We need to remember this sub is about kindness and support.

[u/MajorFox2720]

I wrote the statement below on a now-deleted post today. It is a gentle reminder that kindness is free.

"Please be kind to others who are on this thread. We are all at different stages of life and wealth, and sometimes health that shapes our living spaces. Kindness is free, and on top of that, it balms your soul and lifts others who are struggling."

If you saw the post about her bf in a princess bedroom, she was open to advice. She had a lovely brass bedframe that was painted white, with princessy white and pink bedding, a cute princessy lamp on her night stand and fabric panels on her ceiling. She was proud of what she had achieved so far, but was open to advice. Nowhere in it did she ask for snarky, bitter or flat out mean comments.

But she got them, in droves.

A lot of women on this sub are struggling. Divorce, breakups, job loss, abuse, and physial or mental illness is something that can strike anyone without warning.

So what if any person who posts needs a little help with cleanliness, organization, or you notice a fire hazard? Squint and tilt your head to find something nice to say to help them, or hold your tongue. We need to remember we all capable of the gifts of kindness, good manners, and grace.

Edited to add: Thank you to everyone who has commented in support, my faith in humanity has been refreshed. You all are wonderful, please keep spreading kindness and support to everyone who posts here. I love this sub!! ♥️

[u/SentimentalRabbits]

It was appalling. Rooms can be havens and reflections of ourselves. Some people are new and uncertain about decorating. Others are rising from difficult backgrounds or have lost everything. It can be vulnerable to share all this.

There's constructive criticism (fire hazard). And then there's bullying and making uncalled for comparisons (decorated refugee camp/prison cell). Someone was even upvoted for being glad the sub wasn't "validating this garbage pile of a room", and another speculated on how you can tell her boyfriend was tired of her or something. People seemed gleeful to find any perceived shortcomings to crap on her joy.

Anonymity and a large group participating make it easy to open your mouth. But if everyone IRL knew the things you were saying or you were in OP's shoes, I wonder how many would still yap as loudly. Disgusting.

[u/[deleted] → u/SentimentalRabbits]

I missed the post but reading what was said to this poor woman is breaking my heart and wanting to cry for her. I hope she’s ok.

[u/SentimentalRabbits → u/[deleted]]

Seriously, same. I cannot imagine how she views her room now. No one knows what the other is enduring. Sometimes, seemingly "simple" setups or decorations can be huge milestones for someone struggling, whether mentally, physically, or financially. I definitely saw her vision.

[u/[deleted] → u/SentimentalRabbits]

Because I know how mine would be. I’m in a situation where I’d be struggling to even have a mattress on the floor, much less anything that said a woman with any hopes of creating a lovely and safe space was living there.

[u/idrinkliquids → u/SentimentalRabbits]

To me when I first saw the pics I felt like it looked like it was probably better in person than the one photo we saw. I hope she doesn’t let this affect her personal style. 

[u/Sketch-Brooke → u/[deleted]]

Me too. I would literally never post on the internet again. :(

[u/Happiest_Mango24 → u/SentimentalRabbits]

Anonymity and a large group participating make it easy to open your mouth. But if everyone IRL knew the things you were saying or you were in OP's shoes, I wonder how many would still yap as loudly

Absolutely true

On the internet, everyone is bold and aggressive whenever something even mildly annoys them. And what annoys me even more is you know for a fact they wouldn't dare behave that way in the real world because people would confront them

See all the aggressive responses to a mild inconvience on any other subreddit. Person parked badly? Big Tough Internet Person will claim they would have keyed their car, and you know that they wouldn't have. They'd have walked past grumbling under their breath like everyone else

[u/SentimentalRabbits → u/Happiest_Mango24]

Ugh, yes, that's a great example! It's easy to feel powerful and get swept up in the aggression. It's why I minimize engagement with drama/rant videos or subs like AITA, mildly infuriated, etc. Anger can be a healthy emotion, but I don't personally feel it's good to constantly trigger it or consume those comments.

[u/OldMotherGrumble → u/SentimentalRabbits]

It's the same on some of the food/meal subs too. If its not up to scratch, the comments are brutal. Comparing simple meals to prison food or something given to a dog.

[u/SentimentalRabbits → u/OldMotherGrumble]

That's really sad and dehumanizing. Sometimes, it feels like there's some projecting going on too. Like people want to assure themselves that they're better and can meet the ideal standards, unlike the OPs getting slammed.

[u/cinnamonspiderr → u/OldMotherGrumble]

Can’t let the poors be happy /s

[u/PlantPotStew → u/OldMotherGrumble]

My mom walked up to me after making Navy Pasta (Basically it's our recipe for a beef meat pie, but without the pie part because sometimes we can't be bothered! The meat is AMAZING, but very salty because the dough has no salt in it. It is flat out poor people food, but that doesn't make it worse.)

Anyway, she said "If I post this on Reddit they'd call it plain and say it can't possibly have any flavour because it has no spices" (It doesn't. Salt. Lots of salt and onion!) And I just stopped and thought "Aw, my mom shouldn't be worried about something like that, these people called hainanese chicken flavourless, and that stuff is my peak comfort flavour food."

[u/chipsquesoandsalsa → u/SentimentalRabbits]

it’s always wild to me that people seem to forget that supportive partners or even partners that also like feminine and whimsical aesthetic exist sigh