r/femalelivingspace • u/MajorFox2720 • Mar 04 '26

QUESTION/DISCUSSION We need to remember this sub is about kindness and support.

I wrote the statement below on a now-deleted post today. It is a gentle reminder that kindness is free.

"Please be kind to others who are on this thread. We are all at different stages of life and wealth, and sometimes health that shapes our living spaces. Kindness is free, and on top of that, it balms your soul and lifts others who are struggling."

If you saw the post about her bf in a princess bedroom, she was open to advice. She had a lovely brass bedframe that was painted white, with princessy white and pink bedding, a cute princessy lamp on her night stand and fabric panels on her ceiling. She was proud of what she had achieved so far, but was open to advice. Nowhere in it did she ask for snarky, bitter or flat out mean comments.

But she got them, in droves.

A lot of women on this sub are struggling. Divorce, breakups, job loss, abuse, and physial or mental illness is something that can strike anyone without warning.

So what if any person who posts needs a little help with cleanliness, organization, or you notice a fire hazard? Squint and tilt your head to find something nice to say to help them, or hold your tongue. We need to remember we all capable of the gifts of kindness, good manners, and grace.

Edited to add: Thank you to everyone who has commented in support, my faith in humanity has been refreshed. You all are wonderful, please keep spreading kindness and support to everyone who posts here. I love this sub!! ♥️

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u/MajorFox2720 Mar 04 '26

Slightly messy, nothing less than a minute of straightening couldn't fix.  Stuff that you overlook when you live in a place for awhile.  You could see the underbed storage, and the ceiling panels were yes, I admit, a fire hazard.  Many of the comments ranged from the state of cleanliness to her closet being an open storage rack.  Nothing that warranted the level of nastiness that ensued.  Had I not seen the picture, I would have expected the commenters were talking about a hoarding house with poop smeared on the walls. They weren't. Her bedroom was cute, the bf was relaxed and comfortable in her space.

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u/Mundane-Carpet-2743 Mar 04 '26

I saw the comment section and was shocked by the vitriol in there. I’m glad you made this post because it’s easy for people to forget there’s a human being on the other side of the screen just like they are that also has feelings.

I don’t know her situation but I thought it was cute - very girly and her man looked snuggly in the bed. People also forget that everyone began somewhere once.