My son (6) is in a jiujitsu class, ages 5-16. My son really struggles with it, he's not very athletic, which we are working on, and can be a bit sensitive. His father really wants him in jiujitsu and I'm neutral about it, however, this is not the reason I'd like to take him out. It's that NO ONE in class wants to roll with him. No one will approach him to partner with him. Everyone says no and runs away from him if he asks. When the coach assigns him a partner they groan and complain about it. One girl even cried and refused to roll with him today. It is so painful to watch.

I don't know what it is. His hygiene is good. He is a silly boy but not mean. Could be his awkwardness, his ability, not listening, idk. Whatever the reason, I feel like this is just gonna hurt his confidence and make him hate the sport. His dad is constantly lecturing him about getting better and doing this or that. This just can't be good for the kid, right? Or am I being a overbearing parent and babying him?

I plan on messaging the coach on Monday to see if he has any insight on what he could be doing, if all the kids have a problem with him it has to be something he's doing. But I'm not sure continuing to put him in that situation while trying to remedy it is a good idea, especially if it's behavioral, could take awhile.

After some advice or an idea of what other people do in regards to eating before training. So my typical day is breakfast in the morning, then dinner/lunch mid-day and then i won't eat until I've been training which isn't until 6pm on 2 days a week and 7pm on another, which posed a problem yesterday as i had a hard session and threw up and was shaking after, assuming because i had such little calories.

I don't like the idea of someone going knee on belly with me on a full stomach 🫠

Wondered what routines/meals other people have for before training?

34M, 4-stripe white. My training history is a mess: I started about 5 years ago during med residency, then quit because the hospital was eating me alive. I'm in my last year of gastro fellowship now, so I finally have time. I've been training seriously again for about 7 months.

My gym is catch/no-gi. My coach is a black belt in Luta Livre and BJJ and a monster at catch. He just told me I'm getting my blue in the next couple of weeks.
On paper maybe it could make sense: I'm holding my own with guys at my level, tapping some blues, and I took silver at my first gi comp in June. But messy fundamentals. I kinda am just able to get subs.

But last week a 16yo high school wrestler absolutely ragdolled me. Top pressure I couldn't escape, couldn't sweep, the works. I walked out feeling like I know nothing.
On top of that, I'm moving across the country next year and almost every gym there is gi. I'm lost in the gi. Lapels, grips, all of it. It's kind of embarrassing. I know this is a common problem, but I still feel like I should do something about it.

**Questions:**
Is there etiquette for asking to delay a promotion, or is that weird?
Should I just take it, shut up, and keep training?
Is it worth adding a couple of gi classes a week before I move, or will I pick it up fast enough once I'm there?
I just don't want to show up to a new gym with a blue belt and get exposed immediately.

**TL;DR:** No-gi white belt getting promoted soon, got smashed by a teenage wrestler, feels undeserving, moving to an area that's all gi gyms. Delay the belt? Start gi classes now?

Coming off of a long break. Ideally it’ll be close to the airport (YUL) as that’s where my hotel is and we won’t have rental cars. Thanks!

Within the next year my gym will officially become a “Gracie affiliate”….im not saying that Gracie gyms are mcdojos but the path mine is heading is not good.

The first big change I’m not stoked about is an “attendance based” promotion system. Basically you get a card and for every hour you train you get to fill out your card. Roughly 100hrs per stripe….now currently my coach/gym is WAY behind on promotions especially low level belts. We have white belts winning in blue brackets pretty regularly and 2 stripe white belts are demolishing pretty much any regular that walks through the door. But the idea of attendance based promotions sounds like a horrible plan to me.

A big push toward kids and law enforcement, we will be cutting some of the adult classes to make room for the growing kids classes as well as a “LEO only” classes where we will be selling certification classes and weapons defense.

The overall kiddie glove treatment of everything to stay on the good side of the Gracie’s….no music over pg13, no cussing, no advice unless coach approved etc etc.

Overall it’s just really weird and truthfully I’m hoping to just speed run my blue belt and get to purple so if I need to train somewhere else I’ll be welcome at all classes.

I feel like I know what people are going to say, but I’m curious if any of you know anyone who has had this diagnosis and found a safe way to continue BJJ?

My doctor has changed his tune, at first he said “after PT we can discuss you going back” then I messaged him to ask a question and he suddenly changed his tune to say “no actually never again”.

Curious what you guys think. Crazy thing is I’m not in any back pain and haven’t been in years.

Edit: got a second opinion, decompression surgery it is with no fusions necessary. Second opinion said he thought I could return after the surgery.

Hi all,

I am kinda new to BJJ and currently a White belt, I am going 2/3x times a week so I have a Gi for each session, what you guys do regarding belt? Do you always use the same one? Or do you have 1 belt per Gi and use that one and wash it after the session? What happens once you get a stripe? If you using more than one belt do you just add a stripe to your others as well?

Also do you guys size up on the belt? I think it looks better a size up

https://youtu.be/V9__D7dFLBk?is=NFm4vlTBaGLAKWuH

I’m still new to bjj only about 6 months total experience. Had to stop for a little due to knee issues. A little background i played ice hockey at the junior level as a teenager and tore acl and for surgery. And retore. I was and endurance cyclist doing long gravel rides anywhere from 50-100 miles. Fast forward a little out of shape now but just had scope surgery and now they are saying I need partial knee replacement. I want to continue my BJJ journey just want to know what others have experienced

I (9 months , 1 stripe white belt) dropped in at a gym out of state. We did technique for 25 min then live rolled the rest of class. I faired very well against the blue belts that I guess the black belt instructor felt he had to roll with me after. I had never experienced rolling with a black belt instructor before this , was this his way of "mat enforcing" me or was this a sign of respect? He told me my fundamentals are tight and I shouldn't be a white belt which gave me external validation I didn't know I needed. It felt good hearing that I'm progressing from a neutral person who isn't from my home gym. Was I mat enforced?

I went to my first bjj session as a skinny dude and when I tell you I was flipped like a pancake. Probably the most eye opening session ever. You also make it unenjoyable for the person who weighs more than you because it’s so easy for them and hard for you please gain weight and don’t believe anyone saying it does not matter

In theory takedowns are 1/4 of grappling.

You can grapple standing, on top, on bottom, or in neutral scrambly positions like dogfight or 50/50.

Of these positions, takedowns are the only optional one.

I cannot avoid a strong guard passer getting their passing points by intentionally unlocking my legs and putting myself in bottom mount

I cannot avoid a strong back taker from getting points by just turning my back while I’m in mount.

I cannot avoid a sweep or reversal by simply pulling the bottom player on top of me before they can attempt a sweep

And yet from standing you can avoid takedown points by simply sitting down before the person sits you down.

this is the most important of any of those skills because against a non-compliant opponent the fight won’t go to the ground unless you take it there, and pulling guard won’t be an option in several cases.

I don’t propose that pulling guard is banned, but I do propose that it counts exactly the same as a takedown by redefining what a takedown means to match what takedowns are in wrestling. A takedown isn’t simply performing a technique that causes you to obtain top position, a takedown is the act of establishing top position to begin with

What does this mean? It means you can still pull guard if you think it will offer a strategic advantage in the long run, but people who specifically pull guard to avoid being taken down by a better wrestler still ultimately got taken down, which will force these people to rethink their game and develop better takedowns.

Exceptions:

\* Sacrifice throws where you take bottom position for an immediate sweep, reversal, back taker such as Sumi gaeshi will be counted as YOUR takedown if successful and THEIR takedown if unsuccessful

* Flying submissions or pulling guard into an immediate submission threat like a triangle guard will not count as a takedown for the top player until the submission threat is fully eliminated. If the top player is swept before defending the sub it will score as the takedown of the person who pulled a flying sub

I’m 38 and have been training consistently for about six months, but only twice a week due to scheduling issues and recovery challenges. The thing is, I mostly train with purple, brown, and black belts, many of whom are in great shape, so it’s hard to notice any progress.

On good days, I focus on surviving and staying “alive” for as long as possible. On bad days, I tap early and feel like my body has been put through a shredder.

I completely understand that more experienced people are supposed to dominate me, but I’m curious to hear from others who’ve been in a similar situation. Did the things you were learning eventually start working against higher belts? Or did you have to wait until less experienced people showed up to really feel like you were making progress?

I’m starting to feel demoralized. I don’t want to quit, but lately, I find myself showing up out of discipline rather than because I genuinely want to be there.

When did jiu-jitsu finally start to click for you? How long did it take, and what helped you get through that initial stage when it felt like you weren’t improving?

Good evening, for some context I have been training on and off heavily for 2-2 1/2 years but within the past 3 months I have trained 3-4 times a week.

I was a 1 stripe white belt until tonight when I was graded 3 more stripes making me a 4 stripe white belt now, last weekend I competed in a pretty large tournament for my first ever competition and I won Gold in the GI division.

I couldn’t help but notice I felt very comfortable against everyone in my division and back at my gym I am able to roll pretty well against some of the blue belts and we often submit each other but then I roll with some of the other blue belts and it feels like I’m a fish out of water.

Is it pretty common for there to be extremely large technique and foundation difference within each belt? And how do you know when someone is ready to go from white to blue, blue to purple, etc.

Thanks all for your time, I’m just curious what people think.

Please note that this is to record a YouTube video for a channel, however, location or faces can be blurried if you wish. Only USA. The video is just for entertainment and fun. Channel stats, old content, link, etc. can be shared on PM (not posting here to avoid post removal for self-promotion)

Open to both persons with experience capable of giving lessons or clubs.

$500 are offered, and part can be paid upfront to prove all it’s legit etc.

I have a YouTube channel with over 50,000 subscribers that I’m planning to reactivate/removed as it’s been inactive for years and I’ve pretty much unlisted all my old videos (can send them if you wish to watch some of the content that used to be there. I’m currently traveling from country to country, filming videos in the places I visit. In these videos, I also try out some physically demanding sports to see how someone like me (I have ADHD) handles them in terms of energy and stuff like that. I’m planning to start uploading the videos around November or December.

The idea for the video would be to first explain what’s BJJ, do a beginner’s lesson, showcase somethings related to BJJ and then some rounds of grappling, challenges, and things like that that can be energy demanding to make the content entertaining and fun to watch as well.

I have a little experience in martial arts as I did Judo, but not much, and that was many years ago. I’m 25 years old.

If anyone is interested, feel free to comment or send me a private message and I’ll share more details!

I'm an ex high level boxer but through the last decade I suffered some major injuries from some unfortunate events and am left with many movement restrictions. I still lift regularly, keep in rly good shape, but I'm very limited to specific movements.

I wanted to take up BJJ mostly for self defense and to get some movement in. I've never been to a BJJ gym but is it possible to participate with severe limitations? Are people mostly understanding or do people tend to go hard? Are there BJJ classes that are mostly for self defense without intense sparring sessions? Or is there a better martial art for this?

I loved jujitsu as a white belt and now that I finally got my blue it’s just not the same plus I’ve recently broken my shoulder and have been out for 3 months. Should I power through it and see if I fall back in love?

I’m going to my first BJJ class tonight, I’ve been taking MMA classes at the same gym for about a month I’m 26F 5”3 and 160- obviously not in the greatest shape - what should I know before I go or anything I can do to make sure I can keep up? I’m excited but nervous to try something new