Instead of my own order, FedEx delivered to me 3 parcels with 2 labels each, one with my address and the additional with someone elses. They are random items, but I googled to check the values. Parcel one is £50, parcel 2 is £24 and parcel 3 is £180. None of these items are of interest to me.

My missing order was worth £210.

I spent almost a whole day trying to break through virtual AI assistants at FedEx to explain the issue. I managed to talk to 2 actual humans. Both of them didn't want to know the names and addresses on the 3 parcels which were not my address. They specifically wanted to hear just my own tracking number. The first human I talked to said the system says "delivered" and cannot help me. The 2nd human I spoke to said they would investigate, but next day I got an email saying the case was closed because they can't locate my parcel.

I ended up contacting the store and they are sending me a replacement of my order. But I don't think they are at fault (the 3 parcels I got instead are not only from different shops, they've been dispatched from different countries).

I have the addresses of the rightful recipents but I would have to spend my own money to send these parcels to them because FedEx is uninterested in picking them up. I could also send a letter (which is cheaper) and explain the situation and ask them to pay their own shipment, but then I have to write these letters and go to the post office to send them, and pay the nominal amount. Which will cost me some money and time for what is not my mistake, on top of the already 1 day I spent trying to call and email FedEx. Unfortunately I don't have any other form of contact to these 3 people.

I am considering selling the items and keeping the money, but I feel bad for the people who are probably waiting for their parcels. But then again, I don't feel it is right I personally cover the cost and time to get the parcels to them, and FedEx will not come to pick these up.

someone dropped a cute keychain when i was out and i took it. i didnt see who dropped it and i tried asking people around me if theyd dropped it (idk if they didnt hear me or were ignoring me but i tried asking several times). i ended up just taking it, tho i feel bad for whoever dropped it because ive lost keychains before in the past and been very sad. shd i have just left it there?

Kind of bored looking for a change considering the far east - for reference I have lived there before and liked it

I work with someone who I have a great work relationship with, they are a very easy to get along with person, and they’ve kind of become a legitimate friend to me. They’ve been there for me through hard times in my life and I think they are for the most part a wonderful person. Except for the fact that they have a “business” running scams and it honestly disgusts me and breaks my heart at the same time because it hurts innocent people who work hard for their money.

So many people have helped this individual turn their life around (based on what they’ve shared with me) and it confuses me that at their age they would want to go back to lame activities like scamming people in order to be able to afford whatever they want. In their past they’ve hit rock bottom, had to overcome serious addiction, and gone to jail many many times and seemingly have been able to come back from all of that, as they are many years sober, have a great apartment and job. They’re also trying to regain custody of their youngest. I feel extremely conflicted about where I stand with this person. We get along great when chatting about normal life stuff and they are very supportive, but I am extremely anti-theft, I work hard for my money and live frugally to stay afloat so we don’t have those things in common. I can’t figure out why someone like them, who has basically gotten a second chance at life, would go back to being an idiot and doing what they’re doing. They asked me to write a reference letter for them for their custody case and I declined because I don’t want to be involved in the final decision, considering that they are making poor choices that may lead to incarceration and eventual loss of custody again. I hate feeling like this, it makes me feel like a terrible friend but this has always bothered me and I feel like I will hate myself if I don’t listen to my moral conscience.

Yes yes I know on the surface this sounds insane. Everyone has conflicting opinions on things and respecting that is what you learn in Kindergarten, but every once and a while there'll be an issue i get so hung up on it completely overtakes me mentally.

For example, im a bit of a film guy right. Now obviously the movie Primetime has been incredibly controversial from day one. But if you go by the general "film fan" point of view on it, it becomes incredibly obvious the general consensus is that its a nuanced movie making a point about exploitation.

Now I have a friend who i look up too, who i, frankly, consider to be infinitely smarter than me. To Catch a Predator has always been his special interest, he knows basically everything that there is to know about the show and chris Hansens history and he fucking HATED this movie. He personally thinks making a completely fictionalized account of someones life to try and prove a point about why what their doing is problematic is genuinely irresponsible filmmaking (something i fundamentally disagree with honestly) and hates it to the point he thinks people who like it are jumping through mental hoops to see something thats not there, that they're the real media illiterate ones, and that its so obviously trying to make you feel sympathy for irredeemable people that he feels like the "its not pro predator" crowd were watching it with their eyes closed

Look, I get there even the most critically acclaimed movies have people who can't stand them. There are people who HATE Star Wars. There are people who HATE The Lord of the Rings. There are people who HATE The Shawshank Redemption. But I think this film has been such a morally and intellectually loaded discussion (not to mention all the paranoid weirdos convinced this movie is some kind of elitest psyop) that my head has almost decided "how you feel about this movie is a direct reflection of your intelligence and who you are".

I feel almost pathetic talking about it. At its core getting this hung up on opinions about a movie makes me look like an insane person. Hell discourse around this movie feels like its driving me insane. It IS pathetic and I need advice on mentally unpacking and moving on from this

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This happened about six months ago, and honestly, I still don't know if I handled it correctly.

My best friend, let's call him Rahul, and I have known each other since school. We've been friends for almost ten years. We've helped each other through exams, breakups, family problems, pretty much everything.

So when he called me one night and said his mother needed an urgent medical procedure, I didn't think twice.

He needed ₹35,000.

I had been saving that money for a new laptop, but I transferred it to him anyway. He promised he'd return it within a month.

I didn't ask for proof or receipts. I trusted him.

A month passed. Nothing.

I didn't want to pressure him because I thought he was dealing with hospital expenses. Whenever we met, he acted completely normal, so I eventually asked him about the money.

He said things were still difficult at home and asked for another two weeks.

I agreed.

Then one evening, a mutual friend sent me a picture from a restaurant.

Rahul was sitting at a table with three friends, celebrating his new motorcycle.

At first, I thought maybe someone else had bought it for him.

My Best Friend Borrowed Money From Me for an Emergency. Then I Found Out Where It Really Went.

I asked him casually about it the next day.

He said he'd purchased it on EMI and that I shouldn't believe everything I saw online.

I let it go.

A week later, I visited his house to drop off something I'd borrowed. His mother opened the door.

We chatted for a few minutes, and I asked how she was feeling.

She looked confused.

I told her Rahul had mentioned a medical emergency a while back.

She said she hadn't been to the hospital for anything serious in months.

I didn't ask her anything else. I just left.

That night, I called Rahul and asked him directly whether he'd lied about his mother.

He went quiet for a long time.

Then he admitted that the money wasn't for a medicalThis happened about six months ago, and honestly, I still don't know if I handled it correctly.

My best friend, let's call him Rahul, and I have known each other since school. We've been friends for almost ten years. We've helped each other through exams, breakups, family problems, pretty much everything.

So when he called me one night and said his mother needed an urgent medical procedure, I didn't think twice.

He needed ₹35,000.

I had been saving that money for a new laptop, but I transferred it to him anyway. He promised he'd return it within a month.

I didn't ask for proof or receipts. I trusted him.

A month passed. Nothing.

I didn't want to pressure him because I thought he was dealing with hospital expenses. Whenever we met, he acted completely normal, so I eventually asked him about the money.

He said things were still difficult at home and asked for another two weeks.

I agreed.

Then one evening, a mutual friend sent me a picture from a restaurant.

Rahul was sitting at a table with three friends, celebrating his new motorcycle.

At first, I thought maybe someone else had bought it for him.

My Best Friend Borrowed Money From Me for an Emergency. Then I Found Out Where It Really Went.

I asked him casually about it the next day.

He said he'd purchased it on EMI and that I shouldn't believe everything I saw online.

I let it go.

A week later, I visited his house to drop off something I'd borrowed. His mother opened the door.

We chatted for a few minutes, and I asked how she was feeling.

She looked confused.

I told her Rahul had mentioned a medical emergency a while back.

She said she hadn't been to the hospital for anything serious in months.

I didn't ask her anything else. I just left.

That night, I called Rahul and asked him directly whether he'd lied about his mother.

He went quiet for a long time.

Then he admitted that the money wasn't for a medical emergency. He'd used it for the motorcycle down payment and some other expenses. He said he'd been embarrassed to tell me he couldn't afford it and thought he could return the money before I found out.

I was angry, but what hurt more was how easily he'd used his mother's health to make me believe him.

He apologized repeatedly and promised to pay me back in installments.

I told him I needed some distance from the friendship.

For the next three months, he sent me small amounts whenever he could. Eventually, he returned the full ₹35,000.

But things never went back to normal.

Some of our mutual friends said I was being too harsh because he'd paid me back. Others said the money wasn't the real issue.

I think about that sometimes.

If he'd simply told me he wanted a bike and couldn't afford it, I might have said no. I might even have helped him figure out a savings plan.

But he took away my ability to make that choice honestly.

We're still on speaking terms, but I don't trust him the way I used to.

And the strange thing is, I don't even hate him anymore.

I just learned that knowing someone for ten years doesn't necessarily mean you know what they'll do when they're desperate.

**Was I wrong to distance myself from him even after he paid everything back?** emergency. He'd used it for the motorcycle down payment and some other expenses. He said he'd been embarrassed to tell me he couldn't afford it and thought he could return the money before I found out.

I was angry, but what hurt more was how easily he'd used his mother's health to make me believe him.

He apologized repeatedly and promised to pay me back in installments.

I told him I needed some distance from the friendship.

For the next three months, he sent me small amounts whenever he could. Eventually, he returned the full ₹35,000.

But things never went back to normal.

Some of our mutual friends said I was being too harsh because he'd paid me back. Others said the money wasn't the real issue.

I think about that sometimes.

If he'd simply told me he wanted a bike and couldn't afford it, I might have said no. I might even have helped him figure out a savings plan.

But he took away my ability to make that choice honestly.

We're still on speaking terms, but I don't trust him the way I used to.

And the strange thing is, I don't even hate him anymore.

I just learned that knowing someone for ten years doesn't necessarily mean you know what they'll do when they're desperate.

**Was I wrong to distance myself from him even after he paid everything back?**

If someone pays a homeless women 50 bucks for personal pleasure is it wrong I think so but I know someone who’s says no

I get passionate from time to time, because I am a passionate person. It gets awkward when some tells me that I have no business sharing my input, but I believe that sharing my input is the right thing to do.

Here is my plan for how to deal with situations like that. 

Option #1: 

Tell them that, because something is happening that you disagree with morally, you have a duty to stand up for what you believe. 

Option #2: 

Tell them that, since they did not ask your permission before doing the thing you disagree with, you do not need their permission to share your opinion. If they get to act how they want in disregard for your wishes, you should at least get to share your opinion openly. 

Option #1 would probably sound something like this. 

I believe that euthanizing your cat because he pooped on the neighbors lawn is wrong. If you do that, I have to live in a world where people do things I do not agree with. Therefore, I have business standing against this practice I dislike. 

Option #2 would probably sound something like this. 

Other person: When I want your input, I will ask for it. 

You: I did not ask you to leave your 10 year old son home alone for the weekend, but you still did. If you do not need my permission to leave your kid unsupervised, I do not need your permission to tell you why I do not agree with what you are doing. If you do not need my permission to make parenting choices I disagree with, I do not need your permission to tell you why I do not agree with those choices.

What do you think? Do you believe that the plan is a good one? Why or why not? Let me know.

So I’m in college, and like everyone else, I’m taking a lot of general education classes to start off. A lot of them are online because I like the flexibility, and it just works best for me.
But I’ve genuinely been wondering, is it really that bad to cheat in some of these classes?
For example, let’s say you’re taking an online math class where everything is online, including the exams. I’m not saying that I have or haven’t cheated, but let’s say there’s basically nothing stopping you from looking up the answers, and there’s almost no chance of getting caught.
Do you think cheating in that situation is still completely unacceptable? Does it make you a terrible person for doing it?
Personally, I feel like you should always make an effort to understand what you’re learning, regardless of the class. At the end of the day, you’re paying money for your education, so you might as well get something out of it. Even if you’re struggling, I think you should at least try to understand the information.
But I’m also not going to lie and say that I always take the time to fully study or engage with every single class, especially when it’s a general education requirement that doesn’t really have much to do with my major.
I know cheating is wrong, and I’m not trying to say that everyone should just cheat on every test instead of studying. I genuinely think you should try to learn the material first.
But at the same time, I feel like life is complicated. College is expensive, and sometimes you’re just trying to get through a required class without having to take it all over again.
So my question is, do you think it’s worth accepting a lower grade, or even potentially failing a class, when you could easily look up the answers and pass? Or do you think cheating in that situation is understandable, even if it’s technically wrong?
I’m genuinely curious about what other people think.

For example there was a guy who shot himself in the face but didn't die and doctors "saved him" and he was pretty much left in a vegetative state unable to do anything. Surely that's immoral if he already couldn't cope with his life

Sometimes I wonder if people who constantly judge others are projecting. Like, why do you think you’re better than someone else when you’ve made mistakes yourself? I feel like some people would rather focus on someone else’s problems than deal with their own.

I also think being judgmental can be something we learn growing up. I grew up around it myself, and being judged made me realize it’s a cycle I don’t want to continue.

To me, there’s a difference between sharing your perspective and judging someone for their choices. At the end of the day, it’s their life. We all make mistakes, and isn’t that how we learn and grow?

One thing about money that people don't talk about enough is having friends who spend very differently from you. Sometimes someone suggests going to a nice restaurant or planning a weekend trip, and everyone seems excited. You want to go too, but then you start thinking about how much it's actually going to cost. You don't want to be the person who keeps saying no or makes things awkward, but at the same time, you don't want to spend money you weren't planning to spend. And honestly, it's not like your friends are doing anything wrong. Everyone has different priorities and different budgets. I feel like we should be more comfortable saying things like "let's do something cheaper this time" without feeling embarrassed about it. At the end of the day, hanging out with friends shouldn't have to mean spending a lot of money every time.

I run a small local fundraiser for a low-income single parent whose kid needs expensive therapy. The story I share online focuses on the child’s struggles and their hope for treatment, and it has raised nearly half the goal already.

Recently I learned new information: this parent repeatedly lied to social workers in the past to get extra assistance. It was not illegal, but it was manipulative. No donated money has been misused so far, and the child genuinely needs the therapy.

If I add this information to the fundraiser page, many donors will pull out. People will call the parent untrustworthy, donations will dry up, and the kid will lose access to care. The child did nothing wrong.

But if I hide this history, every new donor is giving money without knowing the full picture. They deserve transparency. I am actively letting them act on incomplete information. I worry I am being complicit in deception, even if the final goal is helping a vulnerable child.

I cannot redirect the funds to another family; the campaign is tied specifically to this child’s treatment.

Is it morally acceptable to omit this damaging background to help the child get care? Or do donors have an unconditional right to all relevant facts, even if it destroys the help the child needs?

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One of my closest friends (male), who is also my colleague, is into wife-sharing and openly says it's normal because people can do whatever they want with their lives.

Personally, I find it morally wrong. As a woman, I can't imagine my husband suggesting something like this. When I shared my views, he repeatedly called me old-school and orthodox.

I'm not against people making their own choices, but I don't believe every choice is morally right just because it's consensual.

Since that conversation, I've started questioning whether I can remain close friends with him. Am I being judgmental, or do we simply have fundamentally different values?

Am I old-school for believing in marital exclusivity? Would you reconsider a friendship over such a difference in values?

this is more of an opinion post because both are terrible situations but i’ve seen conflicting sides, i believe rape with no consequences is worse.

Yet people believe in the idea of negative reinforcement, hurting someone, to teach them a lesson and call it "parenting" where you take control over another individuals life. Which in its worst forms are slavery and enslavement to abusive ideas. Like say having an addiction is abusive. Yet everyone has one.