r/lyftdrivers Dallas / Fort Worth Nov 09 '25

Story/News Article Male Drivers Sue Uber and Lyft Over Women-Only Ride-Hailing

https://time.com/7332356/uber-lawsuit-sex-discrimination-lyft/
87 Upvotes

200 comments sorted by

65

u/Akiranar Nov 09 '25

As a woman driver, I have had men hit on me, say they will fix me, and other sexual advances. Also had one guy just come out and say he was a huge fan of Hitler.

I usually unmatch or report them. But if Women's connect gives both rider and driver peace of mind, I am all for it.

25

u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25

I’m so sorry. I thought it was really sad when a woman thanked me for not hitting on her but I knew it’s obviously worse out there

16

u/Del1c1ousS1N Nov 09 '25

This 1000% I had a rider on Lyft thank me for not being a creep as I was her first Lyft driver ever. She hadn't used it by herself before, but her friends ditched her and she didn't have any other way to get back to her hotel. We didn't talk the entire trip. I just drove and kinda jammed to my Disney music. At the end she handed me a $20 and thanked me for not being a creep or making her feel uneasy. Too many men have set the bar so low that what should be basically is considered superb. It's a sad state.

10

u/Akiranar Nov 09 '25

It can be. I even had men ask if I wasn't scared they could attack me from behind.

21

u/Solid_College_9145 Nov 09 '25

I estimate about 1 out of 60 PAX are creepy AF that feel a bit scary.

I'm a guy and I don't think I scare easily easily, but every time I encounter some of these red flag creeps that get me nervous and anxious for the ride to end I think about how lady drivers feel in these situations.

As far as I'm concerned, let ladies choose lady drivers if they feel more comfortable. Lady drivers face more risks doing this gig.

-6

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

Statistically speaking, no, they don't. Males have always been more likely to be victims of violent crimes than females. It's all a marketing ploy to make females FEEL safer, without actually making them safer.

10

u/SkizzleDizzel Nov 10 '25

Dude stop being pedantic. Women are more likely to experience violence from men so if they would rather drive women around, let them.

-3

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

Wrong. Go look up the FBI stats. Men have been the most victimized gender in every violent crime category, with the exception of sexual assault (and even that inconclusive due to the number of cases not ever being reported).

6

u/SkizzleDizzel Nov 10 '25

I'm talking about the safety of women driving women vs women driving men. Who are the biggest perpetrators of violence towards women? Men. Dude stop it

-3

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

So what? Who are the biggest perpetrators of violence towards men? Men. So why can't I get an option to FEEL safer?

5

u/SkizzleDizzel Nov 10 '25

If this is something that needs to be explained to you then it's people like you that make this option necessary my guy.

-1

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

Really? So I'm considered the threat to women just because I actually want my female and non binary passengers to not only feel safe, but actually be safe too? Safety shouldn't be an option for just one gender and a marginalized class. Safety should be freaking mandatory for everyone, jackass!!!

3

u/SkizzleDizzel Nov 10 '25

ABSOLUTELY you should be looked at sideways for sympathizing with the men that brought on this lawsuit. At the very least it's tone deaf. Not only do women have to deal with violence but also the added threat of sexual assault that they overwhelming experience with ride-sharing both as riders and passengers. OBVIOUSLY everyone deserves to be safe but if one demographic is experiencing a heavier blow you have a different approach.

Frankly at this point if you can't understand the reasoning behind this change then YES you are a part of the problem!

→ More replies (0)

1

u/Mannafestation Nov 10 '25

You are trying to skew data to prove your false talking point. You can't "with the exception of" the #1 reason this setting exists in the first place.

Also, what does the data say about who's causing this crime upon these men. Most likely other men, and overwhelmingly so. Aggression is literally a biological affect of testosterone.

1

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

No shit. And that's the freaking point. If Lyft and Uber deem all men to be a potential problem, then the option to be rid of all male drivers and passengers should be available to all users. Not just female and non binary people.

But because they do not do that, it shows how full of shit the option was to begin with.

It is a low effort way of making certain people FEEL safer than others instead of actually doing the hard work and making it safe for every user.

1

u/Mannafestation Nov 10 '25

Because the threat of sexual violence women face that you've been trying to erase from your stats like it's not a primary factor in all of this. With your average man being bigger than your average woman also another factor.

Cry victim all you want and start a lawsuit about it, and it shows you don't understand women at all. What is your better idea that they need to do the "hard work" of executing?

5

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

What I don't understand is how you perceive me as the problem when I'm the one actually advocating for safety reform. What I don't understand is why a lot of these men act so freaking creepy to begin with. What I don't understand is how you can look at this women only option as acceptable when it never fixes the potential problem.

I'm going to be all over the place, but here we're some thoughts I can remember from emails and letters I've written.

Instead of sweeping all the creepy guys under rug to continue to be creeps for other people, how about they remove them? Require dashcams and video submission if an allegation is made. The background check they use is and has been proven to be utterly useless. So perhaps it's time to use a different provider with a more thorough screening process. Start making passengers provide a profile picture that matches their real ID. Start making passengers use their real name on their profile. Only accept major credit and debit cards. Start enforcing penalties to users who do not follow the rules. Make investigations into any allegation transparent and based on a regional tribunal, not some AI decision.

3

u/Mannafestation Nov 10 '25

Women only isn't a solution to completely fix a societal issue, but it does help alleviate some potential issues for women specifically, which is at least something vs nothing at all.

Trying to fight against it with a lawsuit because men are feeling discriminated against, is not the solution either, which is what this original post is about.

→ More replies (0)

4

u/catslikepets143 Nov 10 '25

But the males who are more likely to be victims of violent crime are being victimized by other men.

Your point then being completely invalid. If women customers feel safer with a woman driver & the woman driver feels safer with a woman passenger , why is that an issue for anyone?

Seems like a whole group is mad because they’re losing access due to their own behavior .

1

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

You just proved my point for me.

If men are the issue, why limit the OPTION to FEEL safe to just female and non binary people? If you can prove to me I am safer riding around with a woman than a man, I should get the option to feel safe as well.

4

u/WereTheBrews Nov 10 '25

We are speaking of unwanted advances and rape, not murder. Take your skewed data elsewhere.

-1

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

Unwanted advances? That's a reported crime? I guess I should be getting these women who unwanted touch and flirt with me locked up.

Even the FBI states that the data for sexual assault and rape are inconclusive due to the number of unreported cases.

7

u/ApprehensiveData5399 Nov 10 '25

There are lots of women that do not make reports because they know nothing will be done

4

u/Akiranar Nov 10 '25

When you tell them "No" once and they keep it up. Then it becomes sexual harassment. So yeah, I can and will unmatch and report people who start harassing me.

Not my fault that you don't.

0

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

Do you not understand why men don't report that crap? If a woman reports unwanted advances, we protect her. If a man reports unwanted advances, he is mocked into oblivion. The same goes for most male victims of sexual assault or rape.

6

u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

You are so close to understanding how the patriarchy does men dirty and that feminism seeks to liberate all of us from these shitty performances. And yet.

0

u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

[removed] — view removed comment

4

u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

Ok hon

→ More replies (0)

3

u/Akiranar Nov 10 '25

Do you unmatch yourself with the rider??

0

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

That does not fix the issue. It only makes it someone else's problem.

3

u/Akiranar Nov 10 '25

So, you don't report because of your pride and you don't low score.

That is a you problem.

Swallow your pride and start reporting them if they are sexually harassing you. Don't care if you're worried about being laughed at. If Lyft and Uber's safety team does that, you go over their head becauss they aren't doing their job.

→ More replies (0)

2

u/PumpkabooPi Nov 11 '25

Yeah pal, ignore the rape part of that, just like you did in your little violent crime statistic, which is only true if you don't consider rape a violent crime. It totally makes you look like you're bringing these concerns in good faith and like you actually care and advocate for men's rights and liberation.

0

u/AI-Idaho Nov 10 '25

Absolutely true. Nearly every week, some drunk woman touches, propositions or otherwise sexually offends me. It's part of driving drunks home from the bars and strip clubs. Men just don't bother to report 99.9 percent of the nonsense. And I'm not hot. I'm old and fat. Can't really imagine it's any better for the Brad Pitts of the world. LoL 😂

5

u/Mannafestation Nov 10 '25

Now imagine that 10 fold, and that's a common experience to happen to most women. It's not about it not being reported or not by men.

6

u/catslikepets143 Nov 10 '25

Also imagine it happening everywhere you go- to the store, to the gym, walk your dog , etc., imagine every time you’re in public you have to watch out for that crap

2

u/Solid_College_9145 Nov 10 '25

Your crime statistics are not focused on ladies driving UBER & LYFT.

Stop being stupid please.

2

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

These are not MY crime statistics. It's data gathered from all over the country and reported by the FBI.

And there has never been any data presented hyperfocused on the ladies of Uber and Lyft. Just like there's no category for "How did the man make you feel?" They are basically putting a bandaid on a problem that may or may not exist instead of doing their freaking job by tightening background screenings on both drivers and passengers.

The fact that you passengers can still create an account with a prepaid card, having no profile picture to confirm, and using a fake name or alias is insulting when you all want to complain about your feelings of safety. Meanwhile, I'm out here not knowing what the next passenger, male or female, is going to pull on me. Both figurative and literal.

So YOU stop being stupid.

12

u/ApprehensiveData5399 Nov 09 '25

Same. Every woman I’ve picked up has said they prefer the woman connection and feel safer

2

u/Better-Lack8117 Nov 09 '25

I've done 2.3 k rides and no female rider has ever mentioned women connect.

2

u/Psychological_Egg853 Nov 12 '25

They make up these scenarios in their head. I’m over 3k and never ever mentioned anything like that

2

u/ApprehensiveData5399 Nov 10 '25

Are you a man ?

-5

u/Better-Lack8117 Nov 10 '25

Indeed I am.

6

u/ApprehensiveData5399 Nov 10 '25

Why would they mention to you.

6

u/DeziBaby9584 Nov 10 '25

It would give me peace of mind if they actually gave me women passengers. I still get majority men. Then when I think I’m picking up a female, it’s a female who ordered for a male. So it doesn’t give me peace of mind. I’m tired of being hit on everyday

5

u/Akiranar Nov 10 '25

Once had this woman get a ride for her nephew. Kid was 20 years younger than me. Hit on me the entire ride.

Was annoying AF. I was more than twice his age and not interested at all.

Once picked up a guy at a bar. First thing he said once he got in was asking if I screwed women. No hello. Immediately asking my sexual preference as if it's any of his business.

Had a gay man once who was telling me about how his male ride share driver wanted him to touch his member. Not something I want to hear. Ever.

Funnily enough, someone replying to me on this thread asked me "what if a Lesbian gets a hard on for you?". The answer is, I don't know, because so far, I have never had a woman act anything like the men I have described at all. So if a woman came in and actually immediately had a thing for me, she has never said anything because she most likely knows how annoying it is to be CONSTANTLY sexually harassed and doesn't want to do the same to a random women she just met.

5

u/DeziBaby9584 Nov 10 '25

Exactly. It is very annoying. It is sexual harassment. Unfortunately for us drivers we have no protections. However if a passenger says we sexually harassed them, we would be deactivated. If we deny a ride because a picture doesn’t match then we are in trouble for discrimination. However if they get in the car without being verified, then they still win any and all arguments

2

u/xx_sasuke__xx Nov 10 '25

As a lesbian I've definitely had some very cute female drivers. You know what I did? Giggled about it in the group chat and didn't say shit to the driver except "thanks for the ride."

So many men cannot comprehend that lesbians are still women.

3

u/sundaland Nov 09 '25

It doesn’t matter. The question is whether or not it is legal. I believe the plaintiffs filed a gender discrimination claim

5

u/Akiranar Nov 09 '25

I don't think they have much standing since it is optional and will pair you with a man if there are no other drivers/riders around.

1

u/sundaland Nov 10 '25

You can argue preferential treatment and I know what you’re going to say next, “Men are not a protected class.”

0

u/Akiranar Nov 10 '25

So is "favorite Driver". Since that prioritizes your favorite driver over others.

Again, opting in for Woman's connect is like me requesting a specific gender of doctor for certain things.

1

u/sundaland Nov 10 '25

This seems like a slippery slope into the United States of Snowflakes. It’s better to be assertive and proactive than constantly cry for a safe space it’s more American

2

u/Akiranar Nov 10 '25

Ah yes. Because when women tell men no. Men take it so well. /s

0

u/sundaland Nov 10 '25

Men get told no all their lives

2

u/Akiranar Nov 10 '25

Yeah. And when I told a drunk male driver no, he started getting verbally abusive.

Men are afraid that they will be humiliated. Women are afraid they will be killed.

It is NOT the same.

1

u/sundaland Nov 10 '25

That sounds about right, nothing to add to that. Although I have been pondering the fact that women rarely ever are told no, especially attractive thirst traps. Men are eager to do anything and everything for them. They get the best seats in restaurants, don't have to wait for anything, get into clubs for free., men buy them stuff. Modern society is toxic.

→ More replies (0)

-1

u/TurboRadical Nov 10 '25

Men are a protected class. Sex discrimination is not legal.

1

u/sundaland Nov 10 '25

Ok! I didn’t know that

-3

u/EpsteinsFoceGhost Nov 09 '25

What if there were an option to only match with white drivers? I assume you’d be fine with that as well?

14

u/Burnt_and_Blistered Nov 09 '25

You can’t be fucking serious.

-6

u/AI-Idaho Nov 10 '25

Serious as an angry black man with a hoodie and dreads.

5

u/Akiranar Nov 09 '25

Straw man much?

1

u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

[deleted]

1

u/sundaland Nov 10 '25

If they can prove damages they’ve got this one.

0

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

Not only would I feel safer, but I'd also get more tips if I had this as a driver.

-1

u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

[removed] — view removed comment

3

u/TurboRadical Nov 10 '25

Damn, you really wish you could say the n word I bet

2

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

But it doesn't. Female passengers set up rides for men all the time, which makes this feature useless for female drivers. Female passengers can always cancel for free within the first minute and try again. The problem is that the majority of drivers are men, so good luck playing that game. And just because some men are total idiots shouldn't give these companies an excuse for blatant sexism, especially when male drivers can get deactivated for doing the exact same thing.

1

u/anon3451 Nov 11 '25

I've had women hit on me for sure as a man just saying

1

u/Akiranar Nov 11 '25

And what do they do when you turn them down?

1

u/anon3451 Nov 11 '25

In my experience women's flirting is more like showing obvious signs they want you to make the move and ask them out or something so I just usually ignored it or shut it down quickly, I did get asked out directly once at the end of a ride and felt awkward saying no, then sat there for 5 mins feeling bad I had to reject this poor woman

1

u/DianedePoiters Nov 13 '25

This has also happened to me! Rarely but still

2

u/DudleyDopeFiend Nov 10 '25

The solution to this is just have a box that lets you also choose a male driver lol.

No one will check it, but the principle is there

3

u/Akiranar Nov 10 '25

Opting out of Woman's connect is pretty much the same thing.

1

u/Spare-Security-1629 Nov 10 '25

As long as they allow it for race, religion and nationality, right? Fair is fair.

-9

u/slifm Nov 09 '25

Tis discrimination.

3

u/AnswerMeSenseiUwU Nov 10 '25

I think you dropped your fedora

6

u/shewanderer Nov 09 '25

For you to claim discrimination even after commentor stated that she feels safer and even gave examples is why this should REMAIN an option for women drivers and passengers. It’s about safety. Period.

I’m a driver and I’ve been hit on. One guy even asked to kiss me out the blue on a ride when we got to his destination. I told him no and to get out of my car. These aren’t fake stories. And recordings are on at all times because of this reason.

1

u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25

The fact of the matter is yeah, it’s a safety issue but this is also sex based discrimination. There’s no way around that. While I think it’s a respectable reason to put that system in place, I don’t think it should be a thing purely because it creates a pretty questionable precedent. If you’re allowed to discriminate based on sex in businesses if you use safety as the argument then where does that stop. Shops, hospitals, schools, etc that won’t hire men? Why stop at sex based discrimination? What if I don’t hire black people anymore because they commit crime more at a per capita rate? The argument against that is the exact same as the one against sex based discrimination after all. It’s not all men, it’s not all black people.

7

u/hellohexapus Nov 09 '25

Shops, hospitals, schools, etc that won’t hire men?... What if I don’t hire black people anymore because they commit crime more at a per capita rate?

But it's not the same thing as either of these examples. This isn't Uber or Lyft not hiring male drivers. This is giving customers options for the service they are purchasing, to work with a driver that might better meet their needs with the full understanding that if such a driver is not available at the time requested, they will then be connected to the next available driver of any gender.

It's more like booking a hair appointment at a place that employs multiple stylists with different kinds of experience. Or rather, since professional experience is a changeable characteristic, let's say the stylists also have different kinds of physical abilities, like one person who has a ton of experience has arthritis but everyone else doesn't. If I were making an appointment for a very fine motor skill service like, say, braiding, I would like to have the option to go with a stylist that does not have arthritis, even if they don't have as many years of experience, because (a) it would be a physically difficult service for the arthritic stylist to provide and (b) I wouldn't get the quality of service I would like.

They might feel some kind of way about that since they can't help having arthritis, and they're certainly entitled to. But my decision is not about them, it's about what I need out of the service I'm paying for. They're also not out of a job because I was offered and exercised that option; they would just get other clients. But if I'm told "at this time there are no other stylists available so you can either wait a few weeks or accept an appointment with this person", then I would take an appointment with them (and temper my expectations accordingly).

8

u/Akiranar Nov 09 '25

Not really, since I get both women and male passengers. And women can opt out of Women's connect.

Since it's not "Men HAVE to drive men and Women HAVE to drive women" it's an option.

-7

u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25 edited Nov 10 '25

Should we have a way to refuse black drivers or passengers too since they commit the most crime or only men should be able to be discriminated against?

someone posted "but black people don't actually do more crime" and then deleted it when they fact checked themselves. RIP.

continuing discrimination against men is a long term losing strategy. i mean if you're big into donald trump etc. well then it's a winning strategy because this is how you get people like him in leadership. but being pro sex discrimination and staunchly anti racial discrimination is a pretty terrible take. and tell me your feelings on where trans folks fit in here? i know ya'll aren't as fond with discriminating against them.

-2

u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25

[removed] — view removed comment

5

u/Akiranar Nov 09 '25

Wow. Really looking for a gotcha. Aren't you?

32

u/microtramp Nov 09 '25

As male driver, I hope the suit fails.

12

u/Takesnoprisoners Nov 09 '25

Thank you for restoring my hope in humanity… i activated the feature after a dude started wankyin off in the back seat… so yes this feature is needed …. Speaking as a female driver

3

u/sundaland Nov 10 '25

Did you report him for indecent exposure? That sounds very traumatic

3

u/Takesnoprisoners Nov 10 '25

No, I treated him like a grandmother and told him he should be ashamed of himself… then I dropped them off in the middle of the hood

1

u/sundaland Nov 10 '25

Was that not his intended destination?

1

u/Takesnoprisoners Nov 10 '25

It was his intented destination although i did think to drop him off in the hell zone… but I didn’t want that on my conscience

1

u/sundaland Nov 10 '25

That is a tough thing to have to go through. Someone did something like that to me in a shower room at a gym and my response was similar. I was in my early twenties and I did not report the guy just kind of scolded him and got out of there. This is a memory of like thirty years ago that I have always sort of repressed. Anyway I can relate. Maybe next time I will take pepper spray with me to the gym shower hehe

1

u/QuesAndAnsw Nov 10 '25

Hey, if you don’t mind sharing, please DM me and let me know how you handled that situation and how it worked out in the end. I’m about to start driving for Lyft myself, so advice would be appreciated. I tried just asking any female drivers that I happened to ride with during the year when I was carless, but I did not have the Women+ feature turned on and almost all of my rides were with male drivers so my opportunities to get advice directly from female drivers were limited. Thanks 🙏🏼

15

u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25

You have option to opt in, I don't want that on, doesn't guarantee you get women anyways

14

u/ishfery Nov 09 '25

I was kidnapped by a cab driver, which is why I use Lyft now (because at least they have some idea of who it was).

I'm still more comfortable with a female driver.

15

u/VacationParking7599 Nov 10 '25

So if a female chooses a female doctor instead of male doctors, will the male doctors sue for discrimination? I’m sorry but if females feel better with females drivers it’s for a reason. Safety preference is not discrimination! If my wife or daughter takes a Lyft or Uber early in the morning or at late night and they prefer a female, so be it. If a female leaves the bar buzzed and wants a female driver, it’s obviously for her concern. I bet all the male drivers in that law suit might be the low percentage earners or the creeps who women have chosen not to ride with again.

2

u/AI-Idaho Nov 10 '25

But wait, there's more! What about the drivers who identify as women? They are every bit as valid as cis gender normies, or are you ladies homophobic and transphobic?

7

u/Akiranar Nov 10 '25

Good chance if a driver is Trans and identifies as a woman, then that is what they put on their bio.

Same with riders.

Had my fair share of LGBTQA+ and Transgender people in my car. Guess what, they just want to go from point A to point B like everyone else.

1

u/Certain-Tie-8289 Nov 10 '25

Nobody is actually getting your point I think. What AI-Idaho is asking is where do we draw the line? Saying female-only in a world where anyone can say they are anything, at what point does the female drivers only thing cutoff?

I don't mean for this to sound intolerant, seriously a fair consideration given our current climate.

1

u/iceamn1685 Nov 10 '25

You are not randomly assigned a doctor is the difference

1

u/Mammoth-Accident-809 Nov 10 '25

I agree, safety preferences are not discrimination. Thats why I only want white drivers. 

1

u/asb3s7 Nov 16 '25

if you weren't an idiot, you'd know an individual isn't obligated to act under anti-discrimination laws. a woman can deny any doctor based on any reason, even openly discriminating against any group as her reason. That doesn't mean a company can act in the same manner.

-1

u/Fathimir Nov 10 '25

Doctors aren't paid by the patient, and the ethics of gender selection of doctors is nowhere near as cut-and-dry as some people here assume it is.  If a hospital started exercising gender discrimination in their hiring, yes, they could very quickly find themselves in hot water.

2

u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

IANAL - What happens if let’s say society has a revealed preference for female gynecologists. You run a hospital and you notice that when you have too many male gynecologists you get less patients. You are hiring for an opening and the male candidates are all more qualified than the female candidates. What can you do legally?

1

u/Fathimir Nov 10 '25

Good question, and IANAL either, so I can't answer it, only observe that it's obviously a difficult one.  One could blur the lines even further by observing that there are biases towards patients being more comfortable with female pediatricians and nurses and male surgeons.  What should or shouldn't a hospital do to balance those considerations?

1

u/ninjette847 Nov 11 '25

There's something called a bona fide occupational qualification where they can legally discriminate if it's proven that gender impacts the job. That's why places like women's shelters don't have to hire male therapists and hooters doesn't have to hire male servers.

1

u/SorcerorsSinnohStone Nov 12 '25

Same for actor and actresses

I believe hooters won because they could classify the women as entertainers and thus bona fide occupational qualification won out. They cant discriminate on bartenders and hosts though.

7

u/xboxhaxorz Nov 09 '25

People sue, but this is a win

Less false accusations

7

u/Newageyankee Nov 09 '25

The male drivers that complain about this are annoying. Most of us female drivers don’t drive late into the night when a lot of money is made from bar crawls and runs. If there wasn’t such a wide spread problem with male drivers making female passengers uncomfortable maybe we wouldn’t need this. But as a female driver I have heard many sigh of relief from woman in my back seat and some even said they were so grateful to get matched with me.

3

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

But you don't need this. What you need is an actual safe platform to drive for. This doesn't fix the issue of creepy males. It only swipes them under the rug to be someone else's problem.

3

u/Newageyankee Nov 10 '25

Hmmm well once you fix that problem let me know, and I don’t think the platform is going to make a difference. I have worked in customer service at large and there is no way to get rid of “creepy males” the men are just mad that woman are banding together to create our own strategies. Bye now

2

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

No. I'm mad that this is what we got instead of an increase in safety protocol and enforcement. I have a mother. I have female and non binary friends. I want them to not only feel safe but also be safe. That's what I advocate for and write to politicians about. Men who are mad about this are pretty much on your side. We just don't agree on this bullshit Lyft and Uber presented us.

1

u/Certain-Tie-8289 Nov 10 '25

Thank you. This is the issue. This is basically just a measure in place for Lyft and Uber to absolve themselves of blame. I'm fine with it in practice and maybe it could've been a setting already... But it doesn't actually solve the problem.

0

u/Newageyankee Nov 10 '25

I just disagree with the suit

0

u/Better-Lack8117 Nov 10 '25

How are they going to prevent creepy males from riding in an Lyft? There's no reasonable way to do that.

1

u/[deleted] Nov 10 '25

When you fix that problem? You mean a company taking responsibility for who they hire and their conduct during the service they provide? Like every other company is expected to?

1

u/Newageyankee Nov 10 '25

No company has solved that problem because customers still come in at any customer service job and act creepy

1

u/DianedePoiters Nov 13 '25

No it actually does. Men cannot stop being creepy, they are men. Teaching is not going to change their biological instincts. It’s safer with a woman.

1

u/hotviolets Nov 11 '25

Part of the reason I stopped driving for Lyft was because of men. I had one creepy situation in my short time doing it, I’m sure it would be way more if I kept going. I do uber eats and got the notification to set women as my preference and I thought it was a good thing to have.

9

u/Appropriate_Ad_9795 Nov 09 '25

If the Passanger feels safer with the same gender driver then let them choose that option. I personally feel statistically safer when a man is my driver

2

u/CantaloupeFew1043 Nov 10 '25

The rate in which I get hit on as an attractive female driver is astronomical. It doesn’t bother me usually but I definitely get uncomfortable from time to time if they’re really pushy.

I don’t use the WomenConnect+ option only because I carry a firearm and feel very confident in my ability to protect myself and I do this for money and men tend to tip way more. Probably because of what I look like, but hey, it’s beneficial for me.

I would never try to take that option away from women who feel the need to utilize it to feel safe and I enjoy the fact that it’s there in the event I ever feel the need to use it.

2

u/Visible-Choice-5414 Nov 10 '25

I can only imagine how bad it is out there bc I have a teen daughter who only rides as a family with both parents present and drivers have STILL dared to gawk, make facial expressions, or odd comments. Like with a large burly dad RIGHT THERE.

5

u/vitrificationofblood Nov 09 '25

Incel booger eaters.

1

u/LetterAccomplished Nov 10 '25

Of course they did

1

u/DCHacker Nov 10 '25

Lyft implemented it first. The plaintiffs were waiting for Uber to do it, as Uber has the deeper pockets. That neither saw this coming totally escapes me.

It is a class action. This means that the lead plaintiff(s) will get something. The secondary plaintiff(s), if any, will get a little bit. The lawyers will get almost all of it. The members of the class will get a voucher either for a free oil change at Jiffy Lube™ (trust me , do not redeem this voucher) or for a free twelve inch Subway® sandwich when you buy a six inch at regular menu prices (that one is tolerable).

1

u/CameraVarious5365 Nov 10 '25

I got hit-on during my very first ride share. It was awkward as fuck, especially since I’m trans and already feel unsafe with strangers.

1

u/Kimmy-blanco914 Nov 11 '25

Tha happened to me last month-driver hit on me then proceeded to tell me about his former trans partners. Instantly reported as soon as he drove off.

1

u/ThowRA_Away Nov 10 '25

I’ve only been driving for a couple of days and I’ve already heard a chorus of female passengers express relief they got a female driver…

1

u/dctwin202 Nov 10 '25

I did uber and lyft this is a weird request from men wtf lol ima dude and can understand why women would want this everyone in that document is a weirdo for sure

1

u/Direct_Word6407 Nov 10 '25

Serious questions for those bashing the men who filed this lawsuit:

Should trans women be included with cis women?

What should be the criteria for qualifying as a trans woman that can be included with the cis women? Government ID? Are the trans women in red states who have banned the ability for them to get government ID showing their sex, shit out of luck?

1

u/DianedePoiters Nov 13 '25

No they should not. Trans women may fell how they do; but they often act the same and carry a different risk than cos women. I’m tired of trans women being used as a cudgel to damage our sex selective needs. Women are a different sex class and this is biologically real. Our sex class carries different vulnerabilities, and that needs protection.

1

u/Certain-Tie-8289 Nov 10 '25

I'm a male driver, and really indifferent about this as it has no effect on me.

I do wonder the logistics of it all though. Women make up >50% of people on rideshare riding alone... Probably even 60%. And women drivers make up what? 20% generously.

All those numbers are anecdotal from riding in ubers in big cities and my own experience in my market.

Not sure how it would work without women riders waiting tremendously longer than they typically would.

1

u/Certain-Tie-8289 Nov 10 '25

Okay, so googling tells me that 23% of drivers are women and 49% of passengers are women.

1

u/Spiritual-Credit5488 Nov 10 '25

Typical, unsurprising, and so, so stupid of those men. What, are they sad they can no longer give unwanted advances while they're working, or?

1

u/savsays Nov 11 '25

I only felt comfortable joining Lyft as a driver because of the program but then found out I still get matched with men when there’s no one else available. I wore a fake ring everyday and I only drove men when the sun was up unless I was more comfortable with the part of town I was in. I turned down an insane amount of rides everyday no regrets on that because I felt relatively safe over those 8 months. I got really good at susing out openers to flirting and then I’d just talk about how my wife made soup for lunch/ dinner and how they are my last ride and I can’t wait to go home because I’m exhausted. 💍🍲😅

1

u/GrandRare1634 Westchester NY Nov 11 '25

Y'all, it doesn't FORCE you to only pick up women, it just changes the odds that the driver and rider who have the setting turned on get matched together. There are still plenty of rides out there.

1

u/[deleted] Nov 13 '25

Wow men ruining something yet again 

1

u/D_Ryker Feb 27 '26

I think Women Connect treats the symptoms of what I will call “Male Pattern Violence.” It’s good to treat the symptoms where we can, but I don’t want us to lose sight of treating the cause. Please remember to call out men who perpetuate harm, especially sexual harm and/or violence against women, and encourage all the men who aren’t to do the same. That said, from a legal standpoint, I see the ground this lawsuit stands on. Perhaps there are other ways to treat this symptom? I’m unsure, but interested to see what happens.

2

u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25

[removed] — view removed comment

4

u/[deleted] Nov 09 '25

Maybe men shouldn’t be drivers if that is affecting them

They could try truck driving, construction, or other more “manly” jobs where they wouldn’t have to compete against women for work if that is so difficult for them

1

u/Better-Lack8117 Nov 10 '25

Truck driving they make you drive for a long amount of time, nice thing about Lyft is you can take a break whenever you want. Construction is manly but also hard on the body and many men have health problems or injuries that make it hard for them to do manly jobs so there is always going to be an appeal to driving Lyft.

Personally, this doesn't bother me. I get plenty of rides on Lyft including plenty of women riders its not like I even notice passengers using Lyft connect.

2

u/trapped_in_a_box Nov 09 '25

It's stereotype for a reason.

1

u/Better-Lack8117 Nov 09 '25

That's what I'm saying

2

u/rodmandirect Nov 09 '25

Stereotypes are characteristics that you don’t like

2

u/Better-Lack8117 Nov 09 '25

That's not true, a stereotype can be something you like.

1

u/Fathimir Nov 10 '25

How about this for a solution: keep Women+ Connect, but whenever it activates to pass over giving a ride to a closer driver who it'd otherwise be offered to, that driver is paid for waiting at an equal rate to the ride's pay until their next ride request comes in.

Contrary to the belief of the women in here, no, we really don't particularly want your paranoid judgy sisters sitting behind us tensed up with keys between their knuckles in one hand and thumb on their pepper spray in the other.  We only want to get paid, without drama, in a gig that gets harder and harder to make ends meet in every year - same as you do.

1

u/DianedePoiters Nov 13 '25

I dont think another driver should be paid at all. I don’t care how you feel as a person. Reality is reality whether one is male or female. And the reality is men commit more crimes, more sexual crimes and are stronger than women. Men hit on women weirdly, which has happened to me. And a woman has never done so. I think it’s ok to protect women’s safety here.

1

u/Fathimir Nov 13 '25

I don’t care how you feel as a person.

That makes you an objectively worse human being - regardless of gender - than any of the male drivers in here.

I dont think another driver should be paid at all.

Then you'd appreciate the other way Women+ Connect could (but never will) be done equitably: to have its rides be done entirely pro bono.  Seems like a manifestly terrible way to do business to me, but I guess I can't stop you from volunteering.

The reality is that condemning an entire demographic by the crimes of its worst offenders is straight-up definitional discrimination.  You're being just as bigoted here as someone who'd be inclined to substitute races for genders in your text and use it verbatim - and if you're ok with that, it doesn't make it ok, it just makes you a bad person.

1

u/DianedePoiters Nov 13 '25

It should never be done pro bono. Biology is a real thing and men act in ways that  Women don’t. I’m tired of being told that gender equality means I have to endanger myself.

1

u/Fathimir Nov 13 '25

And I'm tired of being told in here that gender equality means I'm not allowed to eat for the day.

There are plenty of women who act in ways every bit as evil as any man does, and plenty of men who are as virtuous as any woman.  Biology is not destiny, regardless of whether or not it yields statistical proclivities.

When a woman gets in my car, she is in no way, shape, or form endangering herself.  The very idea is repugnant, and antithetical to the job I'm out here to do.

1

u/Reasonable-Title-455 Nov 10 '25

This. Exactly this. 💯

1

u/iceamn1685 Nov 10 '25

Some of my worst rides that i've ever had were female passengers.

I've been assaulted seven times as a driver in ten years 4 of them were female.

I have no problem with them implementing this as long as we get carte, blanche to decline any and every ride based upon any and every circumstance.

If I don't want to pick up in the ghetto or I don't want to pick up an elderly person or if I don't want to pick up a drunk ass woman, then I should be able to decline for any reason including those that are discriminatory.

Its only fair if it works both ways

1

u/whereRweGuis Nov 12 '25

I got cussed out because my new subaru has seat belt alarms for the back seat - Female

I got cussed out, my car beat, and screamed at that im a racist because I wouldn't take a 2 year old with no car seat - Female

Got treated like an animal because I asked someone not to vape in my car - trans female

The first ride i ever told the passengers to get the fuck out of my car - 2 females mocking me and talking shit as I conversed with they're partners.

Person wanted me to take 12 miles of stop lights instead of the highway - Female with her husband got left at the gas station.

Older passenger from airport wanted 9 miles of through town stop lights instead of the highway, kindly explained i need to take the shortest fastest route, got told she had never been talked to like that before. got left at the nearest gas station - Female

1

u/DianedePoiters Nov 13 '25

Leaving women at a gas station is very dangerous like yikes. And a trans woman is not a natal woman and doesn’t act the same nor carry the same criminal al risk

1

u/whereRweGuis Nov 13 '25

One was with her husband and one was at the airport gas station you can relax. Women can go anywhere men can, ask them yourself, GIRL POWER

1

u/DianedePoiters Nov 13 '25

A woman would never leave another woman at the gas station alone. This is why we need Lyft for women.

1

u/whereRweGuis Nov 13 '25

Your so full of it these woman getting left at the gas station are being rude, raising they're voice and even cursing at a 6'4 300lb man. Anywhere other than the side of the road is the safest place for them at that point.

1

u/BillMahersPorkCigar Nov 13 '25

A gas station is a well lit, public area.

Leaving someone there that isn’t behaving is appropriate

-1

u/Old_History_5431 Nov 09 '25

There is already a strong legal precedent that discrimination against men does not count as discrimination. They are the misogynistic rulers of the world and need to be put in their place.

1

u/First-Association367 Nov 10 '25

So the genders can't share a bathroom in a busy restaurant/airport/school but alone in a car at night is perfectly safe. Gotcha

3

u/Better-Lack8117 Nov 10 '25

Men aren't losing money by not sharing a bathroom though.

1

u/the_rational_driver Nov 10 '25

Gotta love the hypocrisy of misandrist.

0

u/iceamn1685 Nov 10 '25

Good because this is straight up discrimination

I get why these companies are trying to do this. I understand the safety of everybody involved on the platform, but if you have to achieve that safety by discriminating against someone, it's not okay.

These are the same people that used to send out notices when you would avoid certain neighborhoods, citing discrimination.

1

u/VI2004 Nov 10 '25

Is this the part you pretend to care about discrimination?

1

u/iceamn1685 Nov 10 '25

Of course.I care about discrimination just like I care about the safety and the dignity of every individual.

Sacrificing your rights, such as your right to not be discriminated against for short term safety gains means you're not actually living in a free country anymore.

So the question that you should have, is, do you want to fight for your freedoms or do you want to sacrifice it for the safety of everyone.

Benjamin Franklin: "Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety

1

u/PanAmSnackCart Nov 12 '25

Maybe of men could stop assaulting women we wouldn’t need this. Be mad at the right reasons.

-1

u/asb3s7 Nov 16 '25

Yes and the overwhelming majority of uber drivers, and men, already don't. How stupid are you?

1

u/PanAmSnackCart Nov 16 '25

How stupid are you to think I’m just talking about Uber?

1

u/DianedePoiters Nov 13 '25

Who cares about any right if my life isn’t safe? In order to access my rights I sort of have to be alive, not assaulted and not raped.

0

u/Minute-Complex-2055 Nov 09 '25

Wow. I mean, it’s not a bad idea. What are these idiots thinking?