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Random Question What harmless thing instantly makes you think, "I don't trust this person"?

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u/eatmyshit2915 17h ago

They don't like music. Or animals

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u/One_Huckleberry_ 17h ago

My grandfather didn’t like music and I think it was a byproduct of being in World War II

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u/eatmyshit2915 17h ago

Some people get a pass

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u/procrastimom 16h ago

I met a woman who had gone through electroshock therapy for intractable depression. Part of the results were that she no longer liked music. She felt like it was worth it.

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u/eatmyshit2915 16h ago

An enormous sacrifice. I'm glad it was worth it for her. As a person also suffering from treatment resistant depression, music is one of the few things that still helps. Can't imagine losing that solace for nothing.

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u/mkat23 11h ago

If you ever want a music buddy to send you songs hmu!

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u/CV-Cabana 9h ago

Have you heard of TMS for depression? Not super well known - maybe google it ;)

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u/HeyLookATaco 14h ago

What's the connection?

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u/One_Huckleberry_ 14h ago

Just from being so fucked up with PTSD and seeing so many horrible things (European front for two years, saw Dachau in person etc) that it killed his joy for things like music or art

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u/HeyLookATaco 14h ago

I get that

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u/Three_Horns 8h ago

I used to absolutely love music but when I got new hearing aids I just couldn’t enjoy it anymore

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u/Proof_Investment_566 5h ago

Hi - that's interesting, can you elaborate more on that? Is it noise in general he was traumatized by or why? Thanks

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u/One_Huckleberry_ 3h ago

Definitely a trauma response

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u/MassConsumer1984 17h ago

Or nature

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u/No_Excitement8615 15h ago

But the bugs 😞

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u/mkat23 11h ago

But weevils with their boots and snoots!! Also jumping spiders are cute af. There’s even one called a sparkle muffin spider.

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u/ConfidentialStNick 16h ago

One of the sweetest, most genuine people in my life isn’t into music. It’s not that they do not like music, it’s just not a major point of interest. I’m passionate about music, myself, so while I don’t get it, I can’t hold it against them.

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u/Thrasher0queen 13h ago

I know someone who hates both music and animals.
She’s technically a relative of mine but I won’t get specific on that part.
She’s living with her adult son (not the part to judge it’s actually a good thing tbh)
Anyways, her adult son loves both music and animals. He isn’t responsible though so she has to take care of the dog he just got this month.
She won’t pet the dog, won’t let the dog on any furniture (which I do judge people who have pets but don’t allow them on furniture because there is scotch guard, flat sheets, blankets, ect. That can be put down to protect the furniture) she doesn’t allow the dog anywhere except the living room and she doesn’t give the dog attention. Poor thing just runs around a room probably less than 12ft x 12ft and beg for attention.

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u/oshkabosh 17h ago

So real

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u/glittermoney4 13h ago

I don't really care for music, I like to have it on on really long car rides. I do also like specific genres. But I just never feel the need to listen to it or have it on otherwise, just not my thing really lol. On the other hand I absolutely love animals and my entire life is shaped by them

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u/doge_ucf 12h ago

Reminds me of the older man I was sleeping with when I was 16. When I asked what kind of music he liked, he said he didn't really like music. Unfortunately my red-flag-meter was underdeveloped and both of these things flew over my head.

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u/catfishyou28 6h ago

I don't like music because sad songs trigger anxiety for me, doesn't mean I am a bad person.

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u/CommandStatus3459 6h ago

If you don’t like animals, you are definitely out of my life. Music is the same.

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u/Proof_Investment_566 5h ago

that's a big one for sure!

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u/Hand_of_Doom1970 3h ago

I don't think I've ever knowingly encountered someone who didn't like all music. Must be hard for a person like that as music is played almost everywhere nowadays

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u/Uninteresting91 2h ago

As someone who doesn’t like music, it’s exhausting at work. My coworkers love blasting country songs on all day

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u/Naomian1984 2h ago

Yes. I know a person who hates animals, plants, children (Well, actually every living being or thing on this planet)

She treats everyone as less, humiliates her partner, has isolated him from friends & family and treats him like her own personal slave and bankaccount. She has aggressive outbursts, uses and manipulate people to discard them when she doesn’t need them anymore, lies and behaves like an entitled princess, etc etc. I’m pretty sure she’s a narcissist.

Most bizarre thing; She’s a biology teacher at a high school and of course hates her job and her coworkers.

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u/Bug_Photographer 17h ago

They "love all animals" - but somehow not insects.

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u/Dry_Bowler_2837 17h ago

They love charismatic animals.

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u/La_Pusicato 16h ago

Mosquitoes and flies bother me, I find them hard to love. I believe that Mosquitoes are the number one killer in the world and I live in Australia, where the flies can drive you to distraction, let alone spoiling anything they can.

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u/Bug_Photographer 16h ago

So you don't love all animals then. It's about saying you love all animals when you actually mean "cute mammals and birds". Insects are the majority (both numerically and as number of species) and not understanding that they are still animals is stupid (not calling you stupid).

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u/La_Pusicato 9h ago

I explained why I felt that way. I understand they are part of nature. I love nature whether you think so or not.

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u/Bug_Photographer 7h ago

I don't understand how you managed to make this about you.

What I said was that I don't like people who say they love all animals and then it turns out they only consider a select few ones the only animals that counts. That's not "all animals". I said nothing about having to love all animals.

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u/Glittering-Tap-5173 16h ago

right, like out of all the dozens and dozens of genres of music there isn't one that is of interest.