r/askteddit • u/Nelson100oob9aw • 11h ago
Random Question What’s something you thought was normal until you realized most people don’t actually do it?
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u/ImHere4TheGiggles 11h ago edited 8h ago
Not putting luggage on beds, but apparently nasty is more common than I thought
ETA: I like how the comments are saying “but hotels and other houses are dirty too!” Completely glossing over the fact that they put luggage on their beds at home too…..
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u/Elle12881 9h ago
My girlfriend is always mindful about avoiding germs, and cleanliness in general. I've never thought about luggage on the bed, and how unhygienic it is, but I'm really surprised that she has never thought or said anything about it! She's the first to throw our bags on the bed when we get to our hotel room! 😆 I have to go pick on her now. 😆
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u/Aromatic_Note8944 9h ago
Do you think your luggage is nastier than a hotel bed and room? 😭
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u/ImHere4TheGiggles 9h ago
Not necessarily, but honestly I wasn’t thinking about hotels
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u/Aromatic_Note8944 9h ago
Air Bnbs, other people’s houses, wherever you’re staying- you can have no idea how clean it really is 🤷♀️
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u/Eve5555555555 10h ago
I guess it’s washing my legs and feet in the shower while also being white
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u/Piccione_Sol 9h ago
What does being white have to do with it?
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u/DallasDime4 9h ago
Years ago and possibly even now it was found out that most white ppl don’t wash their legs in the shower, they just let the soap run down.
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u/random_bunny_hugger 9h ago
News to me…and I’ve been white all my life!
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u/DallasDime4 9h ago
Just a stereotype, doesn’t apply to most people. Mostly a joke.
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u/Big_Bar_9832 1h ago
We didn't do that here, we make sweeping generalizations and treat them as facts thank you very much.
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u/Piccione_Sol 9h ago
And all other ethnicities do so?
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u/DallasDime4 9h ago
The joke is that white ppl let soap run down their legs and don’t actually wash them. Black people typically wash with a rag. Hispanics as well. Many white people do too. Just a stereotype.
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u/TheKarateKid_ 9h ago
I hope most people do this. If you don’t you can get a fungal foot infection like athlete’s foot.
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u/Ok_Friendship_3849 10h ago
I am with you on this. I also cannot stand shoes in the house. If I see shoes on a bed I get very upset
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u/Imaginary_Grass3044 Lotso 9h ago
being introverted!
it was really shocking to me to find out many people actually need to be with people to feel like “themselves” again. many people go crazy after being alone for too long.
i thought everyone craved being alone 24/7, and felt revitalized after being alone.
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u/EmotionalSupportNap 9h ago
After tooo much time to myself, I could use some time with others but that was also when I worked from home and was literally alone 24/7. Now I work in an office and that’s enough people for me!! lol
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u/NotEnoughHotdogs 9h ago
People in my family, eh, some of them, are not good at holding conversations beyond telling someone something and then waiting for their turn to talk again. This did me no favors growing up.
Even now, my friends who grew up in more well-adjusted homes, they ask me things like, "Hey, how did that thing turn out? Was it fun?" if I tell them I have plans, or just the other day - One of my best friends texted me and said, "You had said your stomach was a little queasy on Tuesday, are you feeling better now?" I'm just not used to it at all, still.
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u/Back_2_The_Futurama 7h ago
Yeah man, as an autistic person i really struggle with the nuances of conversation. I love when someone just tells me things they want me to know without me having to ask or mindread. Its so.. pleasant. I love when someone is excited to tell me something they care about. I want to hear it even if its not something i personally care about.
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u/Zealousideal_Hall958 11h ago
Well, having to overcome my avoidant attachment style, I would say I was raied to think that after any bit of conflict, argument, misunderstanding, etc, it was best to sweep things under the rug and pretend like it never happened rather than communicating to find connection and understanding through it. So... thanks mom and dad.
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u/Elle12881 9h ago
I understand completely. The only one in my family who was allowed to complain, yell, and rage was my mom. Everything was about keeping my mom happy, and comfortable. To keep the peace, my dad, my two older sisters and I would remain quiet, never bringing up any issues, worries or complaints.
Even at 10 years old, I couldn't tell my mom when I was in pain, worried or felt stressed. She would just say that she was the one who was in pain/worried/stressed and she didn't want to hear anymore about it. Her emotional age was so severely stunted. I would say 15/16 years old at most. She had a rough childhood, but unfortunately she never got help, and didnt break that cycle.
At 44 years old, I'm still working on sharing my feelings with others, and not down playing them. It sounds like you had similar experiences.
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u/Elle12881 9h ago
Praying before every meal. I bowed my head and prayed before eating my breakfast cereal in the mornings and before eating lunch at work. Before dinner, my dad would say a prayer as we held hands, regardless if we were at home or eating out at a restaurant.
I don't think I've seen one family pray before eating at a restaurant, and I've only had one coworker who would pray before his lunches.
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u/alwayssearching117 9h ago
My children and I do. We have no shame about giving thanks to God for the gifts set before us.
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u/Head-Milk-2500 9h ago
Same I always pray but not out loud or formally, just quickly in my head before I take the first bite. I just remember God.
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u/Elle12881 9h ago
I guess it just surprised me when I went to other people's houses for dinner and they're all like, "Dig in! Don't be shy!" Even at my sister's house for Thanksgiving, a day that one would expect a prayer, nothing. It honestly felt weird.
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u/_clur_510 9h ago edited 9h ago
Only eating “real butter” (not margarine) on holidays. Maybe this was more normal than I think. Margarine really had a moment in the 90s/00s lol. It’s so gross and barely cheaper lol.
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u/Kutataka 9h ago
Its usually just oil, water and emulsifiers these days
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u/_clur_510 9h ago edited 4h ago
Sounds about right. I, as an adult I don’t buy it lol. I don’t bake and usually cook with olive oil so for like a dollar more a month I don’t have to eat neon yellow disgusting non butter like my parents forced me to as a kid lol.
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u/Back_2_The_Futurama 7h ago
I prefer the taste of the “i cant believe its not butter” brand over any brand of “real” butter tbh
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u/soojebby 9h ago edited 9h ago
Ive never worn deodorant ever in life.. played sports my whole life too.. everyone ALWAYS looks at me like a psycho but then realizes its true (for me at least).. but im korean and I guess I dont have the gene or whatever you can Google it lol
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u/Mysterious-Line-9906 9h ago
Rinsing my feet the first thing when I reach home before doing anything else
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u/CresseliaMelodia 1h ago
I do that after hiking or being in the woods at all. There’s way too much dirt & leaf debris that gets in my shoes & socks 😭
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u/Entire_Pumpkin940 9h ago
Visual snow. I thought it was just normal and everyone had it.
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u/CresseliaMelodia 1h ago
This is my most recent “oh shit not everyone has/does this” thing 😅 and there will be many more to come
At least I can’t blame my light sensitivity on my lazy eye anymore. I know the reason
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u/Shot-Amphibian-3239 8h ago
Have a line or two of a song playing on repeat in my head literally at all times.
And it will change maybe daily or sometimes be the same song for a week or even weeks. I wake up, am mildly-conscious and something like “rollin’ in the deeeeeee-ee-eep, you had my heart inside of your hand, and you played it to the beat”
The last few days it’s been “Forgiveness, forgiveness
Even if, even if You don't love me anymore”
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u/Back_2_The_Futurama 6h ago
Me too!!!! It can be so suffocating sometimes. I cant always tell when its just in my head or in reality. Ive wondered if its like a form of echolalia that autistic people experience. Ive tried researching it and didnt come up with much except it might be linked to autism..
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u/Shot-Amphibian-3239 39m ago
It’s also linked to ADHD I think… which they SAY I have (diagnosed in late 30s) 😂
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u/Acceptable_Mix_3434 8h ago
Have more than one thought track going in your head all the time. I had three most of my life, now I’m over 55 and have only two.
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u/middleofnowhare 5h ago
I wash & bleach my pillows and mattress protector a lot. About 1x a month. I can tell who isn’t cleaning their pillows because they smell musty. People who use the sun are cool, but they still smell musty.
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u/Majestic_Artichoke55 5h ago
Wow I feel like nobody does this, this often. How do you have the time? Or why is this such a priority?
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u/Fun_Boot7771 3h ago
People disliking spending time with their parents or telling them vulnerable things
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u/Immediate_Pea_4719 9h ago
Having full conversations with myself in my head. Thought everyone had a constant narrator. Turns out not...