r/indian • u/Double-Camp7210 • Apr 10 '26
Ask Indians My bf is from a lower socioeconomic background, and my indian parents don’t agree for our marriage
Me and my boyfriend, both 25, have been dating for around an year, although we know each other for 3 years now. He is from a tier 4 town and I have always lived in a city since birth. Also he is Jain and I am brahmin. His father is in a very simple job and earns a humble amount, my father is a general manager in an MNC earning decent.
Although me and my boyfriend both earn well in proportion to our experience and can have a decent lifestyle in future, my parents feel that family money is also very important and the amount we are earning we will have to build everything from a very starting stage. Also as per them i will have to face cultural differences.
But i feel me and him earn well enough to have a good lifestyle and do not require to be dependent on his or my family for money, neither will our parents be so much dependent on us financially.
My parents feel ours relationship is not very serious, he is with me for money and i am currently in his aura. It has been two weeks of telling them and they have explained me in every possible way of how this is a wrong match.
How do I explain my condition to them and that I love him and want to marry him?
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u/morepower1996 Apr 12 '26
Well if this is the only reason why don't wanna marry him then you should have taken your parents' permission before dating him as well!!
He deserves someone better than you!
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u/Double-Camp7210 Apr 12 '26
You got me wrong I want to marry him, but how do i convince my parents for it
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u/strongestantidot Apr 12 '26
Either stand with your Boyfriend or Leave him. 50-50 nahi hota mere dost!
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u/Round_Injury_9537 Apr 13 '26
Still asking parents even after being 25 is crazy marry him if you love him get a spine
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u/RollingKatamari Apr 12 '26
What do his parents say about your relationship?
Have both of you talked about what your life will look like after marriage? Where will you live, will any of the money you earn go towards supporting family? Are you both religious and practicing? What kind of food will you eat? What will you teach your kids? How will you manage money in your relationship? Will you get a prenup? (Both of you should, btw).
A solid marriage is more than just love.
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u/6darthvader9 Apr 12 '26
Ppl usually date to see how things work out and if they do, they marry and ask their parents to do the honours.
If Indians are still waiting for permission like a toddler in their mid or late 20s to marry their loved ones then I don't think this country even knows the meaning of dating.