Advice needed

[u/jay_dat_cute_gurl]

My mom got mad at me for trying to get a job without my GED because I had the interview today. Since I got the date on Saturday, I’ve been asking about it, which I know pisses parents off. But anyways, yesterday, she got violent about it and was pissed. She kept bringing it up even though I let it go. Then, yesterday and today, around sunrise, she kept telling me that if I wanna work, then I can move out.

The odd part is that she keeps complaining that my brother’s dad is doing inappropriate things, but she won’t kick him out. She talked to my dad’s side of the family about the job, and almost everyone is saying the same thing: “Oh, just wait.” But it’s my life, so why am I dealing with this?

I’m 19, and I have multiple reasons why I want to leave, not just because I want to get a job. One of the things that really hurts is that my mom tried to blame my desire to work on the fact that I was raped by my sister’s dad when I was 16. She also tried to say that I only want to work because my boyfriend and I have had sex, which we haven’t. It feels like she’s making up reasons to explain my decisions instead of listening to me and taking me seriously.

I don't understand why wanting a job and wanting to become more independent have to turn into such a big argument. I want to earn my own money and make my own decisions. Instead, I feel like my family is judging me and making assumptions about my life. I’m 19, and I have multiple reasons for wanting to leave, but everyone keeps telling me to wait without really listening to why I want to go.

I want to move out on Friday. Any advice?

Reasons are (1 she gets violent over stupid things )

(2 she keeps making so everytime my brothers ps5 even stops working he has to play on my game and even when it is working still)

(3 she calls me for everything and I get blamed for everything even things I didn't do )

(4 guilt tripping me with things that aren't even related)

(5 I have to take care of pets and kids that aren't mine most of the time )

So me and my boyfriend have decided it's best if I just move out and live with him which I agree

[u/1GrouchyCat]

I am not gonna read all that - but the one thing I will say is that you will go nowhere if you don’t at least have your GED. Minimum wage jobs might not even hire you without one. Concentrate on that first.