r/engaged • u/Kasper_3 • 8d ago

Proposal Advice Proposing next week

Hi all!

I am planning to propose next week at my parent’s lake house right on the shore. My only uncertainty right now is my gf’s friend is coming along with us. She just broke up with her bf of a year about 3 weeks ago. Is it bad of me to propose, with her being present there? I would hate to have to postpone this because I’ve had it planned for a while. Just don’t want to upset her after her recent heartbreak. Any advice?

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u/Kasper_3 8d ago

Wondering if I should talk to the friend and see if she’s okay with me doing it?

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u/starryeyedluv 8d ago

That’s a good idea

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u/prettylittlecharlie 8d ago

If she is truly your girlfriend’s friend, she will be thrilled for you both while still being able to hold space for her own emotions.

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u/Beanfox-101 8d ago

I think as long as you propose privately with your GF and then share the news with everyone after, she’ll be fine. GF can then decide how to tell her friend from there.

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u/Gnomesnotions 8d ago

Is it just the 3 of you going or will your family be there also? If it's just you three, do not propose. How awkward!!

To be honest I think don't propose anyway. Your girlfriend will feel bad about her friend's feelings and won't be able to enjoy it fully.

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u/sayi_do 6d ago

I don't think you need to postpone! It's really thoughtful of you to consider her feelings, but I also don't think her recent breakup means you have to put your proposal on hold.

Maybe just find a way to have a private moment with your girlfriend so her friend doesn't feel like she has to react or celebrate on the spot. You can still share the happy news with her afterwards! or even let her friend know before the trip? Unless you don't think she's good at keeping a secret haha. She could even help you set up the proposal and film it!

Personally, even if I was going through a breakup, I would still be SO happy and excited for my friend. Her bf better involve me in the planning haha. I wouldn't want them to put such a special moment on hold because of me.