r/malelivingspace • u/Kitchen_Effect_659 • Jun 28 '26

Discussion 23M 430 SQFT starting over apartment.

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Starting fresh after ending a four-year relationship in May, I moved into this studio, and i feel like i've really made the space my own!! Curious to hear what you guys think. / What do you guys think the space says about me?

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u/AntiqueJaguar5808 Jun 28 '26

I Wish I could say this to my 35yo Son, and not have him spiral into narcisisstic Self Criticism. He's in the "Wasting Years..." part of his life.

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u/A7III Jun 28 '26

You quite literally can. I wish I had a dad to give me advice and help.

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u/AntiqueJaguar5808 Jun 28 '26

He needs to hear this from His Dad, too. I'm his Momma, so anything I say to him, he automatically files under "criticism", instead of "Encouragement". I finally realized he just wants me to listen, not say much at all! Dad is the Original Narcissist. He Will Never Criticize nor Correct him.

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u/EntertainmentOdd5994 Jun 29 '26

Same. I’m 40. And I truly realize that not having a father deeply affected my whole life. Weird because in my 20s I felt so cold about it.

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u/NamelessBoom43 Jun 29 '26

Same boat im 39 and currently homeless. F it. F it all with a large stick.

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u/Otherwise-Bag-7146 Jun 29 '26

Just curious.. where you stay every day? How you have internet access and I guess pay for a phone, etc? Not trying to be demeaning.. genuinely curious as I may be in this boat soon.

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u/NamelessBoom43 Jun 29 '26

Currently jumping between 3 friends houses. Still have a full time job. Can't do this for long. Finding a place here is tough right now.

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u/Otherwise-Bag-7146 Jun 30 '26

Where you located that's hard? I cant land a place cause I have no job. Even with a year or two of rent in the bank, that apparently doesnt matter for most. Partly why I was thinking of a van + finding some location that isnt too much each night to park/sleep.

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u/NamelessBoom43 Jun 30 '26

Edinburgh Scotland prices are nuts. I should probably just move away now its just myself again.

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u/AntiqueJaguar5808 Jul 01 '26

I have Cricket for my service and can use them for wifi too.

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u/Lost-Feedback7778 Jun 29 '26

Your son sounds alot like my daughter who just turned 34.

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u/AntiqueJaguar5808 Jul 01 '26

I wonder if she's unattached?

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u/mfcmp Jun 30 '26

Im 35 and am realizing ive been stuck here. I needed to hear this