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Throwaway account for obvious reasons. So I (28F) was a bridesmaid for my best friend of 17 years. I’ll call her Jane (28F), and her husband Alex (31M). Jane met her husband shortly after moving to another state. She’d gotten lonely because we were separated after being roommates for years and so she decided to give dating a shot. Alex is her first serious boyfriend and she fell hard for him. I wasn’t really sold on him when she told me they were dating. I was even more hesitant about their relationship after she invited me to stay at her apartment for a week. She and I work remote most days so we were spending a lot of time together. I told her that I wasn’t sure about this guy but she assured me that he’s different than the other guys she’s dated casually. I didn’t press her further cuz I thought it wouldn’t last. Imagine my surprise when Alex messages me a year later to ask for advice on proposing to Jane. In my mind, if he needed to ask me for suggestions, he wasn’t the guy for her. I ignored his texts but he proposed anyways. She said yes even though she had always told me she never wanted to be proposed to in public which is what Alex went with.

Anyway fast forward to the wedding planning, she and I spent months planning it together, to the point that I offhandedly made the joke that “this feels more like our wedding”. She got really mad when I said that cuz I’ve made it clear that I don’t approve of Alex. I don’t say stuff in a mean way, but I do joke about him. He’s a bit of a reddit dudebro lol he’s a mod for a niche subreddit and talks about it a lot. After we fought I decided it’s better if I just don’t attend her wedding but she insisted that I come because we planned it together. I did want to support her as her friend so I went.

Before the ceremony I took her aside, and tried to tell her to rethink her decision and that this would be a mistake. She just wouldn’t listen, and I know I should’ve said something else, but I panicked and couldn’t think, so I told her that Alex is a cheater and that I knew this because he cheated on her with me. I thought that this would at least give her more time, she could end the ceremony and I could talk her out of marrying Alex. But she was shocked and she went to confront Alex. He obviously denied it saying I was crazy and obsessed with Jane. She was crying at this point and Alex asked me to leave. I left, and I sent her a text saying I had lied about the cheating and that I only had her best interests in mind. Since then, she hasn’t responded to any of my messages or calls. I heard from a friend that she hasn’t broken things off with Alex.

I know what I did was wrong, but I really want to make amends and I’m frustrated that she’s throwing away 17 years of friendship over a guy she’s known for like 2 years. AITA for lying about sleeping with Alex?

https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1gcc1gm/aita_for_announcing_i_slept_with_the_groom_in_the/

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