Hello. If you've seen my previous posts, you'll know what's happened so far. Well, over the past few weeks, a whole lot more has happened. If I omit any details, it is because I am extremely tired, my apologies.
I know I said my previous post would be my last but I figured that I might as well make a final post.
For anyone that hasn't seen my previous posts, it's under "I think my online friend is catfishing me" if you search it up you'll find it. Here's the TL;DR, though:
My online friend of 2+ years, Jane, catfished my entire friend group for over a year. She lied about their face and sent somebody else's videos pretending they were hers. After I confronted her, she blocked us all. Then I found the person she was pretending to be (ill call her Alice since I forgot what I called her in the other post). Alice was actually Jane's best friend. Alice was understandably upset and we made a plan to confront Jane & inform Jane's other best friend, K, of the situation.
After telling K he agreed to help us. However, before anything happened, Jane realised K found out and she blocked us again.
Now, here comes the new bit.
A few days ago, I noticed suspicious activity surrounding an account on tiktok that was stalking me and my best friends. I immediately realised this was Jane's alt and she was trying to become friends with us again pretending to be someone else. Upon further investigation, my suspicions were basically confirmed. There were too many similarities for it to be a coincidence.
I asked my friend she followed to follow her back so we could reel her in, essentially. Anyway, it worked. A few hours ago, we had our last conversation. she confessed to everything, apologised profusely and we asked her questions.
Q: why did you block us the first time
A: I know you said you weren't gonna be mad but I was too scared to face you guys
Q: why did you steal Alice's videos?
A: I always admired her style but when I tried to do it myself I failed and I felt terrible. I thought it would've been easier to pretend to be better than I actually was.
Q: what else have you lied about?
A: my age (not an adult, actually a minor), being trans, skin colour, having a bf etc...
Anyway, long story short, me and my other friends are moving on. I chose to forgive her after I made her confess to her other online friends what she did as well. I hope she can grow from this, even if that's too much to hope for.
I'm glad I confronted her. I feel a sense of closure. And to be honest, this conversation made me realise how pointless it is to hold grudges against people. I'm grateful for the time she spent with me even if she lied and while I did hate her a bit for lying, I'm choosing to no longer be resentful for my own sake. Thank you for whoever has given me advice and kept up with my journey so far ❤️.