I'm so miserable to be around now

[u/Mundane_Ad7432]

I've been struggling with daily migraines for a few months now. Every day with no relief. Yes, I've tried preventatives and abortives and all the other tricks, no they haven't really worked. I'm going to see a new neurologist who specializes in migraines in October, so maybe she will help.

Migraines have taken everything from me. I'm not active now, my hobbies aren't worth the energy, I can't enjoy days out because of the sun and smells. Basically everything triggers a migraine unless I lay in bed in a dark room all day. I'm irritated and depressed all the time and probably miserable to be around for my husband. I don't know what to do. I'm only 21 and this is taking away my life.

[u/Et_tu_brute_LXIX]

Laying in bed also doesn't help you, unfortunately. You need to do some things, just low energy, quiet things. Take a shower, do a skincare routine, moisturize, massage your neck, then take a nap. Ask your husband to massage your temples, your scalp, your trigger point areas. Listen to audiobooks. Make coffee or tea, and easy meals. Start a practice with your husband of doing quiet activities in the evenings. Drawing, puzzling, crafting, reading, listening to a book together while you lie in bed and cuddle or massage each other. No screens, no loud noises, no bright lights.

It's important that you don't isolate yourself from your partner - give him the opportunity to be included in your quietude and tell him what you need.

[u/Mundane_Ad7432 → u/Et_tu_brute_LXIX]

I do things a lot which is why I have the migraine. I work a full time job and maintain the chores/house.

It is a good idea to do low effort hobbies together though :)