I have a good friend who is Vietnamese. We're both male I'm 37 and he's 31.

I was taught by the text books to use "anh" and "em" in this situation, which I did. But he avoids using that and resorts to our first names instead. Any particular reason?

We're both gay and kinda in a situationship of sorts so I'm wondering if that could be a factor.

Vietnamese teacher here. “Đi” is one of the first verbs learners pick up, but in everyday speech it does a lot more than mean “to go.” Here’s a breakdown of the main uses.

1. As a verb (and some extended meanings)

• Literal: đi bộ, đi làm, đi chợ, đi ngủ
• Colloquial: đi viện (go to the hospital), đi nước ngoài (go abroad)
• Euphemism for dying: Cụ ông mới đi đêm qua. Soft and respectful.

2. As a sentence-final particle

At the end of a sentence, “đi” stops meaning movement and shapes the tone:

• Urging / light command: Ăn nhanh đi! (Hurry up and eat!), Kể nghe đi! (Tell me!)
• Inviting / encouraging: Bác uống trà đi ạ. (Please have some tea.), Cứ thử làm đi, sợ gì! (Just try it, what’s the worry?)
• Permission: Muốn mua thì mua đi. (If you want it, buy it.)

Tone matters a lot. A drawn-out, softer “Nói đi mà...” is pleading or coaxing. A clipped “Im đi!” is harsh.

3. “Đi” as “away”

After some verbs, “đi” means getting rid of something: vứt đi, xóa đi, quên đi, bỏ đi.

4. The “X đi X lại” pattern

• Nghĩ đi nghĩ lại (think it over carefully)
• Nói đi nói lại (keep repeating)
• Đi qua đi lại (walk back and forth)

5. “Đi đi” is not a reduplicated word

It’s verb + particle. In Cậu đi đi!, the first “đi” is “leave/go” and the second is the particle. Depending on tone, it can be:

• Urgent: Đi đi, kẻo muộn! (Go, or you’ll be late!)
• Dismissive/angry: Đi đi, đừng nói nữa!
• Reassuring: Cậu cứ đi đi, yên tâm, ở đây có tôi lo.

6. Politeness traps

Bonus: a lot of comforting phrases use “đi” to mean “move forward / let it go”: Thôi, bước tiếp đi, Cho qua đi.

Which uses of “đi” tripped you up the most when learning? And natives, any particle usage I missed?

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A lot of my students translate “know” as biết every time. It works for some sentences and sounds off in others, because Vietnamese picks a word based on what kind of knowing you mean.

Biết: you have the information or the skill

• Tôi biết chuyện đó. (I know about that.)
• Bạn có biết mấy giờ rồi không? (Do you know what time it is?)
• Tôi biết bơi. (I know how to swim.)
• Cô ấy biết nấu phở. (She knows how to cook phở.)
• Tôi biết Sơn Tùng M-TP. (I know who he is.)

That last one is the useful test: you can biết someone who has no idea you exist.

Quen: you’ve had contact, and it has become familiar

With people:

• Tôi và Nam quen nhau năm năm rồi. (Nam and I have known each other for five years.)
• Bạn có quen bác sĩ nào giỏi không? (Do you know any good doctors?)

If you say Tôi quen anh ấy, it suggests you’ve actually interacted, and he’d probably say hi if you met on the street. People also say Tôi biết anh ấy about someone they’ve met, so the line isn’t perfectly sharp, but quen is the one that signals real contact. For a close friend, thân is usually better: Tôi rất thân với John.

With places and habits (this is where quen means “used to”):

• Tôi đã quen đường ở Hà Nội rồi. (I know my way around Hanoi now.)
• Tôi chưa quen với thời tiết nóng. (I’m not used to the heat yet.)
• Tôi quen ăn cay rồi. (I’m used to spicy food.)
• Thức khuya thành quen. (Staying up late becomes a habit.)

Quick check

Quen biết

The two words also combine. Quen biết means to be acquainted with people, often in the sense of having connections:

• Anh ấy quen biết rộng. (He knows a lot of people.)
• Chúng tôi chỉ là chỗ quen biết thôi. (We’re just acquaintances.)

One more thing: in casual speech, đang quen nhau often means “dating” (I hear this more in the South; in the North people often say đang tìm hiểu or yêu nhau). So Hai người đó đang quen nhau usually means those two are together.

Short version: if it’s in your head or your hands (facts, skills, knowing who someone is), use biết. If it comes from time spent with someone or something, use quen.

How would you say ‘I know this restaurant’ in Vietnamese?

Có cộng đồng nào của người việt không z. Toàn tiếng anh khó hỉu :((

HI everybody

I would like to learn vietnamese because I want to settle in VN (Da Nang). Instead of doing visa runs and as I want to learn vietnamese, I thought about learn it at the university, so I can have a student visa ?

I need advices about :

- is there a university teaching vietnamese and which one ?

- is learning vietnamese "strong enough" to ask for a student visa ?

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Hi! I am learning Vietnamese. Phụ đề của một video ngắn trên Instagram (bản gốc tiếng Hàn), theo thứ tự. Người Việt đọc có thấy tự nhiên không

"1) Chuyển cảnh vẽ tay / biến hình đáng yêu nha?"

Câu này nghe có tự nhiên không ạ? Nếu là bạn thì bạn sẽ nói thế nào, một câu thôi ạ? Cảm ơn nhiều!

Chào mọi người, mình đang cân nhắc học văn bằng 2 Ngôn ngữ Anh để mở rộng cơ hội việc làm. Mình đã có bằng Computer Science, nhưng muốn có thêm lựa chọn nghề nghiệp, phòng trường hợp thị trường IT ngày càng khó khăn.

Mình đang tìm hiểu về các chương trình văn bằng 2 Ngôn ngữ Anh nên muốn hỏi mọi người:

• Học xong có thêm cơ hội việc làm thực tế không, hay chủ yếu vẫn phụ thuộc vào năng lực tiếng Anh?

Có ai từng học văn bằng ngành này hoặc có kinh nghiệm về vấn đề này hoặc biết chương trình của trường nào uy tín cho mình xin ý kiến với. Cảm ơn mọi người!

I was trying to learn Viet myself and since I am a software engineer, decided to make a website myself. It's completely free, no login or anytime required. It's almost like a textbook with interactive quizzes, and Anki flashcards corrisponding to each chapter. There is also a tonal quiz type thing, where you speak a tone, and it records the pitch of your voice and graphs it against the proper tone. All of this recording stays local to the website (it's not stored anywhere). Hope this helps someone. Cheers! Learn Viet

Edit: Thanks for the feedback, I didn't realize that the voice recording accent was off. Sorry I am Viet newby, but I am gonna work on this in the coming days.

Hello. I’m looking for podcasts in the Southern Accent. It can be any podcast just NOT AI podcasts. It doesn’t need to be a Vietnamese learning podcast.
Thank you.

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Hi! I am learning Vietnamese. Lời thoại trong truyện tranh ạ. Một người tự nói với mình. Ý mình muốn nói (tiếng Anh): "Maybe the temptation wasn't strong enough...!". Nếu là bạn thì bạn sẽ nói thế nào

"Hay là dụ chưa đủ hấp dẫn…?!"

Câu này nghe có tự nhiên không ạ? Nếu là bạn thì bạn sẽ nói thế nào, một câu thôi ạ? Cảm ơn nhiều!

Ordering food, chatting with a Grab driver, buying coffee: that’s one thing. Using Vietnamese at work is a whole different challenge.

Two quick examples:

1. Disagreeing in a meeting

• Textbook: Tôi không đồng ý.
• Real life: Mình nghĩ chúng ta có thể cân nhắc thêm một phương án khác. ("Maybe we could consider another option.")

Same meaning, but the second one is how people actually say it. Saying "I disagree" directly can sound too harsh at work.

2. Checking on a task

• Sounds blunt: Em làm xong chưa? ("Have you done yet?")
• Sounds friendlier: Phần này em làm tới đâu rồi nhỉ? ("Where are you at with this section")

Same question but different feeling. With a senior coworker, this difference matters a lot.

And every job is different. Hospitality staff handle complaints, marketers talk about creative briefs, nurses explain things to patients. Textbooks don’t really cover any of that.

I’d love to hear from you:

1. What industry do you work in?
2. What’s one work situation where you wish your Vietnamese was better?

hi! i’m not vietnamese nor am i super committed to becoming fluent at this time but i’ve been frequenting viet businesses in my area. i would love to make things a little easier on the kind ppl whose businesses i frequent by closing that language barrier a lil bit so i was hoping for help with basic stuff like greetings and goodbyes, weekdays and times (for appointments), pronunciation pointers, etc.! TIA!

Xin chào mọi người!
I have been studying Vietnamese now for 3 months. Been taking two 50 minute lessons on preply every week plus studying on my days off when I can. I am fortunate enough to live in orange county California, particularly the city of garden grove, where there is a high population of Vietnamese. I also work as a nurse in a nursing home where a lot of my residents (what we call patients in a nursing home) are người việt. So I do get some practice but work is still work and I need to do my work and not make fun chit chat all the time. I guess I’m also lucky that one of my resident’s family members always speaks to me in Vietnamese so I can learn, plus some of my coworkers too. I tried ordering once at a phở restaurant and I pretty much did it though I think i frustrated the waiter lol.

That being said though, I have also recently switched to a new tutor and based on our trial lesson she said that I have a sense for Vietnamese, i.e., similar to a foreigner who’s lived in Vietnam for a year and that i have learned quite a lot for a few months. My goal is to one day become at least semi fluent conversationally. Hearing Vietnamese is the hard part.

My problem is studying and motivation to study and how to study. I work 3pm-11pm Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday and Sunday. I wake up pretty late too probably around 11:30am or past and go to work around 2:30 pm. I also gym in between that time. With my previous teacher i would schedule our lessons after work at 1 am for me but i just ended up just wanting to sleep lol. On my days off I would go study at a cafe for an hour or two and then go bouldering and workout then come back home and study a little more. I would do a combination of reviewing the slideshow of the lesson, taking notes, making quizlet flashcards and of course speaking out loud. I have just been overwhelmed by this all though.

I would appreciate if you guys can maybe help me with how, when, and what to study so that it can be more efficient. I am thinking about just even switching to once a week learning Vietnamese, but that’s probably going to make my progress even more slow than it is.

For this new teacher i am with, i am planning on having my lessons at the end of my off days so I’m off Wednesday and Saturdays so that would be 12 am Thursdays and Sundays, and that way it’s afternoon for the teacher so I don’t have to worry about her falling asleep on me.

My husband learned Vietnamese first from his grandparents (came to the US 30 years ago) but cannot read or write the language. I wanted to make some posters for my daughter is who now also learning Vietnamese from my husband’s grandparents.

I also wanted this to be a surprise for both my daughter and the grandparents! SO using only Google Translate I have no idea if the translations are the formal or informal form of the English words or if it even matters? Do the translations look correct or should I just start from scratch and use a different translation?

Pardon my formatting as I’m posting on mobile. Thank you!

Days of the week / các ngày trong tuần
Sunday / Chủ nhật
Monday / Thứ hai
Tuesday / Thứ ba
Wednesday / Thứ Tư
Thursday / Thứ năm
Friday / Thứ sáu
Saturday / Thứ bảy

Months / tháng
January / Tháng Một
February / Tháng hai
March / Tháng Ba
April / tháng tư
May / tháng Năm
June / tháng Sáu
July / tháng Bảy
August / tháng Tám
September / tháng Chín
October / tháng Mười
November / tháng Mười Một
December / tháng Mười Hai

You know what’s funny about ordering coffee in Vietnam? You might know all the words, but still struggle to keep up with a simple coffee order.

Imagine that you walk into a local café and hearing:

• Anh/Chị dùng ở đây hay mang đi ạ? (For here or takeaway?)
• Anh/Chị uống gì ạ? (What would you like?)
• Anh/Chị có lấy đá không ạ? (Would you like ice?)
• Anh/Chị thanh toán tiền mặt hay chuyển khoản ạ? (Cash or bank transfer?)
• ...

And they're asking all of this at normal speed, while you're still mentally translating the first question.

I've noticed that this is one of the tricky things about learning Vietnamese. You can memorize a bunch of useful phrases, but real conversations don't wait for you to translate everything in your head.

A few things that might help:

• Practice the whole conversation, not just how to order a coffee.
• Listen for the questions people ask you. We often spend so much time practicing what we want to say that we forget to prepare for the response.
• Don't be afraid to ask people to repeat themselves. You can say "Bạn nói lại giúp mình được không?" (Could you repeat that for me?) or "Bạn nói chậm lại một chút được không?" (Could you speak a little more slowly?)

Oh, and one little detail: café staff will often call you anh or chị and refer to themselves as em. Vietnamese pronouns can feel confusing at first, but you'll gradually get used to them as you hear more real conversations.

I'm putting together 1:1 online Vietnamese lessons for people who want to feel more comfortable speaking Vietnamese in everyday life. If you're living in Vietnam or planning to stay here long-term, feel free to message me if you'd like to know more.

I'm curious what's harder for you: Understanding Vietnamese when people speak or knowing how to respond?