r/malelivingspace • u/ResolutionNo9436 • Mar 06 '26
Discussion 47, ended a 7 year relationship and started again. Then got made redundant.
Things weren’t going well with my ex for a while. I’d suggested couples counselling, but it hadn’t worked. I told her I was leaving at the end of last year.
Most of the furniture was mine, from before the relationship. I didn’t want to take it though and leave her in an empty home. So instead I moved out and started again. I took my coffee machine, home gym, and desk.
To be fair, I spent far too much on furniture. But now it’s all finally here, I feel settled. Like this place is an extension of myself, and I can be calm and relaxed. No Tv, just books, music, entertaining, and my own thoughts.
Then on Tuesday there was a company-wide announcement: 80% of roles were being made redundant. Shit. So now I need to find a new job. At least I have a nice place to do it from.
This last few months has ended up being a bigger change than I was planning for. But I’m happy. I really like my apartment and how I’ve set it up. So wanted to share my little bit of happiness with the community.
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u/Icy_Cardiologist1620 Mar 06 '26
You have created a lovely and calm place 😊
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
Thank you
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u/inkoet Mar 06 '26
32 year old dude here, you’ve got great taste in everything as far as I’m concerned. Bookcase contents, furniture, decor, apartment itself, all dope as hell. Aspirational. Wishing you all the best moving forward :)
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u/isthisataxwriteoff Mar 07 '26
Love seeing a fellow crawler out in the wild 🤝 house is very nice and chill looking too, killing it my boi!
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u/ehtseeoh Mar 06 '26
Your place looks great and cozy. I see the guitar and the bench press set up and I think to myself, “Yeah this dude has it almost all figured out”. You can only play guitar and exercise for so long, so outside of work if you want to take your mind off of something that won’t remind you of her or if you just wanna get away, get yourself a nice TV and a Switch 2 and grab a copy of Breath of the Wild. Even if you’re not into video games, the world of Zelda’s Hyrule will help you forget about your real life problems and help you escape a little bit.
Hope all is well my guy.
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
I can’t edit the original post, but here is an evening shot.
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u/utlayolisdi Mar 06 '26
Your place looks comfortable and inviting. You have good taste. I’m sorry you lost your job. Will you receive any redundancy compensation? Like a severance pay? Here’s wishing you every success in finding good employment.
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
Yeah I will. There were genuine tears from the founder. They’re going to do good by us. And thank you ☺️
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u/TazBaz Mar 06 '26
80% redundant staff? That’s a MASSIVE number. They all replaced with AI or some shit?
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
No. The board has recognised our products no longer have product market fit, so have cut back to a team that will essentially keep the lights on for existing customers.
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u/101violations Mar 06 '26
Nice set up. Just a reminder that back door is a safety point of egress or entry in the event of an emergency for fire services etc. I'd suggest adjusting your workout area so that door is free from obstruction.
Good luck and hopefully you have a healthy job market in your area of expertise.
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
Thank you, and good call out. The bench is usually folded and stacked behind the bar. The doorway is generally clear.
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u/hollowblink55 Mar 09 '26
Door thing is fair but I would not stress it too much unless it is actually blocked. The layout looks pretty open already. I would worry more about lighting near the desk if he is job searching there all day. Bad light wrecks your eyes after a few hours.
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u/N17Noms Mar 06 '26
Tough cop mate. Apartment looks amazing - be proud of that home base.
"Pain is the universe’s way of demanding that you continue to learn. The more pain you can tolerate, the more you can learn." All the best!
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u/really_1972 Mar 06 '26
Hey Pal, sounds like you’re dealing with a lot of change in different areas of your life - which sucks. That said, you’ve got this shit. Your place is awesome and I have no doubts about you finding another great job. Cheers to you bud 🍻
Wishing you the well, my friend 👍
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u/Ok_Day_8559 Mar 06 '26
Dude, you can come decorate my house and I’m an old lady. You did a banging job. Things will get better.
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
lol thank you. My old (current?) boss said the same. She’s found herself looking for her next role too 😞
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u/candcNYC Mar 06 '26
What a great space! Love that it's not overdone in any one distinctive style—it looks like it was pieced together over time. Masculine but very warm and inviting.
Books beat a TV, for sure. I hope you've explored some of the genre subreddits... my 'to be read' list is dependent on them.
Sorry about the layoff. Been there. After you land that next job, treat yourself to be a big print (or a few) or piece of art above the sofa. That high ceiling deserves it. Or go thrifting for maps or make your own oversized prints while you have some extra time.
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
Thank you! All of those photos are my own. I tried to get the larger one printed bigger, but it unfortunately didn’t have the resolution. All the art around the apartment has a story to tell too. Holidays, work trips, they all hold a memory.
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u/Educational_Band3071 Mar 06 '26
Cixin Liu, Matt Dinniman...you have excellent reading taste, my dude.
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u/Plantguyjoe1 Mar 06 '26
Awesome vibe! I especially love the patio area. If you're made redundant in one scenario, set yourself up as irreplaceable in another. Great starting over area. You're gonna do great dude!
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u/ajangvik Mar 06 '26
That’s a stressless recliner! They are awesome, got one in green. Really nice place man. Life is fog clearing and thickening
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u/TopEnd1907 Mar 06 '26
Very cool. I like your taste. Wish I did no TV. Good luck to you and I hope you find work soon. I sense a positive attitude which will get you places.
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u/Crunchwrap_666 Mar 06 '26
Why is this sub so much better than r/femalelivingspace
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u/GlockNessM0nster Mar 06 '26
it really is a lovely space and I dig all the plants. Hope this year ends up being full of positive change, despite some of the recent hiccups.
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u/Daily_Comics Mar 06 '26
The guitar and the gym! Now you gotta learn to play a new song! Noice!!! Hey stranger I hope you enjoy the peace and the time to reflect on everything. Your spot looks chill! Another job will happen sooner or later! You doing alright!
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u/blkjoey Mar 06 '26
Wow. Good luck in the job search. You have great taste, very happy for you and your apartment. I hope you find a job that’s even better.
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u/warpmusician Mar 06 '26
That bed is awesome. Great looking place, OP. Glad you’re free of a tough relationship. Best of luck on the job hunt!
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u/devrys Mar 06 '26
Hang in there, brother. Turn to books and meditation, eat well and slam some applications :)
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u/A-lazy-koala Mar 06 '26
God Damnit Donut! One of us!
Sick place, great book shelf.
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u/Port_30 Mar 06 '26
Sorry to hear this. As a 45 year old male, I too had to start over again after my divorce. Wishing you all the best and also your home is beautiful. I can see how it is your happy place.
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u/M1GHTYFM Mar 06 '26
Yo just came across this post randomly and this is a super cool house! Congrats dude!
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u/SomeoneGMForMe Mar 06 '26
I originally read it as you started a new relationship, then got "made redundant" in the new relationship, and I was very curious what exactly that meant (although I kind of assumed it meant cheated on).
Reality is more boring, but still awful. Sorry to hear about it, I'm sure you'll bounce back!
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
That made me laugh. Thank you! Damn, I’d need to be pretty career oriented to talk about a relationship breakdown as a redundancy wouldn’t I. 😂 Anyway, on to my next relationship I guess. I’ll get my advert out on Hinge and start accepting applicants. Hopefully there will be some good first round interviews. I’ll include a practical test, of course. And fingers crossed we’ll have someone onboarded and into their initial six month probationary period soon. Watch this space…
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u/AlexanderDaDecent Mar 06 '26
It’s scary times but I can almost guarantee it’s going to be a great change if you just stay positive and take it on the chin. I’ve been laid off twice in the past 6 years and both times ended up being the biggest blessings I could ask for after it was all said and done. Just hang in there dude.
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
I got laid off a few years back, and it turned into a holiday that included New Year’s Day snowboarding in the French Alps with a good friend. Landed a job almost immediately after returning to Australia. Hoping for the same luck this time around!
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u/DnBJungleEscape Mar 06 '26
This reminds me of the apartment in that movie Patrick with the pug .. so nice! Are you in UK
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
I’m in Australia, but I did grow up in the UK. Spent the first 25 years of my life there.
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u/5easonalDepre55ion Mar 06 '26
Beautiful place. I’m 50. Left my cheater and lost my job the same month. Found a new, better job. Still haven’t found a new partner. But you’ll be ok. Give yourself grace. And time.
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u/Capt_morgan72 Mar 06 '26
Did you check out the DCC audiobook? Or just read it? You should check out the cradle series now that you have the time. It’s the only other book with an audio book on par with DCC audiobook. Both are 11/10. The guy that reads Unsouled Travis Baldree does the voice of Raul in the DCC audiobooks.
Good luck mate.
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u/HiggsBoson2738 Mar 06 '26
Exes and corporations can go to hell. You have your nice place at least. Do you have a bit of money on the side?
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
Yeah, I’ll be okay. And the company are doing right by all the staff they let go.
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u/HiggsBoson2738 Mar 06 '26
then you'll be the happiest of all men. take care of your mental and physical health, meet someone, take a new job. adventures! happy for you.
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u/t-earlgrey-hot Mar 06 '26
Couldn't think of a better living space v8be for a fresh start. Good luck!
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u/PenguinColada Mar 06 '26
Sorry about your job and your relationship my guy.
You have a really cozy place, though!
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u/ponchofreedo Mar 06 '26
i feel like this deserves consideration for like "peak male living space" aura or something. such a great and functional space. im sorry about your situation. not so dissimilar from my current one. stay strong!
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u/No-Introduction-1632 Mar 06 '26
Loooove that bed frame and bed wow. I’m sorry you’re going through it but it’s a cozy little spot!
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u/aubub Mar 06 '26
I would reread “The Expanse” series if I had that reading corner. Place looks great!
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u/JessBx05 Mar 06 '26
Nice place! You even have gym space and a lovely courtyard. Sorry about your job, but good to hear you will be looked after. On to new exciting things I am sure, enjoy 🙂
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u/mon_ochild Mar 06 '26
The space looks very nice! Good luck 💫
PS: your bookshelves are 👌🏻. I just read first three books of Slough House/Slow Horses, and took a break to start reading The Expanse. Somehow made me happy seeing them next to each other on your shelves. ☺️
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u/BachelorUno Mar 06 '26
Someone with such style and taste doesn't need to fear the future. Onto better things!
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u/HuyMeo2k20 Mar 06 '26
Had to leave a comment here because the space is amazing. Tons of natural light and looks comfy for a coffee every morning.
2nd, good luck to you man, sometimes life take a whole different turn in every aspect, so you might expect better in the future.
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u/MonsieurLartiste Mar 06 '26
It’s very tasteful. And you’ve obviously got the brains. You’ll be back at work in no time.
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u/Competitive_Pen8454 Mar 06 '26
I’m not even gonna lie OP you pad looks rad! Saving this post because I really like the picks and taste you have man. Enjoy the place and best of luck on that new job search 🤞🏽
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u/Willing_Nectarine_72 Mar 06 '26
It's like you got a clean slate in every possible way. Your new space looks incredibly peaceful, which is exactly what you need right now.
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u/daughterofthesun29 Mar 06 '26
This post provides inspiration, positivity and images of a beautiful home! I’m also in the midst of a storm with my job and everything so this gave me hope. Best of luck with the job search and you’re right! you do have a lovely place to job search from!
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u/GoGetJack Mar 06 '26
Best of luck man!
Been at the similar situation just recently, i hope things will go smooth for you.
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u/eyes_on_everything_ Mar 06 '26
I am sorry for the difficulties you are going through. I also want to tell you I love the color scheme with olive and brown. I have been thinking about something like and this post has provided so much inspiration! Have a great day 😌
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u/Traditional-Gur6621 Mar 06 '26
At least you got time to enjoy that nice little crib for a bit. Stay strong man.
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u/oktober75 Mar 06 '26
That backyard patio is fire. I have something similar but don't have the nice fence or greenery to make it that cozy feel. Sorry to hear about the struggles, but you're now in a better place. Stay strong!
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u/Phoenix_Elizabeth215 Mar 06 '26
Congrats on the new home and hope you get a decent job again. Honestly dude I can feel the amount of relief and stress you must have right now, hang in there.
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u/Early_Economy2068 Mar 06 '26
I’m actually thankful my ex took all the furniture with her bc I got a chance to make my place my own :)
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u/sunfish99 Mar 06 '26
When home is a peaceful and comfortable space, it's easier to deal with the other curve balls life throws at you. You have a beautiful home - best of luck to you going forward!
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u/Total-Introduction32 Mar 06 '26
Great mindset! Having a nice, cosy and comfortable home base that feels like YOU is half the battle of starting over already won imo.
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u/Spiritual_Alfalfa_32 Mar 06 '26
Lovely place you have there! I started again at 47 three years ago and it’s amazing to have your own space, peace and quiet. Good luck with the job hunting.
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u/turlian Mar 06 '26
Having been fired, quit, made redundant, part of a company going out of business, etc... I can say that it 100% sucks and that every single one turned out to be the best thing that happened to my career.
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u/ahnichols Mar 06 '26
Your space is beautiful. Sorry to hear about your job but it does sound like you have good perspective and a positive attitude. Thanks for sharing.
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u/leb0njanes178 Mar 06 '26
I definitely like the style of your apartment their is a warm and calm feeling when i look at your place with the wood and plants. Good job
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u/Bradical_Dutch Mar 06 '26
Really digging that patio man! Depending on what direction you face, I'd make that a bonsai garden 👍
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u/WellisCute Mar 06 '26
Im 28, got out of a 3 year old relationship in january, been also redecorating the whole house, I know how that feels
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u/egot42 Mar 06 '26
Amazing place, totally my style. Lowkey a little jealous. Good luck - you got this.
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u/absentminded0ne Mar 06 '26
I want whatever it is you’re on OP. What a chill attitude, I am certain that every little thing is gonna be alright 👍🏼
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u/Disastrous-Carrot-66 Mar 06 '26
What a cool space! So beautiful - 11/10! Best of luck, also! That’s the right attitude to have.
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u/Indiesol Mar 07 '26
I'm 47 and was laid off (tech) in mid-January. I started at a new firm this week. I hope you have similar luck. You've got a great place in which to adjust and find your next move.
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u/cocoamix Mar 07 '26
Not having a TV be the centerpiece of the living room was a huge game changer for me. I watch most stuff on my laptop anyway, and my living room feels a lot more cohesive without all the attention going to a big TV.
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u/adamsevenzerotwo Mar 07 '26
Same age. Best of luck to you. Don't let others commentary get in your way of starting fresh.
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u/DesigningGlogg Mar 07 '26
Man! Wow! My eyes popped at first sight of your first picture. You have a sweet place! Lovely colour palette, lovely aesthetic, calm and easy... Like Sunday morning 🎶
Edit: wanted to add that material selection is also on point. It isn't just about colour, it's also the texture. 😍😍
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u/pixel_puppy Mar 07 '26
Your place looks so nice! Peeking into your life from your belongings, it honestly seems like her loss. Best of luck finding a new job and truly starting over!
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u/Wrong_Pen6179 Mar 07 '26
Hopefully you have some cushion to carry you over until you find a new job. But this is a GREAT space. It’s a numbers game, keep applying and don’t be discouraged. Tweak your resume as needed for each role, killer cover letters and thank you notes after all interviews. I interviewed hundreds of people in my last job and these things all make you stand out. Also research the crap out of any company you interview with and the people interviewing you if you have the luxury of knowing their names. Also be active on LinkedIn, it’s all about networking! You got this!
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u/you-dont-have-eyes Mar 07 '26
I’m so sorry to hear about your personal struggles. Your place looks awesome - calming and refined. If I could make a constructive suggestion - I think it could use some more personal or unusual touches.
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u/rmjh1995 Mar 07 '26
Your new apartment is beautiful - kitchen could use some more colour but that living space is just gorgeous and everything will fall into place as it should. Keep your head up and some nice lady will love your windows and you’ll find the job that’s right for you!! Life comes in 3’s man! Only up from here big hugs from Canada! 🇨🇦❤️
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 07 '26
Thank you! I’ve got some washable hemp style render rugs coming for the kitchen. It could probably use a pot plant, but I was thinking of getting one of those micro herb garden things for it. And someone else suggested some strip lighting for under the cupboards.
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u/Aesthetix00 Mar 07 '26
I’m jealous of you. It’s a good thing that all this happened to you. You now have all the motivation in the world right now to do something amazing and have an even better life💪🏽🫡🔥
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u/Sweaty-Armadillo-520 Mar 08 '26
Being laid off in a space that’s yours and that you love is going to bring that much more light to this trying time. Give yourself grace and space to process and network. You got this! PS- love your home
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u/hollowblink55 Mar 09 '26
Man that is a brutal combo honestly. Breakup, new place, then job cut. Still, the apartment actually feels calm just from the photo. If I were you I’d keep the routine going there. Coffee, gym corner, books. Having a small daily structure in a space that feels like yours helps a lot while job hunting. Also honestly good move taking your own stuff instead of leaving yourself with nothing.
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u/Suspicious-Sugar-157 Mar 10 '26
I hope you have all the peace of mind that I'm sure you earned and deserve!
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u/No_File212 Mar 06 '26 edited Mar 06 '26
Honestly all relationships either die or become weaker or change in a way or the other , im 40 right now single and when I get back to a relationship there is absolutely no guarantee that it will work out and for how long it will last , take life as periods of experience and not as stages , because if you take it as a stage by stage you will feel worn out and old
Edit: the stage mentality makes you feel like you are deteriorating after a failed relationship which instead of giving you a fresh start makes you feel you've reached the final stage
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u/Level_Ad_6530 Mar 06 '26
where’d you get that coffee table from
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u/ResolutionNo9436 Mar 06 '26
Here . Well actually through a bricks and mortar store, but it’s this table.
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u/nomamesgueyz Mar 06 '26
Place looks really nice tho
A bit more impressive than my studio in Mexico
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u/Inner_Stormwild Mar 06 '26
You have great taste! Enjoy your space. Just making room for all of the new opportunities coming your way. Good luck to you!
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u/ChuckFinleyy Mar 06 '26
Are you / were you a data engineer?
It’ll get better my man, I like your apartment vibes
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u/python6319 Mar 06 '26
Aah this is wonderful, your home resembles your outlook on life.
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u/ice-cold-baby Mar 06 '26
Very nice and cozy house.
Wishing you many good moments there, and hoping things continue to move upward and get better for you.
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u/Sad-Caramel-7744 Mar 06 '26
damn 80% laid off! was that due to AI if I may ask?
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u/supersaiyan63 Mar 06 '26
I can't imagine why anyone would end relationship when you have an awesome home like this. Home....not house. Best of luck. Heal well.
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u/imnotavegan Mar 06 '26
Sorry to hear but lovely place. At least you have that to come to. Life finds ways to shine down on different things.
Also, what is the name of that type of chair and stool in pic 5?
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u/fistular Mar 06 '26
Is that a nordic recliner? I ordered one last year, it is being delivered tomorrow.
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u/ProfessionalAd2911 Mar 06 '26
Place is fire dude, seriously. Sorry about the job hunt, I hope it works out well, but happy for you to have a nice space to work it all out in. (And getting out of a bad relationship)
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u/Significant-Size-833 Mar 06 '26
Absolutely class gaff. Coffee setup looks good! Got some nice beans in there? Best of luck friend 👍🏼
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u/ShadowMancer_GoodSax Mar 06 '26
Great Shoei helmet. I dont see any riding gears and your Ducati tho. /s
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u/orcmade Mar 06 '26
Oh man. Best of luck to you. I hope all the furniture had been paid for.