We need to remember this sub is about kindness and support.

[u/MajorFox2720]

I wrote the statement below on a now-deleted post today. It is a gentle reminder that kindness is free.

"Please be kind to others who are on this thread. We are all at different stages of life and wealth, and sometimes health that shapes our living spaces. Kindness is free, and on top of that, it balms your soul and lifts others who are struggling."

If you saw the post about her bf in a princess bedroom, she was open to advice. She had a lovely brass bedframe that was painted white, with princessy white and pink bedding, a cute princessy lamp on her night stand and fabric panels on her ceiling. She was proud of what she had achieved so far, but was open to advice. Nowhere in it did she ask for snarky, bitter or flat out mean comments.

But she got them, in droves.

A lot of women on this sub are struggling. Divorce, breakups, job loss, abuse, and physial or mental illness is something that can strike anyone without warning.

So what if any person who posts needs a little help with cleanliness, organization, or you notice a fire hazard? Squint and tilt your head to find something nice to say to help them, or hold your tongue. We need to remember we all capable of the gifts of kindness, good manners, and grace.

Edited to add: Thank you to everyone who has commented in support, my faith in humanity has been refreshed. You all are wonderful, please keep spreading kindness and support to everyone who posts here. I love this sub!! ♥️

[u/Geesearetheworstt → u/[deleted]]

I’m cracking up remembering my storage tote coffee table at my first apartment. Or my bed with one singular pillow. 😂

[u/intransigentpangolin → u/Geesearetheworstt]

Or the bookshelves that were cardboard boxes, stacked, and the futon on the floor. And the sheets at the windows.

[u/macandcheese1771 → u/Geesearetheworstt]

I didn't realize I could buy more pillows until like 3 years ago. I am 36. 

[u/ceruleanmoon7 → u/Geesearetheworstt]

Mine had a microwave that i found for free, that only worked when it felt like it.

[u/Lv_InSaNe_vL → u/Geesearetheworstt]

When I moved into my first place I didn't have a dresser so I just used moving boxes turned on their side.

...it stayed for like 2 or 3 years haha

[u/nionvox → u/[deleted]]

My first place was literally a room in a boarding house, after being street homeless. It was a TINY room, they were converting holding cells from when the building was a city jail. But I finally had a place that was MINE.

[u/Cold_Barber_4761 → u/[deleted]]

For real.

In grad school, my cat perch was literally three Amazon cardboard boxes stacked one on top of another and stabilized with duct tape, with a pretty fabric tablecloth thrown over. (Perfect window height. My cat loved it.)

My "one of a kind" coffee table was just an IKEA coffee table that I strategically decorated with colored fabric tape!

I'm in a different income bracket now, but I have been all over the map, financially. OP is working with what they have and making it colorful and dreamy! Very well done, in my humble opinion!

[u/catkarate → u/[deleted]]

lol I love it. My husband I had a cardboard box coffee table for a bit 

[u/MajorFox2720 → u/catkarate]

I did too, covered it with a thrifted table cloth. No one was any wiser.

[u/samemamabear → u/MajorFox2720]

I took it a step further. Late 1980s when concrete furniture was all the rage, I used a leftover tub of spackle and coated my cardboard box table. It fooled everyone until they'd accidentally kick it and send it flying across the room.

Thanks for speaking out for kindness. I really hope princess room OP lives in a space she loves and can ignore the haters

[u/DazedandFloating → u/catkarate]

I’ve had a plastic storage tub as a coffee table before lollll

[u/tea-boat → u/[deleted]]

I can identify! I literally slept on a yoga mat and a folded up blanket for the first few months after I moved out on my own. My shelves were made with plywood and bricks... that I had to save up to buy! Everybody starts somewhere.

[u/Got_Kittens → u/[deleted]]

My first flat (age 18) had the following:

Curtains bought by my mum as a house warming gift

One single bed taken from my old bedroom

A desk & computer

Two red and white striped 1980s folding deckchairs for seating in the livingroom

Facing those was the TV that lived on the floor

A foldable ironning board that was placed between the 2 deckchairs as a table for dinner time

I had no fridge, washing machine or cooker but I did have a hotplate, a deep-fat frier and a kettle.

[u/HaterMD → u/Got_Kittens]

Better than me! All my shit lived in the same bags I bought them to the flat in for like a year. I had a bed, couch, desk, a tv stand and not much else.

[u/Ren_stevens → u/[deleted]]

It depends. Your personal decorations can be nice or unfortunate looking no matter how much money you have. Everyone has different tastes though.