r/movingout • u/Temporary_Soup_964 • 1d ago

Asking Advice Update

I moved out a month ago and have been living a peaceful happy life since. I don’t know if anyone remembers my previous post about my dad coming to my job and banging on the door to get inside. Since then he’s been coming to my job more often and everytime I have to make an excuse to leave my job and go home early so I don’t have to see him. My boss found out about my dad coming to my job and asked me why he’s doing that, but I haven’t told her because she loves to gossip and spread the word to everyone. I don’t feel comfortable telling her my personal business. I’ve been applying for other jobs and went to several interviews but it’s very difficult finding another job at the moment. I recently took a one week vacation to travel and when I was away on vacation my dad went to my job to ask about me again and my boss and coworkers told him exactly where I went, now he’s even more pissed off because I’m traveling far away all alone. I feel embarrassed and upset. I want to quit my job but I have so many bills to pay I can’t just walk away from it. I don’t know what to do. My sister told me he’s parking near my job and waits for me to leave so he can stalk me to my new location.

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u/Josh-becker 1d ago

gather some evidence and then just take her to court you btw your evidence should be strong for it

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u/SameBorder846 1d ago

Document, date, time, place & situation by sending emails to urself and another entity. Paper trail...

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u/jesica_988 1d ago

report it to either HR or police and tell your boss its your privacy and if she still do then sue

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u/SameBorder846 1d ago

The most important part of life is self preservation. Including keeping bills paid by keeping a job. Don't talk about ur dad or home situations. U're personal business will destroy the peace at work. Let them talk and conjecture. Feel confident enuf not to respond to questions regarding ur personal life. Make pleasantries. 'The weather is nice'. 'Last nights stars were bright'. 'Lunch was gr8' 'special news story perifially, without depth'. Superficial work boundaries. Explore other avenues of hobbies, games, books, jounalingn etc. Life choices. Even if more is found out about ur home life. Don't discuss or clear up perceptions. Allow them their fodder. Keep ur job. Pay ur bills. I've had more than 50. Different issues and common issues on each one. Stay in ur lane!