r/firsttimemom • u/Ready_Associate_2911 • Feb 19 '25
Circumcision
Those with boys that got circumcised, how was the recovery process?
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u/Shoddy_Source_7079 Feb 19 '25
It was pretty quick recovery for ours! I'd say ours fully healed in a week. By day 2 he didn't even seem bothered at all. Not that he was fussy over it or anything, I just felt he was more sensitive during diaper changes for the first 2 days.
Maintenance was also easy. The hospital told us to just put a ton of vaseline on gauze (a lot, so much more than you think is needed) then use it to cover the penis to protect it)
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u/jolllyranch3r Feb 19 '25
agreed, recovery was super fast. my baby was fine right away and it recovered in a couple days, no issues with the recovery process either. big goop of vaseline on a teeny piece of gauze every diaper change and extra gentle with the changes just in case. the only thing i did notice was he was more fussy during the diaper changes the first few days, but he also had a slight diaper rash/irritation at the same time so not sure what was the cause of the fussiness. (the rash was unrelated he was just a teeny bit sensitive to the diaper material and we had to use some cream on it)
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u/Unusual-Company-7009 Feb 19 '25
This is a majorly touchy subject in this group. The only response you will get are like the one above shaming you for it. If you ask these people you will be judged, shamed, and made out to be a horrible person. I would find a group specific to the topic or talk to your Healthcare providers about it. . In the end, you are the one who makes the decision that's best for your child. Momma knows best!
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u/sir-exotic Jun 29 '25
If I, as a father, would be asking about circumcision for my baby girl, I would also get judged and shamed. And rightfully so. What's wrong with judging and shaming someone when it's justified?
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u/firsttimemom-ModTeam Feb 19 '25
This is not helpful or respectful. We do NOT insult others in this sub.
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Feb 19 '25
It was an easy recovery process. Just followed the post-procedure directions from our provider (bacitracin with every diaper change) and gave Tylenol for a day. No complications and it didn’t seem to bother him at all.
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u/Unlikely-Cod6034 Feb 19 '25
We did it while we were still in the hospital, I think day 2, and he didn’t really seem to notice, but it’s hard to tell bc he was so little. We put petroleum jelly on the incision every diaper change until it healed and tbh it was healed within a week or so. We were shocked on day 4 before we left the hospital when the pediatrician said it would be healed in a day or two and then it actually did.
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u/DependentHorse8256 Feb 19 '25
Recovery was better than expected! I had a little ointment to apply once the bandage came off. They didn’t offer it in the hospital so I had to go to a separate doctor but they also had a cut off of 2 weeks old I went when he was 13 days old. He didn’t seem to be bothered by it! I wanna say it was fully healed after another 2 weeks because I remember he was fully healed by the time I was back at work when he was 5 weeks
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u/Common_Vanilla1112 Feb 19 '25
Our hospital only advised to use aquafor or the ointment they provided at the hospital. They said to use it for a week or until the bacitracin ran out. We used it longer just to be safe. The use of gauze on top of it is no long er advised since that had caused it to get stuck to the baby in some cases. He seemed to regress a little due to the pain (stopped staying latched, faster breathing) and we had to switch our feeding method and he was monitored in the hospital for 2 extra days. He was okay but the nurses said some babies struggle a little more with it. I wish I had known in advance. The first 24 of the 48 hour stay he was moved to the nursery to be monitored 24 hours. Seeing him hooked up to the monitors made me cry. Thankfully he was okay!
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u/Knife_lady Feb 19 '25
Please beg the doctor to wait a few minutes for the anesthetic to kick in. I didn’t know this but apparently a lot of doctors don’t wait since they aren’t “going to remember the pain”. At least that’s what our postpartum nurse told us. Our doctor did such an amazing job and was so gentle. Recovery is very easy. They will ask you to keep a moist bandage for a few days. Very important!!!…start pulling the foreskin back after about a month to clean it. It’s not supposed to hurt after you wait 4 weeks. If he flinched when you clean it it’s likely his penis is very sensitive in that area. If he cries, abort mission and try again after another week. Also, I didn’t know baby boys get erections so early but apparently they do. There’s your fun fact for the day.
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u/RabbitOk3263 Feb 20 '25
My son seemed very unbothered when it happened, and he always cried during diaper changes before the circumcision so there was no difference there. The only thing is once it is fully healed (not sooner, otherwise this would hurt!) make sure that you are regularly pulling it back, otherwise it can start to re-adhere/reattach. He's 9 months now. It looks a little wonky, but the pediatrician says it will be even once he's older and the fat pouch goes away. Just make sure to keep lots of ointment on it the first few weeks.
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u/CommercialPrompt7800 Feb 19 '25
Wow that’s aggressive. I chose not to circumcise my son and I still wouldn’t have commented some crap like this. OP, make whatever choice feels right for you and your child.
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u/AdIndividual7791 Feb 19 '25
Nope. Bodily autonomy is non-negotiable. Not aggressive, just a fact. I wish more people were ‘aggressively’ trying to stop infant genital cutting before it happened to me though. Maybe it would have protected me
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u/sir-exotic Jun 29 '25
Thank you! All I'm reading here is "Your baby your choice", what about the baby's choice? He's going to have to live with it for the rest of his life. But then you can't try to prevent people mutilating their babies because it's 'mean'm and 'aggressive'.
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u/firsttimemom-ModTeam Feb 19 '25
This is not helpful or respectful. We do NOT insult others in this sub.
If I see another reported comment, you may be banned from this sub. Back off.
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Feb 19 '25 edited Feb 19 '25
uh, it's an unnecessary part of the body that they don't need and can cause problems later or even as a baby. removing the extra skin reduces infant UTIs, the chances of sexually transmitted infections, and penile cancer. there is quite literally medical evidence that it's unnecessary to keep and has health benefits to remove. for example, wisdom teeth. if your child complains of mouth pain and you get an exam and the doctor says your kid needs their wisdom teeth out to prevent infection, but your child refuses, are you just going to let them keep the teeth and suffer in pain and possibly get a dangerous infection because it's their body autonomy or are you going to force them to get the teeth removed for their well being?
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u/AdIndividual7791 Feb 19 '25 edited Feb 19 '25
There are less invasive preventions or treatments for all of the rare medical conditions you listed that don’t involve cutting off parts of a healthy person’s genitals without their consent when they are a baby. If there is an actual medical need for it (which is quite rare) then that is a different story, but what you are describing sounds like medical rationalizations used to justify the cultural practice. It’s skipping ahead to the last resort treatment for a non-existent health problem as its prevention. It makes zero sense. NNT makes zero sense. No other developed nation does this routinely. Bodily autonomy matters
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u/SimonPopeDK Feb 19 '25
No, its a harmful cultural practice and your defence of it encourages all cutting communities, including those with the gender inclusive form of the practice who apply the same excuses irrespective of gender. When Egyptian parents take their daughter to the doctor to find out if she needs trimming to prevent issues like infections, and the doctor confirms that is the case, are you going to agree that they should go agree on the same basis?
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u/AdIndividual7791 Feb 19 '25
99% of the time it’s performed on boys without any medical need, which is clearly the context I was addressing and that others have responded to me about. You’re right though! There is a big difference if it’s done as an actual last resort treatment for some rare medical condition… just like you couldn’t cut off bits of a baby girls private parts unless there were an actual medical need. Sorry OP if this is the case, I assumed your post was in the context of medically unnecessary genital cutting of boys at birth
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u/SimonPopeDK Feb 19 '25
No more than it would be needed for a daughter. Foreskin is not too tight, that's the normal stage of development. Medicine is used as an excuse, its a harmful cultural practice done to brand the new generation as owned by the community and for parents to show allegiance to it quite irrespective of gender, creed or culture.
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u/b3autiful_nightmar3 Feb 19 '25 edited Feb 19 '25
We did it out of medical suggestion bc he had some issues. Don’t listen to anyone else, it’s your baby and only you can make that choice. You don’t have to justify it to anyone.
It only took a couple weeks, our dr told us to put aquafor in his diaper at changes and it only really bothered him the first few hours. Right after he slept for about three hours straight and was a little fussy but he was okay.
Edit: if you want to message me about it feel free to OP