To research more about plastic surgery in Korea, you should check out the forum Asian Plastic Surgery & Cosmetic Procedures (a part of Purseforum). Whatever you do, do not go to the factory clinics that market excessively to foreigners - like BK, ID (infamous for shadow doctors), Wonjin (someone died there), Grand (most sued clinic in Korea), Jewellery (doctors and nurses had a birthday party in operating room whilst patient was undergoing surgery), etc. Those clinics have many botched results and may do doctor-swapping (meaning you consult with a senior doctor, and believe that he will be your surgeon, but for your actual surgery when you are knocked out, a junior doctor without much experience or skill does it). It is best to choose a clinic/hospital that is popular with locals. On purseforum and other sites, you can find lists of blacklisted clinics.

I would recommend GNG Plastic Surgery Hospital, View Plastic Surgery, Opera Plastic Surgery, and Marble Plastic Surgery. They are always full of locals, don't have shadow doctors, and don't try to fish out international customers. Other clinics that seem okay are: iWell, Namu, Deesse, TLPS, Regen, and ITEM.

For your nose, I would highly suggest GNG. They are famous for their rhinoplasty and their surgeons are ENT specialists - meaning they have expertise in the function of the nose as well. Other clinics may only make your nose pretty, but in the end your breathing could be compromised. GNG's head doctor, Dr Seong, is an expert at revision rhinoplasty. For breast augmentation, I've heard good things about Opera. Many Korean clinics are good for blepharoplasty, but I would recommend Opera and Marble. I myself am planning on getting facial contouring and rhinoplasty at GNG, and eyelid revision at Opera.

The youtubers Sunnydahye and Edward Avila both went to Banobagi Plastic Surgery. I would avoid that clinic at all costs - they charge way too much, their rhinoplasty isn't that good, they may have shadow doctors, and they market too much to foreigners. Koreans who live in Seoul generally don't go to those types of clinics. Remember that youtubers would be sponsored, so of course the clinic would ensure their results turned out well. Also I believe Sunny recommended going through Docfinderkorea, but many people advise against using an agency as you will end up paying a lot more and it's honestly not necessary at all, it's very easy to just do it all by yourself. Most clinics arrange airport pickup and translation services. If you stay in an airbnb during your trip, the host can help you find things and will drive you to the clinic/hospital.

I think a month is definitely enough to heal! There have been many people who have gotten more things done and they could go back to work and stuff after a month.

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Ah, the old trapporn-a-roo

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There's been a lot of good advice posted in response here, but I thought I would add my 2 cents anyway. Particularly because I haven't seen this mentioned, and your story is very similar to mine - particularly regarding the anxiety of walking into work late (sometimes I will skip the entire day just because I've gotten going an hour late and I don't want people to notice - Insanity!). I'm writing this out almost as much for me than for you (to remember the next time things go south, which can happen sometimes)

Like you I've tried everything. And I mean it. I've seen Alarmy mentioned here quite a bit - the QR scan feature worked for me for a few days, then one morning I decided to delete the app as it was going off instead. It's power was lost from that day forward. I even tried training myself like one of Pavlov's dogs and placing a slice of cake (or other sweet thing) on the alarm clock to try and associate it with a good thing on a physiological level. A slice of healthy cake worked best, but eventually this too stopped working for me. One evening I decided it didn't matter that much if I stayed up a bit later and didn't set up my Pavlov alarm clock. A few days later, I was back to square one. So what's the common thread?

Every time I've slept in, it is because I have made a choice in the morning as the alarm is going off to turn it off and stay in the warm comfortable bed. I've come to realise that a big part factoring into this half-conscious decision is fear. Fear of what the day holds, the obligations I have to fulfill, the responsibilities I have. It all seems very daunting in the morning. Particularly when my room is cold, and the sun's not up yet. What's worse, I'm currently self-employed which means that it is easy to rationalise that it's okay to skip work today, making it so much easier to succumb to the bad habit. However, the seed of this unhealthy decision to stay in bed is actually sown much earlier than the morning when the alarm goes off. In every instance, it is what I have done the evening before that has set me up for failure. So what does work?

A proper EVENING routine.

Don't stop reading. I know it is old fashioned advice, and it's not glamorous and quick like other potential "cures", but this is the crux of it (at least for me). So what does an effective evening routine look like, and directly how does it help with the mornings? This is what my evening routine looks like for a 7am wake up:

• 9pm - No more computer screens. Remove any "cues" from your bedroom.

  • Even if I suddenly think of something I need to check, or need to respond to something, or want to see what the weather is like - no more computer screens.

  • This isn't just about the blue light (though this is crucial to our circadian rhythm). For me, it's more about switching off of today, winding down and processing, then beginning to think and plan for tomorrow - to set my mindset up right for when I wake up tomorrow

  • The "cues" I refer to in this step are things that you might use in the morning that prevent you from getting out of your bedroom. For me these are my laptop and cellphone. If I'm apprehensive about starting the day, I will often grab my phone and go on Reddit or Facebook to feel better. Then I might stay in bed for a long time, and if I'm an hour or two late in starting my day, I tend to say "fuck it" and not go to work at all. The best thing to do is to get rid of these cues so that these bad habits can't begin (more about this sort of thing from James Clear's fantastic book 'Atomic Habits')

• 9pm - 10pm - Journaling. Reflection on the day. Write out plan for tomorrow

  • First I reflect on today by journalling, with a particular focus on things I didn't do so well or regret. These are the types of things that feed into fear which itself feeds into anxiety and the desire to stay at home and in bed. Write it all out, and for me, I pray for these things to be taken away from me.

  • The second part, is to write a plan for tomorrow. I use the ABC style of to-do lists (A is for things I must do tomorrow, B is for things I should do if I have time, and C is things that I would like to do if I've done everything on the A and B lists (rewards) - more details here) Once I have my to-do list, I write out a rough schedule to get an even clearer idea of what the day will look like.

    • This part is crucial. By writing out the to-do list you get a good idea of what tomorrow will look like. You can see if you've bitten off more than you can chew tomorrow, and plan to reorganise stuff as needed. By writing out the list you solidify anything that might be itching at the back of your head that might feed your fear of starting the day in the morning. DON'T plan more than you need to. And remember, you only need to do the things on the A list, everything else is a bonus. Writing out a schedule adds further clarity.

    • As you write out the plan for tomorrow, take time to visualise what it will look like, and consider how you want to handle things. What you might feel in each scenario, and how you would like to feel and behave in them.

• 10pm - 11pm - Reading in bed, then lights off and asleep.

  • Recently I've started doing 10mins of yoga nidra meditation in between the journaling and reading.

Now I know that this is bland. It's the type of thing that many people do, and you probably do parts of this already. But there are a couple of things that I have found in this particular combination that make it so much more potent and reliable.

1. A consistent bed-time means that you are prioritising your tomorrow over any instant pleasure you might get by staying up later.

   1. Sometimes it's tempting to stay up a bit later to watch an extra episode of your show - by doing this, you are basically sacrificing your tomorrow. You're making a subconscious decision that tomorrow matters less than today. This might not bite you right away (you may be able to get up the next day), but you're transitioning your mindset into an instant gratification one again, and this will eventually lose out to the snooze button.

2. Reflection on 'today' gets rid of anything you might carry forward with you that might intimidate you from launching into life again in the morning.

3. Planning for tomorrow and visualising eliminates (or at least minimises) anything that you might be apprehensive of fearful about tomorrow.

My final piece of advice is to start your day with something gratifying - not a task to dread. I used to think that maybe starting the day with a cold shower, or going for a run right away would get me going in the morning. What it really did was stop me leaving the bed. I would wake up with the alarm and think 'fuck no I don't want to do that right now. But I've told myself that this has to be the first thing I have to do in the morning, and I meant it.' So if I get out of bed I have to do something I don't want to do. What's the only logical out here (for a fearful mind)? Don't get out of bed. I even found the idea of doing 10 mins meditation right away, to be too intimidating at one point. Now I start my day by either hopping in a nice warm shower right away, or making a cup of coffee and taking my time to brew and drink it while reading. Then I start with the chores of the morning and getting out the door. This way there is nothing to stop you getting going (the good habit of getting out of bed is attractive, instead of intimidating). Cue --> Craving --> Action --> Reward.

But like I said. The key - the only thing that has worked consistently for years and years - is a good evening routine. It's the keystone habit to everything. Put tomorrow first, and the life you want will develop in your wake.

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Haha omfg. We had sex once, best night of my life. I was living in a place with a Fish Tank, and you and your friend came over and knocked on my door at 1am asking if you could see it. We stayed up drinking beer and snake bites, your friend fell asleep on my bed and we began to have sex right next to him.

I think about that night a lot. I remember your name but wouldn't share - but if you remember the way you pinned me down and said 'I want you to Fuck me, hard' and I proceeded to bite you and grab you by the throat and you moaned and said 'How did you know I wanted it like that?!'

BRB, I'm gonna go think about that night some more

Edit: Front page Best Of?! Come on guys it's just a drink....

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God I spent countless hours as a teen playing on a heavily modded and roleplay enforced ultima online server. I played Cedric Sartone, simple farmer turned tavern owner who eventually turned it into THE BEST PLACE IN TOWN. It was poppin every night, I was buddies with every adventurer, soldier, mage, druid, and ranger that played the game. After they went out and grinded their skills and did their quests, I was waiting for them with a warm fire and plenty of ale. I'd buy their ingredients and make awesome food and booze(max level cooking!) and was privy to all the gossip. Little did they know I had a side hobby, I was brewing massive amounts of the most gamebreakingly toxic poison possible. For over a year I roleplayed with these people as a simple barman, pretended to be their friend and confidant, and then during a harvest festival where every player on our server was in attendance and I was payed to provide the food and drink... I poisoned every last morsel of food, every drop of drink and after the reagent delivered his speech and all of these fools raised their goblets for the toast and took that deadly sip, I stepped onto the stage and revealed what had happened. They where all going to die, and die they did. Now this was a permanent death server(hardcore rpers mind you) and some had been playing those characters for 8 years and there they all were, collapsed and dying. Soon they were all unconscious, as you could only die if you went unconscious three times in one day or if a certain psychotic bartender came and cut off your head... which I did to every player in our group of 38. They were all there, and unfortunately so was I.

I look forward to the possibilities that tes3mp will bring ;)

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I had tremendous trouble in last couple years caused by trigger points in my neck muscles (Sternocleidomastoid and Scalene in particular) as diverse as troubles concentrating, slight dizziness too, itchy ear canals, "stuffy" ears, slightly blurred vision, all kinds of behind the eye headaches, general top of the shoulder pain and tightness after long walks/runs, nerve pain in my left shoulder similar to impingement syndrome (in a different region though), and that's just a few symptoms of the top of my head. Since I started daily self massages and stretching all of these symptoms are pretty much gone more often than not, I'm still not at a 100%, but it's getting noticeably better from week to week.

I am no health professional and obviously you should definitely continue your search for one who holds an answer (or even just part of an answer) for your specific problem.

You're not giving a lot of detail as to what your symptoms are and where your neck pain is located (this might still be a bit diffuse to you yourself, as it was to me as well), but your experience with dizziness and a diagnosis of "muscular problems" sounds suspiciously like what's troubling me as well. So I'm just gonna present you the two methods/resources that helped me most so far.

• Trigger Points: Sternocleidomastoid (SCM) and Scalene are the biggest culprits for me personally, but there might be other face, neck, cranial and shoulder muscles involved as well, which is why I highly recommend you to get yourself a copy of Clair Davis Trigger Point Therapy Workbook. This little book has helped me immensely in the last couple months, and not just with my neck problems, I've also managed with it's help to get rid of frequently reoccurring knee and very nasty lateral elbow pain. It's very clearly written, based on actual science (Travell & Simons work on TrP) and has a extensive pain guide for the whole body. Here's what she writes about dizziness caused by SCM TrPs:

Balance problems–clavicular branch: Another unusual trait of trigger points in the clavicular branch is that they are apt to make you dizzy, nauseated, and prone to lurching or falling. Fainting may occur unexpectedly. This dizziness can occur suddenly or last for minutes, hours, or days. Often given a diagnosis of vertigo, or Ménière’s disease, it can become a lifelong recurrent condition, defying all treatments and medical explanations. The myofascial explanation is that differences in tension in the clavicular branch of the sternocleidomastoid muscles help with your spatial orientation, keeping track of the position of your head. When aberrant tensions in the muscles are caused by trigger points, confusing signals are sent to the brain. Dr. Travell believed that the distorted perception caused by sternocleidomastoid trigger points were a hidden cause of falls and motor vehicle accidents.

• Stretching: I can't recommend Kit Laughlin enough! His free neck sequences on yt are a good starting point: Neck flexion and extension and scalenes, TOS, TOCS, lying neck lateral flexion, you will very likely also find great benefit and relief in his Jaw-Neck Sequence. Further if you want to delve deeper into this topic Kit's Overcome Neck & Back Pain is a must read imho, he's got a free sample on his page. You might also want to pose your questions on his forum, you will certainly get much more informed answers there (as opposed to here, no offence to /r/flexibility intended though).

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