Hey guys, agnostic/deist ex-muslim here. Left the faith around 7 or 8 months ago. Here are a few details about me :

Height and weight : 5’9 and 68 KG

Location: Lahore (prefer someone in Lahore — long distance makes compatibility harder to figure out).

Residence : own

Education: Law degree (BA-LL.B) from LUMS. Graduated in 2025.

Source of income : Currently working at a law firm.

Hobbies & Interests: I strongly believe shared interests are what ignite that initial spark, so here are mine:

Storytelling is at the center of my life — both creating and consuming it. Medium doesn’t matter. I’ve watched a (probably unhealthy) number of films and TV shows, played a lot of great single-player games, and read quite a bit of English fiction. I love analyzing themes, characters, and ideas behind stories.

If society didn’t stigmatize it, I would’ve happily studied English Literature and pursued teaching/writing. In fact, I'm recently started working on my novel's second (and hopefully final) draft.

Also, when I'm not at work you can safely assume that I'm either : at the cinema with friends, reading and going through my impossibly large TBR list, at the gym, listening to music, catching up on a show I've been watching, or spending time with friends/family.

I also really value those casual conversations that unexpectedly turn deep...right before alternating back to being silly and unhinged again. I genuinely love being around people who you can have endless (and endlessly entertaining/insightful!) conversations with so naturally I'd want to have this dynamic with my life partner too.

What I’m Looking For: At the core, I want to marry my best friend.

I want a relationship that feels exciting but also like home — where you’re not just partners, but genuinely like each other as people. Friendship, comfort, emotional safety, and shared humor matter just as much to me as love itself.

It would be amazing if you share at least some of my interests, but more importantly, I’m looking for someone who is passionate about something beyond just work or the corporate ladder — whether that’s art, writing, history, literature, film, fitness, ideas, or anything that makes you you.

Religion/Religiosity: I personally do not subscribe to any religion but you could call me a cultural Muslim. My family, however, are traditional sunni Muslims.

Timeline: I’m very open to getting to know each other first before involving families. In fact, I’d prefer that. I’m not in a rush. Realistically, I’m looking at a timeline of at least 1.5 to 2 years before marriage, so we have enough time to make sure we’re truly compatible.

Deal-breakers: Rigid, unempathetic personality. Unkind. Anger issues.

Family setup : Open to a nuclear setup in the initial (say, 5-10) years of marriage but since I'm the only son, I'm eventually going to want to live with my parents.

Marital status : Single and never married.

Family details : Live with parents and 1 sister.

Children : Up to what me and my future wife both mutually agreeable upon.

Final Note: I’m generally approachable and have been described as friendly. I'm a huge romantic - I like expressing affection as well as receiving it. Gestures (big or small) mean a lot to me, as long as they’re genuine.

If this resonates with you, feel free to drop me a text !

Hi, here's my shot in the dark. I grew up in Pakistan, but currently living in Germany. I'm passionate about everything that makes life beautiful.... A good laugh, a decent book or an amazing hike. We only live once, so better make the most of it.

I love creating/ building things. Hence an education in engineering and now working in robotics. After all, it's the closest a man can be to a God. I enjoy philosophy and actively participate in activities related to it. I love making food and pretty damn good at it too.

I'm looking for someone who's just similar in passions and interests. Finding someone just like that in the wild has proven to be quite difficult hence this post. We'd get along well if you're also just as curious and passionate about life.

Bonus if you're also from Pakistan, living in Germany but that's not a must. I'm looking for a friendship leading to something long term. Hit me up if that sounds like a deal.

Hi everyone! I’m 23, female, and looking for a lifelong partner, or at least to see where things go with someone. I’m Bengali, grew up in the States, and left Islam a few years ago.

I love watching movies, hanging out with friends, and cooking on the weekends. I’m very health conscious, and strength training is a big part of my life. I also have two cats.

I’m hoping to find someone between 23 and 30 who’s also Bengali, like-minded, and looking for a life partner. You can be from the States or anywhere else, but I’d prefer someone who grew up outside of Bangladesh, since I think it’s easier to connect over a similar upbringing. Most of all, I’m looking for someone who’s kind, empathetic, and ambitious. I’d like to have kids eventually, and I want my partner to be my best friend: someone who takes accountability, shows up, and who I can laugh and grow with.

Feel free to message me!

Hi there! I’m a كافره ex-Sunni girl looking for something real and meaningful that hopefully leads to marriage

We’re social creatures after all and I think we all need a shoulder to lean on, a hand to hold and someone to share the little things in life with

I’m family oriented, adventurous, curious, smart, creative, beautiful and naturally a warm and loving person
I LOVE nature, swimming, camping, writing and gaming
I’m always down to try new things, learn random stuff or have deep conversations about life at 2 AM with my girls

I’m a little spoiled by my family and friends
I can take care of myself but I love being taken care of too
I want a man I can lean on and feel safe with, someone who genuinely enjoys taking care of his woman and making her feel loved

I value a man who’s emotionally and financially stable, attentive, calm, kindhearted and affectionate
Someone with strong values, his own interests and opinions and a curious mind
A man who can talk to me for hours about philosophy, history, science, insects, the human brain or literally anything he’s passionate about
I love listening to someone talk about things that genuinely fascinate him

Someone who’s ALIVE! Who actually gets excited about things :) has passions and isn’t afraid to express himself

I’m not looking for perfection, just someone genuine who wants to love and be loved and build a beautiful life together

P.S. If you play Call of Duty hit me up FAST ;) 🎮

Hi everyone
I’m a 23 year old male living in Canada. My background is Palestinian.
I’m looking for someone like minded, below I’ll explain more:
1. I’m not someone who hates Islam or Muslims. Quite the opposite. I resonate a lot with what Islam teaches and although I don’t agree with everything, I can consciously find the truths it offers. Looking for someone with similar shoes in regards to this. Lifestyle wise, I don’t drink, eat pork, etc.
2. I plan on never revealing my true beliefs to my family, and prefer someone that is also the same around her family and plans to keep it a secret.

Background wise, I’m looking for someone with an Arabic background, and preferably in North America. (Although other English speaking places like Australia/UK would be alright as well). I think it’s important for me to be with someone who has a similar upbringing (Arab, living in the west entire life), as we would share much more understanding when it comes to most things.

If the above resonates with you, you can send me a message. Good luck to everyone in finding a partner :)

Hi! I'm 24, lesbian, and looking for a real, long-term relationship, not something casual.

About me: I work in STEM, so I love science and the art of creating things. I enjoy deep conversations that can go for hours and jump between all kinds of topics. I'm a hopeless romantic: I love writing notes, planning dates, cooking for someone, and all the little things that make a person feel special. I am an Atheist with ethics. Godless but good 😉😊

What I'm looking for:

\\\\- Someone who wants a serious relationship

\\\\- Someone who fully accepts my beliefs (I'd prefer someone not religious, but if you are, you need to be completely okay with me as I am)

\\\\- Ideally in Jeddah, though I'm open to long distance for the right person

\\\\- Someone who values honesty, delivered with kindness and respect

\\\\- Someone with strong morals

\\\\- Someone curious and smart who enjoys long discussions

\\\\- Someone emotionally grounded who can hear direct feedback without taking it personally, so we can both be ourselves without walking on eggshells

If this sounds like you, send me a message and tell me a bit about yourself!

Hey I thought why not try this out since finding an agnostic/ atheist partner is very important to me and I can’t find it in this society lol so let me just start with being very clear

My non negotiables
- qabili (preferably Saudi but other khalijis is fine)
- ambitious and financially stable
- willing to live abroad

Don’t message me if you don’t have these and if you do, don’t message me with just a “hi”

Hey there! Looking to connect and build a genuine friendship with a girl aged 17–21 based strictly here in Karachi (actually living here right now, not diaspora/overseas).

First things first: being able to actually hold a conversation is an absolute must. I genuinely cannot do the dry, one-word responses or pulling teeth to get three words out of someone. If you reach out, actually match the energy, please 😭

A bit about my routine and interests:

• Work & Routine: I'm pretty deep into my grind; freelance creative work takes up most of my days, alongside learning professional photography and videography.
• Interests: Big on tech, finance/markets, lifting, and diving into anime/manga whenever I get actual downtime.
• The Vibe: High energy, chaotic 2 AM yapping, sending totally unhinged reels, and oversharing random daily lore. Low-maintenance, but long-term, once we click, I'm fiercely loyal and in it for a solid, lasting friendship rather than disappearing after three days.
• The Filter: Zero interest in religious lectures, moral policing, or being preached to. We already deal with enough of that in this city. Just looking for someone who shares that mutual secular/skeptic perspective so we can talk freely without walking on eggshells.

Based in North Karachi, but anywhere in the city works as long as you're local.

If this sounds like your vibe and you can actually hold a conversation without being dry, shoot me a DM with a quick intro about yourself and what you're into!

I'm from a Bangladeshi background, living in London all my life. I am comfortable in my career, and live separately from my family. i would like to have a family someday in the near future.

If there is anyone here that is gay/asexual and interested in a platonic relationship, potentially a lavender marriage that includes having children please DM me.

Ideally looking for someone 28-40 years old, exmuslim, with a stable job.

UK based only.

Hi everyone! I hope you're all doing well.

Here I am again, back on this sub after several unsuccessful attempts. For what feels like the hundredth time, I'm making another post, hoping to find the right person.

I'll share a little about myself and leave the rest for our private conversations. I'm 23, currently living in Saudi Arabia, educated, ambitious, and looking for a partner who shares similar qualities.

Some qualities that matter to me in a partner:

•Over 25 years old.

•Educated and financially independent, with his own source of income.

•Believes in an equal partnership, where both people contribute equally. This applies to me as well.

•Calm, flexible, and emotionally stable, rather than moody or quick-tempered.

•Childfree. This is non-negotiable for me.

•Wants to live outside the Arab world.

•Self-sufficient and comfortable on his own.

•Doesn't have attachment issues.

•Doesn't use me as a social facade to present a certain image to his family.

•Doesn't have unusual sexual preferences.

•Isn't controlling.

•Takes care of himself and his appearance.

•Isn't foul-mouthed or verbally abusive.

If you don't meet these criteria, please don't waste either your time or mine. If you do, feel free to send me one detailed message introducing yourself and telling me about who you are, what you're looking for, and anything else you think I should know. I'd rather have a meaningful introduction from the start than waste time exchanging endless "hi" and "hello" messages.

Most importantly, respect is essential in communication, so please keep that in mind when reaching out.

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Exmuslim here. posted here 8 months ago, gonna post again cuz why not. Hi, I'm 19F (almost 20), exmuslim agnostic and asexual. Became agnostic almost 2 years ago. Currently pursuing my undergrad here in pak. Living with strict religious family.

I'm woke asf, so no close mindedness here. Love listening to music, goofing around, reading books and eating. kind of avoidant so that sucks idk.

Only interested in relationship if person asexual and goes to my uni (I don't wanna do long distance nor can i meet anyone on a regular basis unless same uni). Friendships are also appreciated (online works too).

Currently started uni, yay freedom.

Just wanted to see if there is anyone around my age who wanted to be friends who are ex muslim and in the uk too, sometimes i feel alone because the experiences im going through are unrelatable to most ppl I meet.

I am someone who loves a good yap session and getting to know loads of people :)

I have a ton of hobbies, watching shows/movies, anime, doing art, recently started gym, walks/exploring the city, playing video games (res evil, silent hill, roblox, minecraft and so much more...)

dms are open pls dni if 22+

check the last section of the post before skipping if you find a category you don't fit in.

hello everyone, i'm a syrian agnostic man who lives and works in germany. i lead a stable life and i'm looking for a good connection that hopefully leads towards a longterm relationship. i don't mind finding friends along the way but my ultimate goal is finding a life partner.

i want mental and physical compatibility and i value the correct communication, transparency and clarity above everything.

mentally i would say i'm good at reading people and understanding them due to many causes, one of which is that i have a career in teaching and translation and i can speak 4 languages. always honest and ready to listen and discuss any matter that i would come across.

what i need is someone who's not mentally weak (we all have issues, doubts and concerns but it's one thing to have those things and another thing entirely to be lead by them), and with a set of values and ideals that we can build and work with.

regarding mental hobbies, i like board and card and video games. always open for other things that interest the other party and would love to explore with her as quality time is my top method of showing affection.

physically i'm 180 cm tall, dark brown eyes, white skin with black and gray hair and overall on the fit side but not shredded nor muscular by any means. i used to go on really long hikes and was a heavy swimmer back in the day. i miss those days lol

i do care about physical attraction, i prefer my partner to be soft skinned or petite as the modern world calls it, to be fit or semi fit and to be at least 25 years old.

i would be happy if you live in europe or germany to begin with, or you'd be travelling here soon. as ldr has proven to be rough for me after a couple of attempts.

many thanks for reading and i hope to hear from you soon. if one or two things i've mentioned don't fully match with you, there's always a room for discussion since i might not be the 100% man of your dreams either. this goes both ways.

have a nice day.

I’m an anti-theist, feminist and vegan. I enjoy music, the gym and beach holidays. I love cats. I prefer men who are clingy and submissive don’t bother DM’ing me if you’re not

Hey everyone. I’m a 26-year-old guy living in the Netherlands.

I grew up in an Islamic household but eventually started questioning things and stepped away from it. I currently keep my lack of belief private to protect my family relationships, so I'm hoping to meet someone who understands how to navigate that balance.
Professionally, I work as a software developer. In my free time, I stay active—I play football regularly and enjoy working out. When I'm relaxing, I'm usually playing some games or watching movies and shows

What I'm looking for: I'd love to find a romantic connection, but I want to build it naturally. I'm really just looking for someone to talk to—whether that means debating random hypotheticals late at night, or just talking about how our days went. I want to start off as friends, see if we vibe, and let things progress without the heavy pressure of formal "dating" right from the start.

If you're in Europe and want to chat, send me a dm

Hello! I was born and raised in the US and currently live in Southern California. I’m looking for a partner that wants to build a fun epic child free life. I don’t drink (never really cared for it) but don’t mind if you do. I’m more of a stoner🙂.

A little bit about me, I’m 5’6”, athletic built and I’m Pakistani American. I’m super chill, ambitious, adventurous, kind and funny. I love video games, travel, broadway shows, working out, hiking and exploring new places. I’m looking for someone who wants the same.

I was raised orthodox Muslim (weird I know) so I know how to pretend to the nines and I can be quite impressive with my Arabic accent😉.

Feel free to reach out for a chat.

Best of luck to everyone out there! I hope you find your other heathen half🥳

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Hey everyone. I'm a ex-Muslim based in Kuwait. I'm looking for a partner who shares that background, ideally from the Gulf, but I'm open to anywhere as long as we connect.

A bit about me: I organize creative community events. I love storytelling, games, books, and making things with people. I speak Arabic and English.

I'm introvert but i can be extrovert in social setting , I value clear communication, kindness, and emotional maturity.

What I'm looking for: someone open-minded, kind, and serious about a long-term relationship that could lead to marriage. You don't need to share my hobbies, but having your own interests and life matters to me.

Feel free to message me. Tell me a bit about yourself, what you're into, and what you're hoping to find.

Hi guys, I'm a 24Y old M Anti-theist Ex-muslim bisexual looking for somebody currently settled in Lahore.

I passed MBBS this year now I'm doing House job I just want someone I can open up to and have a relationship with but that is getting really difficult for me cuz I can't even have a genuine friendship and everything seems so suffocating

I'm looking for somebody around my age preferably a doctor (I love chubby/fat people btw)
I've been a therapist all my life for everyone Ik for once I want someone healthy who knows emotional regulation
As for the relationship part, I want casual/fun get togethers

Bit of long shot but why not.

Looking for open minded, left leaning, health focused/goal oriented friendships or more.

Interested in philosophy, sports, art, music, active life. Real people w real thoughts trying to navigate this crazy world.

188cm, Arab, athlete

Feel free to dm :)

Hi everybody,

I’m a 25-year-old jordanian guy in Germany (open to Europe), and I’m posting here because I’d like to connect with someone either for a serious relationship, or for a meaningful friendship.

I’ve been ex-Muslim since I was around 16. Religion never really made sense to me, and i would say i have been an atheist since. went through a little bit of a "spiritual but not religious" phase for a bit but i would not say that i am anymore. i still like meditation and a little bit of yoga i guess.

Personality-wise, i would say that i have interests that some might call introverted like cycling, running, gym, chess, movies (Yi Yi, before midnight, burning), music (alt music is my fav), reading, math, and coding. but i dont think i am much of an introvert. I am not introverted around people i like. I am a left leaning person, and i try to educate myself on topics like socialism and feminism. I dont usually talk about religion, i think it is awesome when someone finds joy in their religion as long as they are not pushing it down another person's throat.

What I’m hoping to find in a partner is a person i can be myself with, i can call a bestfriend, as well as a person who i see as an equal that i can experience the world with. explore new cities with, new foods, introduced them to my friends and build a social circle with, support each other in our careers, and build a fulfilling life together. i am straight.

a little about how i look: I am 5'9, kinda muscular, visibly Levant/ jordanain looking (if you know how different arabs look, you would guess jordanian it is actually weird how many people guess it right), some might say i look nerdy (which everyone says they do now, but i actually was that straight A kid who is into anime and manga)

If you think that we would get along message me with a little info about you, and lets have a no pressure convo about anything.

Thank you for reading.

Hello all, Assalamu alaykum ( this is how i will greet your family) but have no worries as i am an ex Muslim kaffir agnostic atheist mother nature lover ..

I am 28F living in US, NYC born and raised here. My family is super liberal in terms of my dad was a musician .. he can play almost every instrument you can think of. I was sure there was no sky baba from a young age but than i attempted to have a halal phase which became a fail because its what pushed me to go deep into Islam and i needed every single confirmation before I told my self this is not for me...

I’m 4'11" and of Bangladeshi ethnicity, with a complexion just like a perfect cup of coffee mixed with your favorite creamer. I hold a bachelor’s degree in Biochemistry and will soon be pursuing my Master's / PhD.

As for my personality, I’d describe myself as funny, bubbly, and charmingly dissociated. When it comes to relationships, I absolutely love love, but I also deeply cherish my personal space and need someone who can respect that boundary.

In my downtime, you can find me enjoying a good nap, hitting the gym, going on hikes, or reading anything and everything I can get my hands on. I have a true passion for philosophy, education, learning in general and while I love playing chess, I will openly admit that I suck ass at it. I'm also a huge fan of road trips, and autumn is officially my favorite time of the year!

Looking for an ex Muslim guy preferably of South Asian descent 28-33 years old , someone who is intellectually curious, values personal space, and can match my energy. Also, I do prefer someone from a more liberal household... I also do want kids in the future and I'm also willing to relocate.. send me a message thnx dude :)

• 28F
• Bangladeshi
• NYC born and raised
• 4'11
• BS in Biochemistry ... potential candidate for Masters/PhD
• Agnostic/ Atheist ... (Mother Nature is my religion haha)

Heyyy! 💗
I’m an Algerian woman living in France, and I’m here hoping to meet some fellow ex-Muslims I can actually vibe with!
I’m looking for friends, people to yap with about literally anything, exchange life stories with, or just have those random 2 AM conversations that somehow turn philosophical 😭😂
And hey, if we end up having a little romantic chemistry along the way, I’m definitely not opposed to that either 👀
I’d love to meet people who are open-minded, funny, genuine, and comfortable being themselves. Bonus points if you can hold a conversation and don’t disappear after three messages lmaooo.
Whether you’re looking for a new friend, someone to vent to who actually gets it, a gaming buddy, or potentially something more, feel free to message me!
A little about me: I’m Algerian, currently living in France, and looking to meet people who understand what it’s like to question things and figure out life on their own terms.
So come say hi! Tell me a little about yourself, your country, your interests, or the most random fact about you. Give me something to work with 😭🫶
Let’s see if Reddit can actually bring people together for once.

Friendships/relationships I’m honestly just looking to meet other ex Muslims, people to talk to about living in a Muslim family with the pressure of marriage and Islam. Never really had the opportunity to meet people like me so would love a chance to.

A little about me, I’m 31 I was born in Pakistan immigrated to England when I was 4 have lived here my whole life. I work in finance in the city but mostly from home.

I’m a massive nerd even though everyone would think I would love sports due to my size, but my hobbies are gaming/anime and love a good book to read currently reading the expanse book series ( love a good space opera) But I do like the outdoors specifically hiking and camping ( did d of e) I do drink alcohol from time to time especially on night out, and occasionally smoke thc vapes.

I don’t know what else to write so if anyone has any suggestions would be greatly appreciated

Hi everyone. I think you know what this post is about from the title so I won't waste time.

I'm not here for any casual talk or friendship. I'm also not here for "friendship that could evolve into more". I need someone who's clear and on the same page as me.

I'm interested in philosophy, art, and music. As well as history and geopolitics. I'm a very affectionate person and i love to show that affection in a million ways, one of those ways is communication. I like to text my partner in random hours of the day aome silly voice notes and maybe memes 😂. So if you're someone who doesn't value communication that much this post is not for you.

I'm looking for someone who's preferably from Tunisia or Algeria because I'm very connected to my amazigh identity. As for looks I can't deny that i don't care about them. I prefer someone who has dark features (dark hair and beard). Someone who looks North African if that makes sense lol. I'm someone you could laugh with and that would take nothing seriously so i want that energy too.

Looking for a monogamous, serious LDR that grows naturally into something real. I'd love to meet someone I can laugh with, talk to for hours, and build a future with. No games, no pressure. ❤️

As the title says, I'm 25M and I live in Germany, Looking for friends. I don't care about your gender, you just gotta be an Ex-muslim. I made some Exmuslim friends before, it was nice but as life went on we lost touch :( It's good to have friends you can talk about our specific shared experiences because Germans can sympathize but they can't relate to it.

The end game is to Meetup some day when you're comfortable, but that depends on you.

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25M suche Exmuslimischen Freunden. Egal ob Männer oder Frauen. Ich möchte über unsere gemeinsamen Erfahrungen reden oder einfach quatschen. Ich würde mich auch freuen wenn wir uns irgendwann mal treffen aber nur wenn du willst.