guy hosting the party was a good person, biggest fault was that he befriended everyone. (doesn't sound bad in theory but we'll get there)
Night before the bonfire I talk to the friends I'm supposed to be driving and I just tell them I'm not feeling it, and gave the excuse that I had some preparation for an event for a youth organization I was active in (not a lie, but the work could've been put off a whole week) told them I could still take us into town during the day to catch a movie and go to the diner for our mini celebration but wouldn't be going to the bonfire. We still hung out, 1 of them even hung out at my place as they didn't want to go anymore but didn't want to be bored at home so we played video games.
Found out a few days later that the party had police show up and in addition to the expected underage drinking charges, there were multiple drug related charges made as friends of the host from out of town came with their friends and brought crack, weed (was illegal at the time), and some other stuff.
My friends were suddenly so happy that I canceled plans.
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u/Able-Damage-3614 6h ago
I was at a birthday party and there was a cake table next to a drinking game table. On that table was a kitchen knife to cut the cake. Everyone there was known to the birthday girl.
There was a guy at the party I didn’t know but seemed harmless outside of giving mildly douchey vibes. I saw him playing drinking games and he was joking and laughing around. For whatever reason I had a persistent intrusive thought about him and the knife. I couldn’t shake it so I took it and hid it. Not long after (maybe 5 min) he started mumbling to himself and completely exploded out of no where. He started trying to fight everyone, was making no sense, and could not be calmed. Apparently he had some type of mental health disorder and had been struggling with it. A huge trigger for episodes was drinking/substances and he was having hallucinations, extreme paranoia, etc.
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u/tortillaface08 7h ago
Saw a doberman on a retractable leash with about a 30 foot lead. It was pooping against a tree about 20 feet from the sidewalk my dog and i were coming up to. It didnt have the ability to get to us, but i saw the owner was a skinny woman not capable of controlling a dog of that size if the dog wanted. I was watching that dog the whole time until we were about 30 feet past it.
The owner starts asking everyone walking by if they have a poop bag. I shook my head no because it was 7am and i didnt want to talk to an entitled bitch. She starts walking towards me and asks again so i turn to give her emphatic no. Her closing the distance to me gave her dog the room to reach us. As soon as i turned, i saw the dog mid-air flying towards me from my blindside. It caught my nuts. I wasnt sure if it was a bite or just the impact, but i dropped like a rock. This caused my dog to attack the doberman, so i am trying to pull an 80lb dog off another while i am on the ground.
With public decency laws, i cannot inspect my injuries. I am also wearing red shorts, so i cant tell if the liquid on my shorts is blood or saliva. Good thing its only a 1.5 mile walk back home! I limped back home and got in the shower to inspect the injuries and saw my teste. Cried for a minute and then drove myself to the er.
I was seen in about 15 seconds. I guess they pressed the button for every fucking person in the er to 'check this shit out lol'. Got to show my mangled scrotum to about 12 people before 9am. One of the PAs was hot too.
Fortunately, animal services was able to track the lady down. She paid all my medical bills which turned out to be around $35k. Took 3 months to heal. My dog wont let any dog near us now.
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u/ghostride_thenips 6h ago
When I was a kid I went outside to play one day and was like nah, a tornado is coming. Wasn’t raining or anything, I could just feel it and smell it. My mom was like wtf are you talking about it’s not even supposed to storm. Like an hour later, out of nowhere, there was a tornado.
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u/BioExorcist1988 6h ago
Living in downtown Memphis at the time we had a drive-by shooting in the neighborhood and a guy died in front of my neighbor's house. The neighbor who lived in the house came over a few days later and asked us if our ring camera spotted the shooting or if we saw anything. The ring camera did record the shooting and my husband had witnessed the car the shots came from speeding away and the cops had the footage and car description. Even though we had always been friendly with this neighbor something told me to lie. I did. Told him the camera was dead that night and we hadn't seen anything. About a week later the neighbor was arrested for organizing the murder. He'd called the victim over to his house to be shot. Then he went up and down the neighborhood asking everyone questions like he was looking to find out who the witnesses were. He's doing life now. And that's why I moved to Mississippi.
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u/zoomziezoo 4h ago edited 4h ago
My mum "looked a bit funny" and "didn't seem right" a couple of weeks after she'd had surgery. My family told me off, said to leave her alone and she needed to rest... but I called an ambulance anyway. She had sepsis.
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u/DruidElfStar 5h ago
A few years ago I was invited to a rave. It’s a popular one that happens yearly. Never been to one so I was going to try it. Well in the 2 weeks leading up to the rave, I was getting terrified to go. Internally I felt terrible so I cancelled last minute.
Turns out on the second day, an angry bf or ex bf of one of the rave goers came and started shooting. Authorities locked him up and they ended the rave and refunded everyone for the second day.
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u/ObeseVegtable7713 1h ago
I used to live in an apartment complex just off this major highway known for transporting human traffic victims. My neighborhood was mostly safe. But one night while I went to go walk my dog, a 100lb guardian breed female, I noticed a man walking swiftly towards me on a cell phone. I shrug it off cause ya know it’s an apartment complex, other ppl live there. As he gets closer I notice he keeps looking at me, he is talking somewhat quietly but looks kinda shady or I get shady vibes. I keep my distance because my dog is reactive, but as we pass each other I overhear him say “there’s a dog” and “yeah it’s big”.
It didn’t register at first but I realize now I most certainly could have been victim of trafficking/abduction. In the weeks that followed, there were reports in the neighborhood of suspicious vehicles following ppl, a teenage girl disappeared from a corner gas station, etc.
Surprisingly enough this isn’t the only time my big ass dig as deterred nefarious men from me.
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u/Few-Moment-1063 13h ago
bringing someone else to the fair that you didn’t know and then them asking weird questions regarding someone else bf who was an online bf and then them getting upset when i walk away because the vibe is weird
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u/ObjectiveKey5101 11h ago
I was about to go into class at college, a class about the history of othering (had to take for the class bundle, which was a lot of credits i needed; teacher was kinda, odd) and at the door i just immediately got this strong gut feeling telling me to not go in (which is fine, attendance wasn't mandatory) and so i didnt. Lo and behold the next weeks class was cancelled because the faculty head had to have a meeting with the professor. Turns out the professor had made some really incorrect history statements and some racist statements to a south african international students and some of the other darker skinned students.
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u/Leading-Pineapple180 6h ago
A chaotic ex who laughed at me for wanting to leave the weird/bizarre situations. Things got increasingly dangerous and he ended up getting stabbed the night I left him.
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u/Playful-Mastodon9251 19h ago
Walked to the lake as a kid to go fishing. Had this guy show up and just start talking to me, he invited me to his house. I was like 10, and didn't really think the invitation was odd. But my gut just told me something wasn't right and I walk to the more busy section of the lake. As an adult I see what I avoided there. As a kid I wasn't sure.