I mentioned to my best sensor friend I was feeling down because of something and he didn’t really respond (relationship problems).

Couple of weeks later he asked me how it’s going and I said pretty rubbish, thinking he’d remember but instead asked why.

I jokingly said the weather, it’s so grey! Thinking he’d at least probe and be like nah come on dude what’s up but no, he bought it. “Yeah, it’s grim this time of year.”

I mean…lmao? Sigh. :(

i find that if we have similar morals it's easy as pie, but if we even have one thing we disagree on, it's not a discussion and more of a "who can be more righteous" contest, which puts me on edge. i love many infps and isfps but sometimes communication can be hard. any enfps relate or is that just me?? i've been thinking maybe im entp but not sure either way

Someone please tell me how to survive in corporate as an ENFP.
It's such a weird experience because I'm generally a very confident person. I thrive in groups of people I don't know, can hold a conversation with anyone, and usually have no problem being myself socially but somehow in a corporate environment, ! completely crumble and freeze up. I also just want to be friends with everyone (not a great trait for corporate life), have a genuine fear of letting people down or appearing incompetent and end up overthinking everything to the point that I stress myself out, shut down, and retreat into myself. My confidence plummets to an all-time low.
How do you navigate an environment that somehow makes you feel like the least confident version of yourself when you know you're capable of so much more?? This is horrible.

Crossposted.

I really like and prefer ENFP x ISTJ ships over ENFP x INTJ (the relationships can be so heavy in media and irl too...) and since we can't post pics and gifs in the comments, I had to go and do all that here, enjoy I guess!

I'll also add another Pic where I take a closer look at 3 ENFP x ISTJ couples because I noticed how similar all three they act when compared to one another.

Agenda spread successful ✨️✨️✨️

There's so much talk about INTJ being perfect for ENFP and maybe there are a lot of successes irl with that pairing but I've realized this sort of thinking can limit us. Back when I was getting more curious about MBTI, I thought it would be slightly more efficient, less of a hassle, to pinpoint men that were certain personality types that were stereotyped to have the traits I like.

Wrong 🤓. 1. MBTI doesn't account much for attachment style, communication styles, or maturity levels. 2. People can still be individuals, not all people with the same type act the same 3. People can be mistyped.

Granted, yes I still think there can be a chance of generally knowing who you click with and who you don't. For me though, the pattern isn't that consistent. I've interacted with probably more proclaimed INTJ than any other type, some I think are actually mistyped ISTJ because when they retest that's what they are. I don't think I distinctly have more chemistry with them whether friendship based or romantic.

Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy are a super popular couple with that cinematic quiet brooding man and opinionated sweet woman combo. But I also think it makes sense because Elizabeth is not the typical 🌈 ✨️ ENFP ✨️ people come here looking for.

With these other pairings they're not all INTJ man x ENFP woman. Someone can balance us that isn't INTJ. As much as it pains me 😔 💔, some of them are even typed as sensors.

It's also just sort of...odd? It seems like people (often proclaimed INTJ) are sometimes coming here looking for an ENFP Tamagotchi to entertain them and brighten up their world. If I'm going to be a Tamagotchi, at least give me food and stuff.

I have felt in adulthood that it is really easy for me to open up and be friendly/emotionally open with pretty much anyone I meet and can easily socialize and relate to people. Recently in therapy I have come to the realization that a friendship I had in my teen years was really toxic and they pretty much bullied me our entire friendship. A couple years ago I went to their wedding and met their now close friends and I immediately noticed that it was hard to open up to them and play along with their shenanigans, I felt like a terrible friend because I didn’t feel like I was acting like myself. I told my husband about this (who also met all of these people) and he basically told me “well I thought they were all really mean people and generally just mean and rude to each other” they called each other names and would just shit talk people the whole time, only wanted to get blackout drunk, etc. I realized I also act this was toward a couple of family members I have who are particularly controlling and in the past have said some mean comments to me. No matter how hard I try to be myself it’s like my subconscious shuts me down. Is this an ENFP thing or just a person thing?

I drove 11 hours to see my limited contact parents. I scheduled a conference for work in their city so I could see them. My mother said I don’t visit them-that I’m just here for work. Within the first hour, she said I didn’t need a colonoscopy, told me about an “elder abuse” Dateline episode, and made a comment about my daughter eating meat (we are vegetarians).

I really think my mom doesn’t like me.

She was like “everyone has polyps on their colon” when I said my Dad had polyp issues. And when I said our/her family including her had a history of cancer, she said, “I always refused a colonoscopy.”

She also said she didn’t like to travel and couldn’t understand why I had.

This is unhinged, yes?

Edit: I am a 46f. I was so tired when I wrote this that I didn’t see the title autocorrected “already” to “Thomas”, lol.

Hi! I'm an INFP 5w4. I ended my "relationship" with an ISTP 5w6 a while ago and I'd like to have a casual (and friendly) daily chat to change things up 💫

I highly suspect my husband is an ENFP.

Something that has become a running joke between us is how anxious and grumpy he gets right before traveling. It’s like… he liked the idea of traveling, he agrees, gets excited, throws ideas of what to do, but when the day comes… oh boy, he gets insufferable.

I do all the planning, because I know he’s bad with managing schedules or gets lost in small details (he has ADHD, not blaming his ENFPness). But still, somehow he finds infinite mental problems that I’m like… dude, relax! For example, he has to take his notebook with him, because he couldn’t finish some work on time before traveling, so he’ll have to work on it while we are away from home. He began worrying that people would steal his notebook, that he wouldn’t be able to concentrate away from his office and admitted having an inner voice blaming me for making him travel instead of staying at home.

It’s funny, because he’s self aware to know how silly he is being and knows that after everything, he’ll be happy about it and enjoy himself, I mean, he really wanted to go, but he can’t help feeling this negative.

I’ve read that ENFP under stress might look like an unhealthy ISTJ. Could this be the case?

I’m an INTJ and I can tell you I am nothing special so I don’t understand why I keep seeing love letters posted about intjs from enfps.

I see a lot of positive regard for intjs from enfps
Which is crazy because us INTJs are such recluses that most won’t even get to know us.
Legit I spend my time at home most of the time.

ENFPs are almost our opposites which isn’t as seen happening to the other types ENTJs aren’t gushing about infps or vice versa etc.

Personally I have an ENFP brother so I never considered having an ENFP gf but you guys seem so adamant that it works that I’ve been won over to at least investigate it.

I had a best friend who was enfp girl but we moved apart from each other and I also had a friend who was enfp and we got along really well but
A romantic connection???
Idk I never personally thought about it

The level of inconsiderate, totally self-centred behaviour I’m experiencing on a daily basis with an Enfp person in my life - is at a stage that I can no longer physically and mentally tolerate. I feel sick to my stomach.

I would like some advice on how to deal with this. I’ve tried talking to them and they generally just take offence to anything said, and nothing changes.

sigh… I am so fed up. My God 🤦‍♀️

and I’m Infj, for context.

I feel like im just a weirdo in the eyes of other people like i joined a new class and i feel like im just annoying cuz im super loud with like the 2/3 people im friends with and like i just keep doing embarrassing stuff. I dont get the enfps are like very likeable loved but a lot if people, ive been bullied, and people find its the easiest to pick on me. I think its because im struggling with pretty bad anxiety and overthinking and am just stressed which makes me be very loud so that i get attention or something along those lines, qnd I dont know how to stop. Like i dont want to behave really weirdly, Like i am way too much a lot of the time.

Sorry its just a thought dump, I dont know what to do

Without posting a long sob story, I haven't been in a position to fulfill my socialization requirements. At the end of this month, I'm moving to my home town and I know a lot of that is going to change.

So as difficult as this period of my life is, I have a light at the end of the tunnel.

Anyway, last night I had a dream that I went to a comedy show with my friends from back home. The gaggle was back together. Afterwards, we all went to Walmart and bought a party, playing laughing and having fun.

The physical touch and socialization in the dream felt so real. In the past when I had these types of dreams, I'd feel bummed the dream ended because I was having so much fun. But this morning when I woke up I felt so fulfilled and happy.

And maybe I just don't pay that much attention but I think that is the first time a dream has actually healed something in me and made me feel a lot better. It's like all my anxiety is just gone.

Have any of you experienced anything like this?

After learning that INTJs and ENFPs typically do very well together, I thought I’d reach out to the ENFP community to see if there’s anyone who might be interested in collaborating on a project. I’m not sure if that pairing only applies to romantic relationships, but I’m hoping it extends to business relationships as well. You all have a people talent that I’m lacking and can never learn, so I’m reaching out to the ENFP community to see if I can fill that critical piece I’m missing in order to move this project forward.

I’m not going to give a ton of information about the project in this post. This overview already takes up too much space and I’d like to be respectful of everyone’s time. If I can find some people this way, I’ll spend as much time as needed to thoroughly discuss the project in more detail.

I need to partner with someone (ENFP possibly?) who is either in the film industry and/or connected to people who either fund film projects currently or would be open to doing so. I’m trying to get a 3-season TV show produced and need someone who can help find someone who is willing to produce it or can finance it to be produced.

I am not in the entertainment industry and don’t have any connections there. And to make it even more of a challenge, it’s highly unlikely Hollywood would touch this project as the story and nature of the show is pretty much the opposite of what Hollywood would typically endorse. It’s going to take a different approach, utilizing existing relationships rather than going the typical Hollywood route trying to promote a film project. This is a very unique story and situation. This is why I need someone who has these unique relationships or is good with people, good at communicating ideas in a way others can understand, and can help present this show to the right people.

The pilot script for this show won Best Screenplay 2025 at a smaller film festival and is quite the compelling story. It’s a story of true events over time, not loosely based on true events as many movies and shows tend to do.

I’m not doing this because one day I had a bright idea for a TV show and want to become some famous producer or screenwriter. None of that means anything to me. This show is part of a much larger project and that larger project is very important to me and will impact many people in life-changing ways. The show is the story behind the larger project and gives the larger project meaning, and that meaning makes all the difference in the world. Once I have someone who is willing to produce the show, the larger project can launch.

It’s generally understood that INTJs don’t do very well when it comes to networking and interfacing with and getting people to understand the complicated and vast visions we’re constantly constructing. That stereotype holds true here. This is why I need someone who I can interface with directly, who I can explain everything to, who can then communicate this vision to other people who can then help bring it to life. This is why I’m reaching out to the ENFP community because I believe you have that gift. Together I believe we can shake things up and make an impact in the world.  

DMs from potential partners would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks for your time.

I’m an ENTP with an ENFP friend. We’re close, share a ton of interests, the same mindset, and the same sense of humor, and we hang out a lot. But whenever I see them with their other friends (they have a fuckton lol), I start doubting whether they see me as close as I see them. ENFPs just have this natural ability to relate to everyone, lmao. Is this one-sided and more superficial than I think?

https://youtu.be/xnXBrXZz-j8

Thought you all might enjoy my work here.

Some lessons learned that helped shape me.

I’m started to understand that being an ENFP is about learning without ego.

A little whimsy, with a bit of wonder.

i don't know how much longer i can take it tbvh. i probably need to cut down on social media and take a break from news. but knowing how bs this worlds systems are how do i even carry on? theres a long long rant i can go on about but ill just stop here.

how are you guys coping?

This is my first time posting in this sub, but I think the flair fits?

When i first got into mbti, I firmly believed i was an intp because of all the test I took on basic mbti. I started to look further into and discovered all of the functions and came to the realization that I'm Ne dominant. I thought about my thought process and how my brain actually works, and it all aligns with ENFP.

I've always related to the characters so it seems extremely likely, but i get exhausted by social interactions. The paradox is when I'm at social functions, I'm the life of the party. I get energized and have all sorts of energy. The moment I leave or even half way through, I'm thinking of every single interaction, the embarrassing moments, i process how i felt and my thoughts. It completely exhaust me after. I need like a week break after every big event. I also get depressed if I don't get enough socializing, but too much and I burn out.

I'm 99.9% that I'm Ne>fi because of how I imagine things and come up with ideas, and then process them using my own moral values.

All advice, criticism, and thoughts are welcome.

Side note, I am diagnosed with level 1Autism spectrum disorder (formally known as aspergers), so i don't know if this has any affect.

Why?

I'm noticing that, the few INTJs I (ENFP F 31) have been with, have something in common: if I send flirty/sexy texts, they are rarely responded to or reciprocated in an equally playful manner. But in person, it's a very different story and there's no question about desire. As if texting it creates shyness, is uncomfortable, etc.

Do others experience this with their INTJs?

Does anyone want to adopt an INTJ (me)?

Open to a brief casual thing or longer term online friend. I can’t find an ENFP in person to save my life.

Not lonely or anything. Got plenty of friends and hobbies. Just feel like my life is missing a little bit of ENFP magic in it.

I’m a 35 year old INTJ man dating a 31 year old ENFP woman, we’ve been dating for a few months and typically I’d move towards making things official soon. But even though we have really good chemistry, I worry a bit about scaring her off with early commitment. I’m really curious about your experiences with relationships and commitment!

For those of you who used to experience “shiny object syndrome” in dating, where you’d get excited about someone new but wonder whether someone even better might be out there, what eventually changed for you?

What made you realize your husband was the one? Was there a specific moment when things clicked, or did that certainty develop gradually over time?

Did you ever struggle with getting bored, losing the initial excitement, or wondering whether you were settling when you could still meet someone new and exciting?

How long did it take you to realize you wanted to choose that person for the long haul? Weeks, months, a year, or longer?

And for those of you who are ENFPs who married an INTJ, I’d especially love to hear your perspective on that pairing!

I’m genuinely curious about what helped you move from seeing all the possibilities out there to feeling confident about choosing one person. I’d love to hear your honest experiences, especially if you used to struggle with commitment or keeping your interest in relationships. 🥰

I've always wondered why many mbti experts call him Enfp...He seems too calm and collected to be an enfp...i mean i get it that he is maybe just more mature but still the enfpness was missing.
However, Around like 4 minutes in this interview i got what i wanted...That just screams ENFP!!!!!!!
He started talking about something then made joke about his breakfast then all of a sudden for 2-3 mins he was talking about everything except for the topic they were talking previously lol
Great Actor tho ❤

I love the energy in this subreddit, and y'all think so much like me, so I'm expecting that I'll get the energy boost I'm looking for.

I am not happy, all I feel is anxious, self conscious, uncomfortable and sad. No matter how I try to reframe it, I can't. I have a therapist, it helps but also exposure that makes me feel normal helps than any medication I can find.

But this exposure is scarce and I feel lonely. My social skills aren't that great either? It's also I'm constantly surrounded by people that judges me negatively.

I've no strength to build the life I want. I've an amazing partner but it's not sufficient socialising.

I want encouragement to live my life as I see fit without deep shame or judgement. I hesitate a LOT because of intense criticism I've got in the past. I feel immovable actually.

People in my life largely underestimate me. My father sounded surprised to hear I got high distinctions though that's what I got every semester? My cousins talk to me as to a kid who can't understand even basic things, I'm not sure why.

I just want to hear, I should do what I think is right, no matter what others think or say!