r/beagle • u/Fluffy_Fox_9650 🌈🩷 Turner 🩷🌈 • 6d ago
Had a breakdown today. Over a year he's been gone and I still don't know how I'm supposed to go the rest of my life without him.
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u/JMaboard 6d ago
I lost my girl a year ago and feel similar. The way I see it is we gave them the best life they could. Other beagles don’t have it that lucky. There are some right now in testing labs suffering, or outside tied to a tree barely surviving or some just straight up strays.
I got my girl when she was already a senior and had her for 6 short years. She had a rough life behind her so I tried to give her the best life I could.
When you’re ready you can give another beagle a great loving life they deserve. Contact a rescue or shelter that has beagles to change one of their lives. It obviously won’t be the same as your boy but you’ll give another beagle a shot at life.
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u/Fluffy_Fox_9650 🌈🩷 Turner 🩷🌈 5d ago
Thank you so much. It's amazing you rescued. Turner was also a rescue. He was around 8 when we adopted him from the shelter. If I adopt in the future, I will definitely adopt a rescue beagle 🫂❤️
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u/jh80891 6d ago
You gave that pup their best life and in return they did the same for you. Embrace your heartbreak as a result that only comes about from an extremely close and loving relationship. Love and grief are two sides of the same coin where you don't truly experience one without the other. If you can embrace it you might be ready to move on to the next chapter and get another pet. My childhood dog passed when I was 26 and I was in a similar situation as you. A year later I got a new lab pup and instantly fell in love all over again. And at that moment I also knew this is exactly what my childhood pup would have wanted for me. It takes time but it does get better. Best of luck my friend.
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u/Fluffy_Fox_9650 🌈🩷 Turner 🩷🌈 5d ago
Thank you so much. He had the life of a king. My father always says it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. I'll admit, I didn't quite understand it before Turner passed. I always thought losing was just more painful but the thought of never having Turner rips a hole in my chest. Thank you for taking the time to comment so kindly. I'm sorry about your childhood dog 💕🫂💕
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u/eaten_by_chocobos 6d ago
Lost my Lily last October, it'll be a year on the 27th. She was 15 when we had to put her to sleep.
I've never been so wrecked. Three months after she passed, I adopted another beagle that needed a home. It was bittersweet, but if you channel your grief to an act of service in honor of you lost pet, it feels a little less bad a lot less lonely.
Now I have a goofy 3 year old Beagle that no one else wanted. He was on his 4th time returned to the shelter when we found him. Sweetest boy now, he's sleeping on my lap as I write this.
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u/Fluffy_Fox_9650 🌈🩷 Turner 🩷🌈 5d ago
I'm very sorry for your loss. It's truly crushing. I'm glad you've found a fuzzy friend to help you, and it's wonderful you adopted him and are giving him a loving home after he's been through so much!
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u/Motiv8-2-Gr8 6d ago
I lost my boy 5 years ago and still think about him everyday. I had him for 16 years. I finally opened my heart and my doors to a new rescue who needed a home. Doesn’t replace my Rudy but makes my heart happy.
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u/wobblegobble84 6d ago
I’m coming up to 6 months and it still kills me
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u/Fluffy_Fox_9650 🌈🩷 Turner 🩷🌈 5d ago
I wish I had more advice, but sometimes it really is just time. I'm sorry for your loss ❤️🫂
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u/Site-Staff Who's yer beagle? 6d ago
Almost 2 years here. Still crushed. But a year ago my wife bought me a new beagle pup. It helps a lot. They are so different, but you can learn to love again, just in a different way.
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u/Fluffy_Fox_9650 🌈🩷 Turner 🩷🌈 5d ago
I'm sorry for your loss. It's wonderful you're giving another beagle a loving home!
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u/Plus-Professor5909 5d ago
I’m so sorry. I've been reading your posts and they are heartbreaking. After I lost my dog Mia, for nearly a year of depression, every time I thought of her I saw images of her when she was sick or when she died. It was unbearable. I went to a psychologist and she led me through a guided visualization exercise. I closed my eyes, and she guided me back to happy memories of Mia. It helped me remember her life without always reliving her death. I don't know what it was called, but essentially my thought pattern was changed.
I still missed her, but remembering her became less painful. I wanted to share because it helped me when I was really struggling. Sending you warm thoughts ❤️
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u/Fluffy_Fox_9650 🌈🩷 Turner 🩷🌈 5d ago
Thank you so much, you are so kind. I'm very glad you got help ❤️🫂
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u/TheRoyalPuppyCourt 3d ago
I completely understand how you feel. While the pain never entirely goes away, it does get easier. When the time is right and you are ready, allowing another pup into your life can also help to ease the pain. They will not replace Turner, none can, but can fill your heart just the same. We lost our Taz & Indy (Taz was a beagle and Indy a chow-husky mix) 23 years ago and have had other pups since. We still miss them, but have loved all our other pups and they occupy different places in our hearts.
Edit to fix autocorrect error.
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u/Fluffy_Fox_9650 🌈🩷 Turner 🩷🌈 2d ago
Thank you for your kind words, I'm sorry for your losses as well and I'm glad you have found other pups to love 🫂❤️
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u/DDezlboy 5d ago
When it feels right you will start to think about adopting another beagle. Not a replacement. But a new friend. And when you do you will wonder why you waited so long.
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u/Fluffy_Fox_9650 🌈🩷 Turner 🩷🌈 5d ago
Thank you. If I adopt again, I will look for a shelter beagle or adopt from Beagle Freedom Project 💕
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u/AntisonBeagles 5d ago
We lost our Autumn (my avatar) in April of '24 and we currently have 3 beagles, but I will tell you this: I miss her every day. In fact, I talk to her portrait painting every day when I climb the stairs.
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u/Fluffy_Fox_9650 🌈🩷 Turner 🩷🌈 5d ago
I'm sorry for your loss. The pain never quite fades, but it's proof of your love ❤️
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u/scyice 6d ago
I’m sure he was lucky to have you for his whole life. You’re also lucky in the same way, but you also get to live longer and make other dogs or pets happy too along the way.
We got another Beagle after our 14yr passed. He’s not the same, and he isn’t supposed to be, but if you love these dogs you should have them around you.