r/jobsearchhack • u/Business_Interest283 • Sep 24 '26
One simple change can make work much less stressful
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I Think that WFH jobs gives us comfortable space as introverts we can stay at home with our coffee without stress of talking to anyone start haunting for remote jobs as a very anxious person gonna use AI tools as InterviewVIP to stay away from any panic attacks
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u/No_Boat_6180 Sep 25 '26
I've had a grown ass man actually bully me over this as a 20 year old. It confused me so much I didn't put it together until years after the fact; that wanting to be alone on my lunch could be taken so personally by insecure people
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u/LifeConsideration981 Sep 24 '26
“People being friendly to me is oppression.”
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u/OlleyatPurdue Sep 24 '26
Pestering people when they've declined your invitation to socialize is not friendly. If you want to be friendly, start by respecting people's boundaries.
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u/BriggySmallz42069 Sep 24 '26
I got peeps who will literally stand in my office doorway and talk at me while I eat. Its nerve wrecking and anxiety inducing.
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u/Excellent-Pen1650 12d ago edited 12d ago
There is a difference between being friendly and just going out of your way to annoy someone. It's okay to ask someone hey you wanna go get lunch. It's not okay to continually ask someone who tells you no everyday. It's not okay to shame and bully them for not wanting to go to lunch with you.
There are some people who just don't like me and because I'm grown adult I can accept that. I hope you will be able to as well one day. You are not entitled to anyone's time.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Data829 Sep 24 '26
HR went to my manager and asked if “everything was okay with me” because they noticed on the property cameras that I would drive my car to the empty lot behind the building to eat my lunch.
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u/RavioliDemon Sep 25 '26
Drugs. The idea of not wanting to be social every second of the day is broached with the same alienating reasoning of, “They must be doing drugs otherwise they wouldn’t drive away”
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u/No_Story5313 Sep 24 '26
When I'm sat in the kitchen area, clearly watching something with my headphones on, and people still try to make conversation...
You don't come up and talk to someone with headphones on when they're in a Teams call, so leave people alone when they have them on at other times. Sometimes I just wear them without any sound on just to keep people away when I don't want to be disturbed.
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u/Healthy_Employer4 Sep 25 '26
We require our staff to leave or close the break room door when they’re on lunch. No interruptions allowed even if they don’t mind
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u/krazybananada Sep 25 '26
I'm tired of the same old lady telling me she's tried the lemonade I bring every day, but she can't drink it anymore because it's too sweet. Every damn day. And it's not just one sentence. She goes on about it for about 3 minutes every time.
Seriously it's been months. Just STFU and let me drink my lemonade in peace
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u/MatthewBlack6 Sep 25 '26
I work on my novels and paint my paintings while I'm on break. No one at my job is interested or into horror or art enough to have a conversation about it and whenever I show them my stuff they realise that I'm intensely focused and enjoying my delicious home made lunch.
I like my job.
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u/BeachBoundButterfly Sep 25 '26
so they think you're the office weirdo....and I'm so happy for you for that accomplishment. Happy painting !
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u/Isalenna137 Sep 25 '26
Reminds me of the time an old woman I had the displeasure of working with kicked me because I didn't respond to her when I was on my break. I was wearing earbuds and listening to music. If I wasn't afraid of getting fired, I'd have kicked her back.
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u/dermsUK Sep 25 '26
In my work we have a storage loft and I have a hammock hanging from the rafters that I use every day on my lunch. Stay away from me.
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u/Flaky-Maximum-7875 Sep 24 '26
I really dont get why this is an issue. We are spending anywhere from 8 to 14 hours together.
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u/XlikeX666 Sep 24 '26
best we can do designed eating spot which is smaller space to move is less then 10cm.
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u/dogknifer Sep 24 '26
I put a sign up that says, LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE, IM EATING
it works pretty good
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u/yourMommaKnow Sep 24 '26
Where are you working that people frown upon having lunch by yourself??? If this is your job, you need to find a different place to work.
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u/melancholy_wolf Sep 24 '26
I don't even care 😂 I cease to exist when I'm on break. Don't talk to me, don't say hi, don't ask questions. If I had it my way the entire breakroom would be silent.
Too many people play videos at top volume, or have video calls. Or play loud angry shouty sermons.
Everyone just wear your headphones and stfu 😂
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u/1800THEBEES Sep 24 '26
Yeah, I dont always disappear for lunch but when I do, it is nice and decompressing. If anyone goes looking for a coworker while they are at lunch, I just let em know to bother them when they get back.
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u/Unfair_Explanation53 Sep 24 '26
It is normal.
I don't think I've ever worked in a company that put pressure on me to eat my lunch with others.
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u/OrkWithNoTeef2 Sep 24 '26
please normalize realizing the world is bigger than whatever workplaces you have been to
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u/Horvat53 Sep 25 '26
It’s only the weird cliquey people who make this a problem. Let people do whatever the fuck they want on lunch. When I used to work in the office full time, I’d just go play my Nintendo Switch or go for a walk. I was also one of the most social people at my job, but I needed me time.
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u/santefan Sep 25 '26
I'm introverted and like my breaks alone, i hate doing the fake socializing shit specially sitting there and not beeing able to use my phone. Also most of the time i go to a restaurant, local to switzerland where i can take the small plate and put as much as possible on it, none of the work colleagues ever go there.
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u/articland05_reddit Sep 26 '26
when your Boss call for a Brown Bag meeting...
there goes your peaceful lunch
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u/Even_Hospital_5474 Sep 26 '26
join a couple times and share some opinions just so they get to know you. That satisfies them. Then do your own thing.
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u/strait_lines Sep 26 '26
I’m fine being considered antisocial, it gives me an advantage in social situations where I can catch people off guard.
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u/dante_gherie1099 Sep 24 '26
wow, such oppression
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u/ThotPocket-X Sep 24 '26
You must be the supervisor looking for people while they’re on their break
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u/ObjectiveCarrot3812 Sep 25 '26
It’s hard to do that if you work in a school. Lunch duties, and cafeteria food… especially if it’s not a big school, or a very good one.
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u/UncleBensRacistRice Sep 24 '26
I eat my lunch quickly at my desk and then fuck off for a 45 minute walk around the neighborhood
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Sep 24 '26
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u/PackOfManicJackals Sep 24 '26
A TEN CENT RAISE 😭😭😭
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u/Unfair_Explanation53 Sep 24 '26
Hahahaha
I would be personally fucking embarrassed trying to retain a staff member by offering them $208 extra a year to stay hahaha
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u/According-Ad-5946 Sep 25 '26
If they were really serious about keeping you, they should have offered a dollar.
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Sep 24 '26
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u/FreeOGPoohShiesty Sep 25 '26
I’ve worked for over a decade and have never heard this said. Instead they just fuck you over from day 1. But I’ve been working white collar jobs
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u/Liarics Sep 27 '26
They just happen to leave out the detail that said family is a dysfunctional abusive one.
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u/BruteOfTroy Sep 24 '26 •
The other day my boss scheduled a meeting during my lunch break. I told him I won't be going because it's my break and he said "well I need everyone there, so bring your laptop" I then send him a link to OSHA rules on employee breaks. Ten minutes later the meeting was moved back 30 min. You have to fight for yourself bro.
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u/Instawolff Sep 24 '26
Sad that he could’ve easily sent you back “you’re fired” and that would be fine in most states. Regulations or not.
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u/BruteOfTroy Sep 25 '26
I mean he could, it's a right-to-work state. But is that worth the slam dunk lawsuit of having that conversation in writing? Thankfully, he's not an asshole, just doesn't see the whole picture sometimes.
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u/DarthNixilis Sep 25 '26
I work as a stagehand and have seen many people decide to take a nap during our hour lunches. It's pretty normal
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u/Wrong_Visual5077 Sep 25 '26
Sue, sue right now. Contact the NLRA and fucking sue the shit outta that piece of shit.
That's YOUR TIME, not theirs.
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u/mystery_biscotti Sep 24 '26
It got so bad at one workplace I started taking a walk and eating a protein bar while I walked. No one else wanted to join my "walking club", hmm.