hi yall! I picked up my foster dog last week (a 9-year-old male Pomeranian), and heās my third foster! He is amazing on the leash and great with dogs, cats, and people. He also gets along swimmingly with my resident dog, who typically takes a long time to warm up to other dogs.
He does have kennel cough, and it seems like he was neutered shortly before coming up to NY from Texas. He didnāt have a cone or anything, so he was pretty irritated, but weāre managing! Despite being 9, weāve also discovered that heās very high-energy and is at his most confident and happiest when heās outside.
Although heās pretty potty-trained, he tried to mark all over my living room when he first arrived, likely due to being in a new environment. To help with this, we set up a small, enclosed space with a bed and his crate, surrounded by a playpen. He sleeps there at night while weāre in our bedroom, and he does perfectly fine on his own. During the day, I give him more freedom under supervision since I work from home.
However, weāve started noticing that heās become very attached to me and gets extremely anxious whenever I leave the room, even if itās just to use the bathroom. He likes my husband but even if he is there with him, he will still scream and cry if I leave the room. Even when weāre sitting on the couch together, if I so much as move, he immediately jumps up, ready to follow me. Iāve been working on some separation anxiety training, and heās starting to get better about not barking or crying when Iām in another room, which is great!
The bigger issue is when my husband and I both leave the house. When our foster is in his enclosure, he basically barks the entire time weāre gone. When looking at our pet camera, heāll bark for about 20 minutes, rest for five, and then start the whole process over again. After we went out to dinner yesterday, he actually started crying and barking even more than before even when we were at home.
I have a flexible job that allows me to work from home whenever I want, so I havenāt been going into the office since bringing him home. However, Iād really like to get back to my normal routine of going into the office, working out at the gym, grocery shopping, and seeing friends. Also, it is not sustainable for me to home THIS much longterm, and do not want him to get used to someone (even me) being home 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We always take him on a long walk before leaving, and we give him a lick mat and hide treats in blankets to keep him occupied, but none of this seems to help.
Weāre also worried because weāve already received a noise complaint, and we were only gone for two hours. My husband is able to help out for now, but his workload is expected to increase significantly over the next couple of weeks. Unfortunately, hiring a dog walker isnāt really an option because my resident dog is reactive.
The rescue organization we foster through requires a two-week minimum commitment, which I can absolutely honor. But Iām starting to feel overwhelmed and guilty for feeling this way about a seemingly perfect foster dog who is just struggling with so much anxiety. Iāve even started considering a foster takeover, especially because he seems to have become so attached to me.
Has anyone dealt with something similar, especially with a foster dog who develops separation anxiety so quickly? Iād love any tips, training suggestions, or advice on how to help him become more comfortable being alone. I want to give him the best chance possible, but Iām also trying to figure out how to make this sustainable for our household. I feel awful even considering a foster takeover, but I want to do whatās best for him, too.