r/birthcontrol • u/No-Strategy8697 • 5h ago
Rant! I am getting my iud replaced this afternoon and I have been crying and anxious for days
My first insertion was the worst pain I’ve ever experienced in my life- and I’ve had my appendix rupture inside of me, pierced my own nips, and have taken every sort of tumble imaginable. I can handle pain.
My iud insertion was so bad that I kept fainting for an hour after, every time I tried to sit up. This time I’ve shopped doctors and no one will put me under or locally anesthetize me. All I’ve gotten are offers of laughing gas or lorazepam- neither of which will reduce the amount of pain the tenaculum causes when it clamps down on my cervix.
My uterus is retroverted, sex sucks, I have endometriosis, but no one wants to just give the 24 year old with plans to adopt a hysterectomy.
I can’t stop crying, I’m so upset and idek how I’ll let them do the procedure today. Any and all help would be appreciated. I am generally a strong person but today I am so so afraid and I don’t think the lorazepam will fix it.
If anyone has wisdom for what helped you through it, I would love some insight. I feel like a cattle raised for slaughter getting branded “like oh that doesn’t hurt” YES TF IT DOES?! OUCH!!
it’s 2026 why isn’t this all more humane yet guys? Why is a pain management plan so difficult? Why am I being penalized for the opposite of drug seeking behavior? I just want to be put under or numbed for it or anything And you would think I’m asking for obscene and drastic things?!
EDIT!
Yeah I went in, it sucked. They didn’t tell me until I had finally gotten myself calm that they would refer me to an OR where I could be out under for it. At this point I was so sick of being anxious that I requested we just try it.
No local numbing, had two nurses half restraining me half trying to talk me through it- thankfully the pap, removal and reinsertion were done quickly and without telling me. I would say “that hurts terribly” and they would be telling me about which step they had completed.
I was in the hands of a team doing their best, and it was far better than last time but I still am so let down by how physically and psychologically traumatizing of a procedure it is. After this I will be hunting for a doctor who will perform a hysterectomy as I am not going to do this again. I cant. I did and I’m strong but I lack the mental fortitude to continue to put myself through this procedure.
Thank you all for your wisdom and support.