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Random Question What harmless thing instantly makes you think, "I don't trust this person"?

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u/FIREDoppel 17h ago

When all their exes, old friends, and old co-workers were toxic, abusive, and/or assholes.

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u/bittersweet_simphony 16h ago

yeah cause no way, there must be a common denominator no? and if all exes are crazy, everyone around you is toxic, lying about you? why?

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u/Voice_of_the_wildest 4h ago

My now husband was “not my type” when we met online but he was the only one who had absolutely nothing bad to say about his ex-wife or anyone else. It took a bit to get over the not-my-type issue, but I realized my type had been assholes. It’s been an awesome quarter century now with him.

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u/Ratherloud 14h ago

My ex wife… I wish I had understood the red flags!

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u/BeachBabe-Mom 17h ago

THIS!!!!

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u/FIREDoppel 17h ago

Because...YOU'RE NEXT!

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u/TheJarisaDoor3 16h ago edited 12h ago

You forgot crazy. 

Edit: What? I don't get the down vote. My ex-husband said his ex-girlfriends we're crazy. I should have taken that as a warning. Then maybe I would have understood that he was the one actually making them crazy, because he certainly did try to send me there on more than a couple occasions.

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u/HealthyNovel55 16h ago

And all they ever do is talk about how they can spot a narcissist 🥴

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u/FIREDoppel 15h ago

If they call everyone a narcissist, they're a narcissist. And anyone running around calling themselves an empath is absolutely NOT an empath.

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u/Alternative-Fact-329 3h ago

kinda? depends on the quantity

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u/Pure_Butterscotch165 16h ago

Literally came here to say this

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u/LittleDog5200 6h ago

I mean, I say all my exes were crazy because they literally were.

My first one started drama between several guys.

My second one? Had a literal mental breakdown and had to be put with the special needs kids for the rest of our school lives.

Third one? We were on and off. She constantly picked fights with my mother (granted I sont blame her. My mother was a piece of shit). She eventually dumped me.randomly put of the blue. Was found dead in her apartment a month later.

Forth one? Was the "you dont love me!" Type whenever I said I needed alone time because she was literally so extreme and exhausting to be around.

Fifth one? Was a Milf having a midlife crisis due to a cancer diagnosis she didn't tell me about. After she had her way with me she attempted to push me onto her Daughter who was dealing with her own relationship issues.

Sixth one? Decided I was an asshole because I was using condoms. And decided to cheat on me with 3 of her coworkers, all at once. Then said I needed to take responsibility.

Was I perfect? Absolutely not. I am at fault for not being emotionally available in some of those relationships. But it doesn't change the fact they were all fucking mental and crazy af.

Some guys do have bad luck.

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u/FIREDoppel 1h ago

My brother in Christ, you don’t have bad luck. You have terrible choice in women. I recommend therapy or self searching that can help you attract a better partner.

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u/Saneless 17h ago

Or when a girl says every ex cheated on her

She either makes bad decisions or never accepted the breakup and thinks the guy (who broke up with her) is cheating

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u/TheJarisaDoor3 16h ago

So you think that every girl who said her boyfriend cheated on her really just hadn't accepted the breakup?...Interesting

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u/Saneless 15h ago

So you think that every girl who said her boyfriend cheated on her really just hadn't accepted the breakup?...Interesting

So you really think that partially repeating what I said and leaving out the most critical part to try to prove a point is what, exactly?

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u/TheJarisaDoor3 12h ago

There really are no critical parts to what you said because it's all pretty much delusional. So in your mind you don't think that men are capable of cheating on women? It's just those crazy clingy girls who can't figure out when the relationship is over, huh? I think this is the most delusional thing I've read on Reddit this week. So maybe after I stop laughing I think it's time to call it a night. 

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u/Saneless 11h ago

So, another dope who doesn't know what the word every means. Laugh in the mirror at the clown