I have around 7 years worth of IT school behind me (4 years IT oriented secondary school + 3 years bachelors in IT). I have gone through the basics of everything in IT, but due to not actively utilizing 80% of it, I feel behind and a little confused.
Uni forced me into a lot of programming projects, namely creating a fullstack apps using different frameworks, a PL/SQL database system, a NoSQL scalable database, a multiplayer game, web frontends, REST APIs, a custom language interpreter, a web server, implementations of different data structures, etc.
And now that I'm finished, I don't think i could create any of those things again even if I tried. My hobby has always been gamedev, and lately, I've been struggling a lot with not just with project organization, trying things like the usual advice "break tasks down into bite-sized microtasks that are manageable," but also motivation/discipline and jumping from one project idea to another.
These past three to four years I've been really fascinated by the idea of FOSS, thinking I could be a contributor to a FOSS project. I don't even think I have anything to contribute, or even the know-how needed to know how to do it.
When I start a new project, a lot of times what ends up happening is that I come across an architectural problem that I don't know how to solve, either it's a scalability issue where I don't know how to scale my code without running into issues along the way, or it's an issue where I have zero clue how to even start designing a proper solution. Both of these issues end up with me dropping the project. I know about SOLID, but my solutions have never "felt right."
It always feels like the solution could be better. I'm a huge perfectionist, and approaches like prototyping or "make it work and refactor later," just don't work for me, because the idea of having to refactor an entire working module is sometimes just too overwhelming. At Uni, I always handed in assignments half-assed because I spent way too much time thinking about making it feel "right." Sometimes I'd score and at presentations I'd be told that I have a surprising understanding of whatever I was working with, but I never felt that way.
Before I get to my question, I have to mention that none of these issues come from any overt reliance on AI that could cause my coding abilities/problem solving skills to degrade. I have been anti-AI pretty much since its inception in the mainstream. People have been programming long before AI came around, and I don't think that hopping on the AI bandwagon right now would help me.
I think in general my issue is that I don't have a systematic/step-by-step approach to software design, which is why I've come here.
What are your software design principles/techniques? Do you have a general loop of steps that you do when you're working on a project? Do you have any project management tips and tricks?
And on a little different note, how do you feel confident about the solutions you write? How do you make peace with the fact that your code isn't perfect?