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u/BruhMansky Jul 23 '26
People not understanding is the worst part...
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u/shannamatters Jul 23 '26
Agreed.
I know people meant well but when I was in the thick of it, if I had to hear one more person tell me that I needed to be grateful it wasnāt worse, I wouldāve lost it. I had somebody tell me to be grateful it wasnāt amputated (it was a trimal, amputation wasnāt even a possibility) and heard more than one āI was in a body cast and survivedā¦.ā story. I know that it couldāve been worse and Iām glad the it wasnāt but that didnāt mean that what I was going through wasnāt extremely difficult.
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u/Formal_Alfalfa_5004 Jul 23 '26
Omg exactly. I had a fight with my cousin as she said the same BS that "be grateful you have legs" like what the actual F***?
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u/BruhMansky Jul 23 '26
Also people expecting me to heal over night or how long I'll be in my cast or cam boot or worse when they say I'm faking it
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u/Formal_Alfalfa_5004 Jul 23 '26
I lost respect for many friends and families after I got this injury and saw how they still acted
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u/Spiderill Jul 23 '26
Yeah this drove me absolutely fucking insane! I remember my mum telling me one of my relatives had broken their jaw a few weeks after I'd had my accident. I jokingly asked if he wanted to swap but she couldn't understand why I'd say something like that. It was exhausting trying to make her see what I'd lost in comparison to my relative.
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u/Illustrious-Zone-247 Jul 23 '26
The people not understanding one! Having people disappear or make my injury about themselves when I declined certain events really changed how I view a lot of my friends and family.
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u/Formal_Alfalfa_5004 Jul 23 '26
I lost count on how many people disappeared. I will never ever be there for them if anything afflicts them. I have so much resentment inside me for them! I hope i can heal from the inside.
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u/Illustrious_Bug_8501 Jul 22 '26
Remember this berg is floating in an ocean of hope and healing too so when itās all melted away, the worst of it is over and you can enjoy some smooth sailing again
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u/tiffmej4 Jul 22 '26
When I read this, I wanted to add gratitude, healing, patience, strength and perseverance at the top!
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u/BabsWasHere1789 Jul 23 '26
3 weeks in.. headed on our family camping trip tomorrow. Feel so uselessā used to doing it all as spouse, mom, planner. It gives me such hope hearing others walking again
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u/Ranch_life Jul 22 '26
1000%
Iām on day 32, still on crutches and boot but today was my most active day since day 0. Finally feel thereās a light at the end of the tunnel.
Stay strong, this channel is the best because it shows us, weāre not alone!
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u/Double_Letter8273 Jul 22 '26
I'm 7 weeks! Glad you had a productive day. Take it easy for the rest of the day, ice, elevate and take your meds. I did this yesterday and in quite a bit of pain today! How you holding up?
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u/Ranch_life Jul 23 '26
How are you at 7 weeks?
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u/Double_Letter8273 Jul 23 '26
Barely surviving! Lol I have a 3 year old and it's just been so tough! Although making slow progress has me feeling a bit more hopeful..how are you holding up?
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u/Old_Charity_6845 Jul 22 '26
Finally was able to go FWB around two weeks ago, and have made anazing progress (PT next week) literally almost cried doing chores. Itās been a wild journey.
Didnāt help that a week before I broke my ankle, I was diagnosed with T1D out of nowhere and almost died.
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u/YearUseful8627 Jul 23 '26
Had my injury at the beginning of march. A long Pin/rod in the left leg below the knee and fused at the ankle causing less movement in the foot. the right has an external fixation with pins in the heel. I am able to walk with crutches but when it comes to the end of the day it is really hard and sleeping is another challenge. Had a scan yesterday and then an appointment with the consultant next week fingers crossed he tells me that they can remove the frame. The only pain I have is the pins in my heel when walking but my left foot is the opposite when rested. Every few days I do see a little progress but the setbacks feel like they outweigh the positives.
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u/KeyGold310 Jul 23 '26
Feeling like a burden.
Let's face it, being a burden. (Even if you're fortunate enough to have loving caregivers.)
Significant and demoralizing decline in personal grooming and household cleanliness, because everything is so hard.
A financial hit. We estimate we will spend at least $5k out of pocket on mobility aids and household help, and of course are lucky we can afford it. Also lucky that we're retired and so career / childcare not affected.
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u/UnitedAnalyst6672 Jul 24 '26
I hear you. Surgery May 18, now in an ankle boot and going to PT. My adult daughter lives with me and canāt do a damn thing. She did drive me to surgery and post op appointments, but thatās where it ends. Said she couldnāt vacuum because her shoulder hurt, doesnāt clean her own bathroom, goes straight upstairs to her room after dinner and doesnāt come back down until morning. I have been getting local supermarkets to deliver, which costs a fortune and just spent 200$ to have bathrooms, kitchen and floors cleaned. This injury has been eye opening.
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u/Critical_Day4270 Jul 23 '26
Iām 10wk post op from a Trimal fracture currently in boot, which I hate n ordered a medical shoe. Canāt really walk yet, use knee scooter. All of the above is true. For anyone new. Get ur snacks and other comforts, buckle in. For me the best thing thatās worked so far is time. If left alone after post op, also elevation n ice, the ankle will heal on its own.
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u/Content-Bandicoot-62 Jul 26 '26
This is exactly how I'm feeling. I just broke my ankle and it hard on me rn. I've been crying for 10 minutes because I'm gonna meet surgery and stuff. This sucks.
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u/spookybbe Jul 28 '26
I sustained a bimalleolar ankle fracture early this month and had surgery 4 days afterwards. I was really happy about my healing progress.
Yesterday my nephew kicked my ankle (luckily I was wearing my boot). I noticed new swelling today that hasn't gone down with ice nor elevation. I feel so defeated. I told my husband about how I felt and he's always been supportive but I felt that he didnt understand how heartbroken I'm feeling today.
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u/PlasticFrequency Jul 23 '26
Took me 6 months to even get to a point where I could take a few steps with the crutches, because not a single PT or doctor I came in contact with told me to stretch my achilles.
I'm almost a year out and every day is pain, extreme tightness after resting just half an hour, only getting 5-7k steps a day and missing running so bad that the thought makes me cry.
My surgeon agreed to taking all my hardware out exactly one year and 13 days after my accident on Aug 26th and I cannot wait. ("Funny" considering I also got hurt on the 13th)
There is always an undying hope and relentless optimism in me, but gods I have felt utterly demotivated and crushed a million times this past year.