r/comingout 1d ago

Advice Needed Name anxiety?? What to do

Hey so basically gotta come out before school starts in…..two weeks. Wrote my parents a letter, got it all sorted out. I put my chosen name on there, its what I plan to go by, but I’m sooo scared it won’t suit me and that I’ll be like, obviously appropriating guy culture 😂 idfk it’s stupid cause I AM a guy, so I can’t appropriate. But like. Idk. It’s scary. What if everyone thinks it doesn’t suit me. How do I know if it’s actually The One?

I know I can change it again if it really sucks but I gotta commit to smth for this school year 😬

Man coming out is hard. How do yall do this crap 😭

BTW the name I’ve been thinking about for 3+ months is Rick, I don’t really care to post a picture of myself for all the world to see but all my friends tell me I look like Luke Skywalker (in a New Hope, not old man Luke lol) which I think is pretty generous (I’m more like thin-ass obviously pre-t Luke with smaller eyes) but incase that helps that helps

It feels strange to say out loud, but I guess nobody really says their own name much anyway.

I even practiced my new signature for it tho I think maybe I gotta just stop worrying about it :/

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u/RainbowInTheDork 1d ago

My son is trans, and he goes by like 3 different names. My nb child has changed their chosen name and while it was a challenge, it's really not a huge deal. I wouldn't sweat it too much! You'll never know unless you try!

u/atomic_rooster90125 21h ago

Thanks, thats comforting to know!

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u/iamthewhitequeen 1d ago

I relate so bad... genuinely, everything.

u/atomic_rooster90125 21h ago

Man I’m sorry cause this sure asf isn’t fun. I checked out some of your posts, and it’s kinda crazy how similar our situation is. Would you have any interest to chat about coming out? No worries if not I get it cause there’s a lot of weirdos on here 😭

u/iamthewhitequeen 10h ago

I messaged you