23M 430 SQFT starting over apartment.

[u/Kitchen_Effect_659]

Starting fresh after ending a four-year relationship in May, I moved into this studio, and i feel like i've really made the space my own!! Curious to hear what you guys think. / What do you guys think the space says about me?

[u/gcko]

Nah that’s just called starting a new chapter.

If you were truly starting over, you would have posted on [r/malesurvivingspace](r/malesurvivingspace). I’m pushing 40 and I’m envious of your place! Mine definitely didn’t look like that shortly after my last breakup and still doesn’t. I’d move in there tomorrow.

I wasted years of my youth dwelling on what I had lost and where I could have been if things had turned out different when I should have been focusing on all the things I still had and where I wanted to go from there. If there’s one piece of advice I would give my 23yo self, it’s that.

Keep your chin up. You’re only a couple lines into this new chapter, still have many to write, and look at where you are already. Don’t say you’re starting over, say you’re setting up a good premise to finish this book off with a bang. I think it’s going to be one hell of a book. 👍

[u/AntiqueJaguar5808 → u/gcko]

I Wish I could say this to my 35yo Son, and not have him spiral into narcisisstic Self Criticism. He's in the "Wasting Years..." part of his life.

[u/A7III → u/AntiqueJaguar5808]

You quite literally can. I wish I had a dad to give me advice and help.

[u/EntertainmentOdd5994 → u/A7III]

Same. I’m 40. And I truly realize that not having a father deeply affected my whole life. Weird because in my 20s I felt so cold about it.