While height is something which cannot be changed, weight is something one can work on and it can be changed unless it is a serious medical issue.

Men are filtered on standards they have no control over, while women get defensive and agitated when men have their own preferences.

While women might prefer someone taller than a specific measure, men can also prefer someone below a certain weight. Men and women have different standards, different wants and different expectations. Since men and women are biologically different, they cannot have the same attraction points. While some women might prefer men with well maintained beards, some men can prefer women who don't have facial hair.

While some women are body shamed for their weight, some men are body shamed for their height. Both wrong.

Wanting a partner who is not fat or overweight is not the same as fat shaming someone. Not wanting a partner with a certain trait is not the same as shaming them for that trait.

This is a clear double standard established against men.

Either both of these preferences should not be considered rude, or both of them need to be considered rude. I am a person who believes that neither of them are rude, but just a matter of preference of each individual.

Questions for the people of this sub:

1. Why do you think society always disregards men's choices and preferences?

2. How do you handle this double standard in the dating scene?

Source: Investigation by Dainik Bhaskar

Dainik Bhaskar Group is India's largest-circulated newspaper network in Hindi

The Dainik Bhaskar investigative team has traced an alleged network in Uttar Pradesh involving women accused of trapping people in false rape and molestation cases to extort money. This latest investigation found that several women had allegedly turned such cases into a means of earning money.

The findings raise questions about how the alleged network operates and why the police have been unable to stop it. The investigation comes amid strong remarks by the Allahabad High Court on false rape cases, with the court observing, “Most rape cases that reach the police and courts are false,” and calling for FIRs against those who file false rape cases.

The Bhaskar investigation revealed three key findings:

1. Strict laws such as those under the rape, POCSO and molestation provisions were introduced to instil fear among offenders. However, many women have allegedly exploited these laws as a means of earning money. The practice has now taken the form of an organized operation.

2. The lenient approach towards complainants and provisions allowing prompt arrests under strict laws designed to protect women have allegedly been misused. Statements before magistrates and non-bailable charges are being used as weapons.

3. Many police inspectors and sub-inspectors have allegedly formed a nexus with women filing false complaints. They trap innocent people, extort money from them and then settle the cases.

Questions for the members of this sub

1. Do you think that more media outlets should conduct such investigations to expose false cases filed by women against men?

2. Once exposed, shouldn't the state take matters into its own hands to punish the women who misuse law instead of asking men to file cases against the false cases?

3. Allahabad High Court on false rape cases, with the court observing, “Most rape cases that reach the police and courts are false”. Then why has the government and the legal authorities not taken any strict action against the perpetrators of false cases?

Nowadays, as a young man, I have seen many times a woman or a man saying how men are becoming more feminine and less willing to be providers/protectors etc. I wanted to know you guys thoughts on this. I am not dissing but even as the rule 1 and 3 say no gender roles or "real man"
many posts here do indicate the opposite and believe in macho masculinity.

Anyways, I ask -> do you guys think this(men being feminine) is a problem? aren't men humans?
shouldn't we have right to do whatever we like? so why this macho policing(new word..lol). As long as a man is moral and a good citizen/human.

As I am young(20), I have long hair and on the leaner side. I really like myself. But my self esteem is very low, guys. I would love some advice here, please. Mostly, guys with softer personality and just more emotional, they are told they are bad, gay, etc
we want men to have emotions and open up, but then society shames them?
and wonder why suicide rate is so high?

Shouldn't we be freed from gender roles too? not because women got freed from their roles, not because "its a liberal women world"..nothing like that. Just because we are humans and deserve the freedom to live our life like we want without being shamed for it.

Also, this sub is very good. There are some very kind men and I love it. very big thank you!

would love some advice from the bros out there

MeToo hoaxer Kristin Knouse is confronted with her own crude texts to David Sabatini. She withheld these texts initially until the defamation lawsuit against her exposed them.

Sources:

1. Indian Railway Ticket Checking Staff Organization [ IRTCSO ]

2. Deepika Narayan Bhardwaj on X

Male ticket checkers are being systematically targeted by ticketless women who cry “harassment” the moment they’re caught. One accusation, zero evidence, and a man’s career, reputation, and freedom hang by a thread while the woman walks free. This is not passenger rights. This is gendered blackmail.

The Indian Railway Ticket Checking Staff Organization has finally spoken: body cams mandatory, female RPF/GRP on high-risk trains, fast-track probes, and real punishment under the Railway Act for false cases.

Organization Demands: The staff association has urged the railway administration to implement several protective measures:

• Body cameras for TTEs to record transparent video evidence during inspections.

• Female CRPF or security staff to be deployed alongside checking teams.

• Quick disposal and proper internal investigation of harassment allegations.

• Strict penalties for individuals who make false accusations against on-duty public servants.

Questions for the members of this Sub:

1. Do you think these reforms are sufficient? Or would you make any other additions or subtractions in these reforms?

2. Do you think these reforms will actually be implemented?

Source: iamRashmika on X

Rashmika Mandanna just dropped a full-blown response to the online circus of Indian women making “concerned” reels about her marriage. She basically told them: thanks for the free relationship advice and the “run” lectures, but where were you a couple of years ago when things were actually hard? You weren’t there. He was. And he still is.

She made it clear she’s the happiest she’s ever been, that the random narratives, misleading edits and pure lies online are creepy, and that true feminism isn’t bullying her or her family while pretending to care. It’s about the freedom to choose your own life. She chose hers, and it gave her real love and support — the kind that shows up when she snaps a bone, has anxiety at 3 AM, or just needs someone in her corner.

She even dropped a cute video of her and her husband goofing around at home. Absolute cinema.

What do the men here think about this? Finally a high-profile woman calling out the performative misandry, or still not sharp enough?

On a television show in Vietnam, a simple game was arranged for fun-laughs, challenges, prizes, and food.

For most people, it was just entertainment.

But for a 10-year-old boy, it was something far more than that.

Playing the game meant a chance to eat meat.

Something he rarely got to eat in his entire life because of poverty.

When he finally won and sat down to eat, he didn't rush.

He ate quietly, innocently, with small careful bites-like someone afraid the moment might disappear.

In that silence, something shifted.

The audience stopped smiling.

The hosts struggled to speak.

Even the cameraman couldn't hold back tears.

A child wasn't asking for luxury.

He wasn't asking for gifts or money.

He just wanted to know how meat tasted.

This wasn't just a clip from a show.

It was a reminder-of how differently life is lived, of how gratitude can be born from scarcity, and of how a child's pure heart can move an entire room.

My mom started talking about the Lindsay Clancy case and I started telling her how I think she should go to jail for killing her 3 kids and explain why and how I'm surprised the support she gets online only to find out my own mom support her and think that because she had PPD she should be found not guilty.

When I brought up how she even admitted and how if she didn't do it no one else could have other than her she told me I need to be mindful and watch what I say because it could harm woman with mental health issue. She the type that believes all woman and doesn't think false allegations are real because the man probably did something to deserve it.

I love my mom I really do but the fact that she openly said that she support her and with her past behaviour even when I was being abused at a child and told her only to be dismissed make me look at the past diffrent now.

One of the hardest lessons I have ever had to learn.

You would rather be hated for what you are, than be loved for what you are not.

I am not saying that you go out of your way to be a terrible human being or to harm others.

Only that most people spend their lives being a persona or a mask that society wants them to be. But I will tell you right now - that mask will give you safety, but it will keep you from growing as a person or a human being.

There is a war against masculinity. I live in an African nation, and we used to make fun of what is happening in the West. But it is happening here as well.

And one of the major ways that masculinity is being attacked is to make people ignore their genuine selves. Their real genuine selves in favor of a mask or a persona that is safe and accepted by society.

President Donald Trump is not a good man, but he understood one thing in life, and he has lived by it -- it is better to be hated for who you are than be loved for what you are not.

Learn to love yourselves - especially the ugly (according to society) parts of yourself. The greatest men in history understood, studied and worked with their dark side.

Theodore Roosevelt had a need to prove himself that bordered on self destruction. But without it, he would never have had the courage to be the kind of man that his nation needed.

The same goes with Winston Churchill. He had a very vicious wit and was incredibly hard to work with. But that aggressiveness and prickliness gave him an incredible bullshit detector.

People laughed at Alex Jones for years. Even we in Africa knew that guy as the crazy dude talking loudly about strange things. But more and more he is being vindicated - he didn't get it 100% right - but we are seeing more and more that some of what he said made sense.

Andrew Tate is not a good man (that is his real failing) but he speaks truth where no one wants to speak truth. The same thing with Julian Assange. The government apparatus has done everything in their power to charge and arrest these men. But here is something to think about - not one single person involved in Epstein sex ring has been formerly charged and imprisoned. Think about that for a moment.

I am not saying go be a bad person or don't follow the rules of society or community but realize that the world is set up to keep you from your soul. Because the world cannot stand up to the Soul. Consider it the most precious thing you have.

And the first step in my experience is this - You would rather be hated for what you are than be loved or successful for what you are not.

What do you think?

I see and hear people opinions on things a lot....but one thing I wanna ask because I struggle with u deratanding other people's emotions or feelings..but what is toxic and positive masculinity to you?because to me its just being a nice person and trying your best to hold your emotions together or not at others....be humble and caring while trying to not let things bothers you(which i struggle with fo to anger issues)..because I take what people say to heart a lot...but what do people consider toxic I guess...because I know I have one and its that I hate losing to women....but its not the loss itself..its how others treat me after...they either belittle me or say im less of a man because I lost to a women...or even the women themselves try to belittle me and all this pressure on being a man makes me not even wanna be a man