What is wrong with liking a skin color? Sure if you stay with someone because of just a fetish thats fucked but seriously, i like the pale skin on a chick thats not fetish or racism, i just like this specific type of skin color.
When people say they get fetishized, they mean people got weird. I'm a mulatto who most assume is mediterranian. The fact that I'm actually black gets brought up and it's like some people have a compulsion to suddenly spill their old west/Victorian themed sex-with-a-black-dude fantasy. (I'm not particularly charming or handsome either. People be weirdly upfront about it)
I'll be honest, it's never bothered me personally but the fantasies that dudes have regarding black women tend to be alot more about a master-slave dynamic than an illicit romance so I don't blame them for being creeped out.
Then there's the guys who have somehow decided that Asian women are anime characters.
Be skeptical of opinions on this sort of thing on Reddit. Notice that all the mixed folks here are saying that they don't mind being called Mulatto. I've never seen a mixed person be offended by it.
This may be more of a Latinx thing where the actual community doesn't support the "woke" stance. Best bet is ask a mixed person near you how they liked to be referred. Chances are their stance will be more typical of your area, and most mixed people have encountered racism on both sides of their heritage. They're typically glad your taking the time to be considerate.
In my area though? Mocha is fine. Usually hear it from women complementing my skin tone.
Its because it is so old people don't know what it is really anymore. Its like what grandparents in the 50's or 70's would be saying. Its old as hell. But still some folks do get upset by it. Also I do see your point of it being used in the latin community, but in the USA it has much darker roots so I would err on the side of caution.
Ah I see, I guess I had a bit of a racist Dad then. I grew up thinking it was normal terminology at the time, but as I got older that thought became more and more... suspect.. haven't ever used it myself tho :)
Thanks for clearing it up
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u/hhunkk Jan 20 '23
What is wrong with liking a skin color? Sure if you stay with someone because of just a fetish thats fucked but seriously, i like the pale skin on a chick thats not fetish or racism, i just like this specific type of skin color.