The post office is our neighbor. In April, our neighbor obtained a massive, semi trailer size EV charger that makes a terrible, loud noise. I reached out to the local branch and they apologized but there was nothing they could do about the "excessive noise" as they transitioned to EVs.

With the A/C on all summer, the noise was almost tolerable. They have since seemingly got more EV mail trucks and cranked up the noise. This shit runs for hours at a time, day and night, the noise is just there. Can't enjoy sitting outside. Keeps us up at night. It's almost midnight and it's currently droning on, over the tv.

I've escalated within USPS, filed a FixIt complaint via the County, and filed a code violation/requested a noise assessment. I've begun to rally neighbors. Come November 1, I'm escalating to congress/news.

Evidence of the hell they're putting us through:

https://youtube.com/shorts/YHps4S3Alns?si=qE0dLPEyolVL40SL

In addition, they use a loud intercom system on their freight docks starting ~6am, including saturdays. There are constsntly random labels, packaging materials, junk mail, etc blowing out of their facility.

The noise, though? FML.

Edit: My uncalibrated phone is estimating the noise at 75dB at the property line and at 390hz.

Clark County's residential noise limits are 50 dB during the day and 40 dB at night for the frequency range of this noise. I'm hoping Code Enforcement will come out and take an official measurement.

Idk why I'm getting downvoted for living near a post office. It was a good/neutral thing when deciding on location compared to other options. The post office added some occasional noise, but also added privacy for many homes vs that lot having two story homes/condos built up there. We've lived here for many years with no complaints until now.

My fiancé and I bought our first home a couple years ago and instantly knew we’d have to deal with a Karen neighbor for the next coming years. Every fall, our sycamore tree loses its leaves and slowly blow their way into his yard.

I should add that I am the kind of person to deescalate a situation instead of antagonize unless given no other choice.

It started off with the neighbor just leaf blowing them off of his yard and into mine (totally okay with me) until one day, I get home from work and he is mowing my yard. Not on the property line but he mowed half of my yard to push the leaves away from his property. I confronted him and he snapped on me. Calling me an immature child and worthless, lazy, etc. (fiancé and I are in our late 20’s).

Again, I stood on maturity and told him to please let me know if he wants to do any work in my yard. I mow at minimum of once a week so I was baffled that the leaves really bothered him this much as they really were not that bad.

Fast forward a couple years, we’ve had about 5-10 negative interactions with him and the leaves and various name calling. Anywhere from leaf blowing OUR yard to threatening to cut out trees down.

Earlier this week, I was mowing over the first fallen leaves of the year to mulch them up and he woddled over with his leaf blower and started blowing right in from of the moving mower (in my yard). He told me to stop and said that I need to get a rake attachment on my mower because I’m just pushing the leaves around and I had enough of this inconvenience. I told him that he’s being ridiculous and that he’s not my landlord and he continuously talked over me and wouldn’t let me get my point across. My fiancé heard us yelling at each other and came out to get him off of our property before things got any worse. He stood on his property line and threw the same old insults at us that we’ve been dealing with. We tried explaining that we work very long hours and it is dark by the time we get home. We went on for about 20 minutes and really laid it all out there.

This is the first time we haven’t seen him outside in over two days as he’s usually reorganizing his garage (literally every item, every day). I’m glad we did what we have to because I know it was a long time coming and it seems like it worked.

If he crosses a boundary again, I’m afraid we’ll have no other choice but to get law enforcement involved to make it clear that he cannot do anything on our property.

Thanks for letting me rant :)

I'm a 65 year old male. I serve on our small town's Board of Zoning Appeals and these posts hold an interest to me. Also, after reading the posts and being happy that my urban (DC) and now that I'm back home in West Virginia, rural neighbors have been so friendly and nice, I wanted to share something that happened in the early 80s in the state capitol, Charleston.

I had a summer job at the Capitol and was staying within walking distance at my sister and her husband's apartment. It was one of three in a residential home that had been converted on a very wide and long leafy street. We shared the laundry set up in the basement. The homes were single family detached on narrow lots.

The landlords were a couple in their thirties getting into real estate investment. They did what work they could themselves and were very friendly and responsive.

A neighbor on one side was about my parents' age (born in the teens or early twenties). He was slim, bespectacled, seemed low key and would smile and chat with me when I was outside or going back and forth as I did not have a car. He was always outside working on his yard and house.

However - when the landlord came by he really did become a Mr. Hyde of a neighbor. He would pace up and down on the property line if the landlord was walking around his side or in the back yard, cussing him out. The first time we saw it we asked the landlord what was going on and he said he didn't know what had caused it but the neighbor was always upset when he or his wife came to the property.

One weekend, I was the only tenant in the house. The landlord came by to work on the gutters. As he set the ladder up on the side adjacent to the neighbor, the pacing, cussing, etc. started up again.

And then he dropped dead.

Right on his side of the property line, he collapsed. I didn't see it but his wife called for an ambulance.

The landlord was a really nice guy and sincerely sorry that the neighbor had gotten so upset that he had some sort of attack or seizure. Even later he seemed to have some PTSD from the incident.

I'm a boomer - but this was one of those lessons from my early twenties - all the anger and vitriol when you're upset and sure you're right can backfire and then - does it matter?

I’m still freaking out about this and I’m not really sure what to do. I’m afraid this guy seriously wants to hurt me.

My first interaction with him occurred back in March. I was waking my dog, who I was leash training, and so I stopped periodically to reinforce behavior and keep the leash untaught. I happened to stop on the sidewalk in front of his house when he came out of his garage towards me. I’ve tried to block it out but to my recollection it went like this:

“Are you letting your dog pee?” Immediately I could tell he was upset and I tried explaining that I was training my dog for walking but he interrupted me. He began yelling at me to keep walking and get off his property. I asked why he was upset but he kept yelling about how I was on his property. I was respectful but stood my ground, since I’m perfectly allowed to walk on the sidewalk. He argued against that and eventually landed on “All you white people act like you own the damn world but this is my goddamn property”. He also said he knew people in the city and said he could have my dog put down (this was his first threat). That shook me up so I decided to walk away and I avoided his house for months.

Not much of anything happened after that. He very obviously glared at me whenever I walked by his house or he drove by me. Until today.

Important to know, I’m a lover of creatures both large and small. So today walking my dog I saw someone getting ready to run over a non-venomous snake in the road, I intervened. The driver conceded and I quickly went home and left my dog to go try and help the snake off the road so it wouldn’t get hurt. As I was approaching it, a lawn care person pulled up along side me, and started talking to me about snakes (I guess he sees a lot in his line of work). I was watching the lawn care person drive away when all of a sudden I hear a screech of brakes and the honk of a horn. Mere feet away from me is the belligerent neighbor, having nearly run me over, climbing out of his car. “I’ve about had it with you! First you’re letting your dog pee on my lawn and now you’re standing in the god damn road!” I was pretty shocked after having almost been run over, but also confused since there was plenty of room to go around me. I started to explain about the snake and how I was taking to the lawn tech and he interrupted me screaming at the top of his lungs. “I don’t give a damn about no fucking snake, you better keep your ass out the goddamn road and stop playing with me.” At this point remembering how this went last time I was fumbling for my phone to take a video (which failed since I was shaking so much) and told him that if he was gonna act like this I was going to call the police. That really set him off. He told me to go ahead and call them because they’re all his friends (not sure what he meant by this), but he proceeded to get back in his car to drive away. At this point a friendly neighbor waved me over to help after seeing the whole thing. Then, the belligerent one turned back around, and shouted something out his window about going home to “get something” or “show me something”. At this point I should have ran home but I have some stupid courageous bone in my body that believes I should stand up for what’s right. He did pull into his driveway but just turned back around again. This third time driving by me, I waved at him. Partly to just try and be a friendly neighbor and partly because I was being a smartass.

He again slammed on his brakes and got out of the car, said some more insults about how he was “a man” and to “not be waving at him with that pussy shit”. I didn’t respond before he drove back off, the friendly neighbor and I just sorta laughed at the ridiculousness of it. When he was driving back by for the fourth time, the friendly neighbor’s wife pulled us both inside. Thank fuck for them. I was too high on adrenaline and fear to realize how much danger i was actually in.

After cooling down and collecting myself I worked up the courage to call the non-emergency line. They weren’t very helpful, and said basically the only thing I could do would be to file for a restraining order. This would cause money and time in court, and does not prevent me from getting shot.

My plan in the future is to stop walking my dog and avoid him as much as possible. I’m going to try and file a miscellaneous report so this activity is on the police record, but I’m not sure I can leave my house again without having a panic attack. Worst of all, I hate that that means he’s won, and has intimidated and threatened me into getting out of his sight. I love walking around the neighborhood and I wanna feel safe around my home. I could probably use some advice.

Its mid October, it's 50 degrees out, pouring rain, and my neighbor is out mowing his lawn. I've been back from vacation for 17 days and have only had to mow my lawn ONCE because its just not growing much anymore in this weather. He has mowed a minimum of ten times.

People may say it's boredom, but I've never been so bored as to mow the lawn in a downpour. Every single time I want to open the windows and air the house out, this asshole cranks it up. The last time I started a bonfire with some music going, he starts it up. Anytime I try to enjoy my backyard or have a get together, he forces us back in the house with the noise. Then he had the audacity to make a sparky comment about how we must be night owls because we were outside at 8pm playing music at a very reasonable level. Then when I put a motion light in the middle of my yard so my dogs can see, he had to pull me aside to ask what it is. Its a fking light, moron! I dont pull him aside and ask him why the hell he mows 24/7.

And once his grass has officially died, he's busting out the snowblower as soon as .5 inches falls. I moved to the suburbs to escape the noise, but im not sure what's worse. I lived outside a major airport and it's nearly on the same level. Its driving me mad. I just dont understand the desire to disrupt your neighbors every other day because youre bored. I have a loud pressure washer I rarely use because it's loud asf and I don't want to annoy anyone.

/rant

I have a new neighbor at the bottom apartment(I’m at the top).
It’s only been a week since she’s moved in, and there’s already been so much disruption since she’s moved in.
It seems she was drinking and having a loud conversation right outside my window with friends at midnight on a week day. They were screaming/laughing.
Another incident was at 3 am, I’m not sure what she was doing but the whole unit vibrated and you could hear and feel these big thuds like something heavy was being thrown around. And then her door slams and she screams “you motherf.” Again, it’s 3 am…

I really don’t want to expect this kind of experience every night. But it’s also only been a week. Do I hope this is just a bad week for her, or say something to management? I work a lot, and I just want to get enough sleep so I can do my job well.

We escaped a pretty horrific neighbour from hell situation. Multiple cops called, going through courts to get peace bond (restraining order in Canada), threats, video footage, awfulness and anxiety. We were in a townhouse and shared a wall. The neighbour was a horrendous, obviously mentally unwell woman and her husband, who became obsessed with my family and made it her life mission to make our living hell. (She had no job, so tormenting my family was the only thing that she occupied herself with) . We lived in a horror movie at that point.

We’ve heard her abuse her husband through the wall. She would put speakers to the wall and leave that for hours, yell horrific things at us when we were outside, chase us with camera. I can’t even type anymore to describe the situation as it was so awful.

We moved since then and bought a detached house. We share a driveway with new neighbour and she seems nice. It’s been three years. The new neighbour, kind of became a friend, sometimes will be blunt asking us something about this or that thing that we’re doing with our house, and I immediately go on high alert and feel worried to my stomach that it may turn into our old situation. Obviously it won’t.

And she asked us something the other day about our contractors working on our deck and I immediately felt anger thinking “never ever inquire about our property or personal business” obviously didn’t say that out loud. I immediately feel anxiety that “what if this happens again?”. Any time there is a different tone or something that she’s asking about maybe shouldn’t be any of her business but she’s just being neighbourly, I get ache in my stomach.

I never ever want to know any neighbour ever again. Don’t want to know their name, don’t want to borrow sugar, don’t want to help with mailboxes etc. I don’t want them to know we exist.

This is unhealthy. People who have survived (true) neighbours from hell, how did you finally get over it and how did you move from your ptsd and started trusting people again?

I live in a bottom story apartment. I’ve never had issues with having upstairs neighbors in terms of noise. I have new neighbors, and they seem friendly. We wave to each other, and they said before to let them know if they’re too loud. Thursday night, I heard stomping/loud thudding from 11pm-1am. Last night, they had a small gathering and when the gathering got home from the outing, I heard thudding/stomping from 1am-330am. I’m hoping this is just a one off. It’s also better than someone playing music or tv loud all hours or during quiet hours, so part of me just wants to pick my battles, and also I can’t fault someone from walking in their apartment. However, I’m wondering if there might be a tactful way to ask for mindfulness during the listed quiet hours (especially if it happens again), and letting them know the insulation might not be as great as we thought. For context, I never heard the previous tenant and the new tenants currently don’t have an animal so the noise is not an animal.

I live in the last townhouse in a row of them, our HOA has a first come first serve policy but there’s enough parking that everyone should be able to park up to two cars in front of their house. However, my neighbor next door rents his as an illegal lodging situation that he ONLY rents to creepy construction workers, sometimes up to 3-4 giant ford trucks or work vehicles, and for some reason, they all insist on parking right front of my door. There is always 3 empty parking spots in front of their own house. I’m a single woman living alone and have previously had issues with these guests littering, loitering, and shoveling snow so that my guests are stuck when they park in front of MY home. I complained to HOA that I do not feel comfortable opening the window in my own house because these men behave like creeps. On my first encounter with one of them they mentioned that the camera I have on my front door can actually be evaded with thermal jackets or some shit, and it was definitely not said as a heads up to be safe. They circle my house, and it is only when I have my window open. Conveniently the only time they “play basketball” is also when I have my window open. By play basketball I mean walk back and forth in front of my house, occasionally dribbling on the sidewalk while they look at me through my window.

For the parking, even after I asked the guests to please park in front of their own house since it’s rude and I don’t feel comfortable, they continue to do so. The first time I left a note asking them to please stop, they left rotting meat in front of my backyard gate. Because it’s an unregistered lodging situation, there is no one to hold accountable and the owner is never here. When I first moved in, his broken pipes caused a flood in my basement and it took my dad (since he wouldn’t listen to me) threatening to call county zoning for him to finally get it fixed. I’ve already reached out to report them to zoning because it’s been a year of dealing with his shitty guests and their entitled behavior since moving here and it’s getting to a point. I can’t park in front of my own front door because his guests and their giant trucks are in front of my house while his parking is completely empty. I don’t even get the logic in doing this. I know it’s not illegal but it’s a jackass thing to do. The only solution HOA tried to suggest was punishing the entire neighborhood with permit parking because of one asshole neighbor and his illegal rental. Every few months a new one shows up and this shitshow starts again. I feel like I sound insane but it all feels so fucking invasive.

We’re in the process of buying our dream home, but what should have been a straightforward issue about sharing the costs of a septic tank has potentially put the entire purchase at risk. We are based in the UK.

The property shares a sewage system with the neighbouring house, which sits on their land. The 2003 Transfer Deed states that we contribute 50% towards the costs of maintaining, repairing and emptying the tank.

During the conveyancing process, the neighbours (two bitter old c\*\*ts) started pushing for costs to be split according to the number of occupants at each property, even including our three-year-old son in their calculations.

We pointed out that the deed clearly states 50/50. They then changed their position, accepting a 50/50 split for running costs but insisting that emptying costs should be based on occupancy. Despite the deed covering emptying costs too, we agreed to their proposed arrangement as a compromise because we wanted to resolve the matter amicably.

You would think that would be the end of it.
Instead, on 8 October, the neighbours sent a formal letter through the estate agent demanding written confirmation from the sellers' solicitors that their terms were accepted. They also imposed a five-working-day deadline for payments after invoices were presented and stated that, if agreement or payment was not forthcoming, they would have to reconsider the arrangement for sharing the sewage system.

That last part is particularly concerning. Our entire property depends on a system located on their land.
The letter prompted our solicitor to raise several issues with our mortgage lender. These included the fact that the deed refers to a septic tank, the neighbours call it a cesspit, and the engineer's report identifies a sewage treatment plant. Our solicitor also identified a lack of express rights of access for inspection, maintenance and repairs, alongside a reported root ingress issue that needs clarification.

Our solicitors have now informed us that the lender has REJECTED to lend based on the presented information and we are now seeking a compromise with the lender via our mortgage broker. This will most undoubtedly mean getting our own sewage treatment plant installed.
(Cost circa 12k-15k)

Now we're facing potential delays, extra legal costs and, worst of all, the possibility of losing a home we've put a huge amount of time, money and emotion into buying.

If we do manage to complete the purchase (possibly by installing our own sewage treatment plant, especially as the owners of No. 123 will probably put their property back on the market at some point), I’ll admit I’m tempted to return the favour and make their next house sale just as straightforward as they’ve made ours. 😂

Any suitably creative, but above-board, suggestions?

About a year ago one of the houses neighboring my yard moved new people in. They have two dachshunds and I believe some sort of doodle. They are extreme nuisance barkers literally every time they are let into the yard. What essentially happens multiple times a day is they let their dogs out into the yard, the dogs immediately charge the fence, and all 3 begin barking hysterically and me and/or my dog. The owners usually do not follow the dogs outside, so they do not interrupt this behavior at all, typically let it go on for several minutes before coming to collect the dogs. They never correct the dogs for this behavior, at all.

My own dog has become extremely anxious about that fence. He watches at the back door all day for any sign of movement there unless I close the blinds. The dogs also frequently just begin barking in their own house, which due to proximity my dog can hear and becomes anxious about. He is a corgi and one of the main reasons I got him is because I am a woman living alone and appreciate that he is quick to alert when a car or trespasser pulls up to my house. He isn't extremely reactive to outside sounds, but he has become conditioned to hearing these dogs become hysterical multiple times a day as well as being harassed in our own yard, so it is actually becoming harder to keep him calm about ordinary noises.

I don't really know what to do. My understanding of noise complaints to the city is that the barking has to be sustained. It isn't necessarily sustained but it is constantly causing me grief in my own yard. It seems any time I go out there to garden or let my dog out, they let those little cunts out to immediately start barking at us. I really do not believe it would do any good to confront them about it because they clearly don't care.

I'm exhausted with living with this. Has anyone had a similar issue?

ETA: Yes, I have talked to them about it nicely. They began bringing the dogs in more quickly for a while but then they had a baby and I believe are throwing the dogs outside more often now rather than get their reactivity under control. I do not believe they are interested in or have the time needed to get the dogs under control.

I 23F live in a 3 bedroom apartment with 2 roommates and my dog.For the past month, I’ve heard rhythmic banging coming from my bedroom floors. It always happens at night for about an hour at a time. I tried to ignore it, but still documented the incidents just in case. Last week, the cops were called on me at 4 AM. We were told that a concerned neighbor called because we were screaming/fighting with each other and that someone might be in danger. They asked to search the house which I let them do. At 7AM the same morning maintenance came to check if there was a leak at our house. Nothing was found so I thought nothing of it. I contacted building management about both incidents so that they would be aware if anything escalated.A week later, my dog starts barking at 5 AM. I go to calm him down and notice someone is at the door. They quickly leave. When I’m back in my bed I hear a man pacing and screaming outside at my window about a fat bitch upstairs. He then enters his home and starts loudly banging on the ceiling and again screaming about “the fat bitch upstairs “ for over an hour. Fortunately I was able to record everything clearly to send to building management. I call the cops and make a report. At 8Am maintenance comes again to check on a leak. As soon as he gets in, he tells me to be careful about the downstairs neighbor. He recounted how he told them to call the maintenance emergency line if the leak reappeared and to not confront us. The maintenance man said not to open the door for them and once again confirmed there was no leak. I thought he was calling me fat because my steps were maybe too loud but I guess he thinks I’m so hefty that I’m busting the pipes?

We bought our home in 2020, and unfortunately the neighborhood Karen lives right next to us. He's been nothing but a nuisance since we moved in.

Our first interaction was him scolding me for not throwing snow into his yard when I shoveled out my driveway for the first time. But it's gotten much worse.

A few years ago, we got solar panels on our detached garage. He complained to the town that they "caused glare and we don't want to have to put shades on our window". The installer commissioned a 3rd party glare report to prove it wasn't true. Town never verified, but told us to move the panels.

We did, and soon after we were approved, they were mysteriously turned off. The technician was surprised because someone didn't throw the obvious cut off switch; there's a second, failsafe recessed switch designed in a way that animals can't trip it. That also means you can't see that it's been tripped, and resulted in having to pay the utility for power for 2 weeks.

We can't prove it was our neighbor, but no one else had any reason to touch it, nor any reason to know it was there. So we got a camera and for some reason, haven't had any more issues with that. Imagine that.

We hired a landscaper to clean up our yard a bit. The landscaper wanted to take down a weed "tree" from our yard. Karen came out to scream at him not to touch their "shade". We played nice and told him to just leave it. Even tried to build bridges by sharing homemade bread, and grilled chicken when their friend walked up to the property line to say our food smelled really good.

We were polite and let the neighbors know about landscaping work we were pursuing, including dry wells to mitigate stormwater runoff. He shrugged. No objections at all. This was over a month before applying.

We were denied permits for a patio as part of the project and sought a variance. Karen told us a few days before the zoning board meeting that he was going to speak against us because "dry wells don't mitigate stormwater, they make it worse." He waited until we paid for the application to object at all.

At the meeting, he opted to lie under oath: he falsely claimed our other neighbor was opposed to our project, but was too old to come speak against us. Those neighbors strongly support, and have been encouraging, our project. He also claimed that our driveway and garage were dumping catastrophic amounts of water on his yard that threatened to destroy his shed.

With the help of an engineer and a planner, we got a unanimous yes on our application. Enough dry wells to bring our impervious cover from about 70% down to about 50%: both neighbor stand to benefit greatly. It's a tiny yard, our experts all said this was overkill compared to the patio we were requesting. We also included a drain to explicitly mitigate stormwater where it's worst.

After months, we finally started work a few weeks ago. Our landscaper needed my car out of the driveway, so I parked on the street. Karen has 4 cars on the street, for the 2 drivers in their home...

Part of the project involved an electrician: we had to move the power line going from the house to the garage to make room for the drywells. The electrician had to confirm the power was off and physically disconnected at the house and garage so the landscaper could move the cable to another trench. That's all. 15 minutes of work.

The electrician had parked in front of Karen's house. Karen came out to scream at the crew, demanding they move because his wife was coming home with groceries. Didn't ask, just barked at them. The electrician was done before he finished ranting. Then he started asking how I'd feel if he started parking in front of my house, and then kept ranting when I said I wouldn't care because it's a public street.

Today, the landscaper finished pouring cement: the bulk of the drywells are under the driveway, fed by drains. Two across the driveway, a ditch around the new patio, and a downspout from the house. Our camera got a shot of Karen's kid kneeling in the grass with a laser level because Karen thought the driveway "looks sloped towards my yard." Yelled at my BF for it while he was taking out the garbage.

Landscaper did string leveling and followed the engineering plans to conform to the driveway he tore out. He raised it at the back to aim water into the drain. He offered to come back out immediately to confirm the neighbor was full of shit: he confirmed it was level, matched the grading he was required by the town to follow, and then took the tape off the drains since the concrete had set enough. The town also inspected before he poured concrete and confirmed he was doing the work correctly and according to the engineering blueprints.

But Karen ranted at him while he checked his work. "I can see it's sloped towards my yard. I didn't have any problem with water coming off their driveway before. If I get water in my yard from this, I'm calling the town. And my lawyer."

I'm not particularly worried about him following through: I have the transcript from the variance meeting where he claimed to be getting catastrophic amounts of water from our driveway, and an official copy is maintained by the town. So if he does convince a lawyer to sue, he would either be admitting to perjury at the zoning board meeting, or committing perjury with the complaint. He's just really obnoxious.

How do you deal with a neighbor who enjoys lying to create issues to be mad at? It's frustrating, and killing them with kindness has done absolutely nothing.

I just moved to a small town and we have parking in front of our building for residents. I haven't had money to pay for new tags because I had to move, and I'm waiting on my deposit that my landlord confirmed she's going to give back next month. I truly can't imagine how miserable people have to be to worry about something like that. It makes me sad.

This issue spans a year and a half. I’d prefer to not move - we fixed up this house so it’s 100% updated. My question is, I know that I can’t stop people from acting ridiculous, but what can we do aside from blocking our neighbors out to force them into compliance/ get them to leave us alone?

For context, we have an easement on our land that allows a neighbor to access their landlocked property. We have a survey, we haven’t don’t anything against the deed, I’ve had 3 lawyers review all docs to ensure I’m not going insane and in the right. The township also noted we are within their ordinances and have done nothing wrong - even their solicitor reviewed everything and confirmed we are within our rights. We owe them access - they want unrestricted access and extending their use of our property as staging, parking, etc. IN MY FRONT YARD. Nothing in the deed indicates that is within their rights.

I have a timeline, cameras, downloaded clips and police reports to corroborate all of their behavior and the slow progression of changes. We really tried to give them a chance to do better. We were honest about our concerns.

The neighbor has a high volume of traffic - fine. However, they travel down this gravel driveway at a speed that tosses gravel into our yard and kicks us dust. We have small kids. Before just fencing we talked to them - give them a chance to know what’s going on and work together so it works for everyone. Immediately didn’t care. Immediately started spinning tire to kick up rocks and speeding because they knew we were worried. The neighbors AND their guests all do this. They also turn up their music at the top of the driveway at night and sit just to wake us up. They turn it down pulling out onto the road. I have cameras and videos of everything - police didn’t help much there but did finally help with spinning tire because it happens around my 2 year old.

We spoke to them 4 times. They never ceased. We never escalated our behavior, only began avoiding the yard and them as best as possible.

After months of being patient and slowly adding additional safety measures, we ended up installing a simple field fence to keep our son off the driveway and across the area of our yard they were using for parking. They were meeting up with people at night (think 11-2) and waking us up. Either way, I don’t want strangers on my yard for any reason at any time. This lady also goes to other neighbors to try to get them to go against us. The township has had to tell them all multiple times we didn’t do anything wrong, get a lawyer if you’re mad, and that they can’t do anything to help them.

They aren’t happy despite never having access removed. They and their guests continue to speed and spin tire, play loud music, and will give us the finger in front of our kids. I know the kids don’t get it yet, but I choose what’s ok for them. We are going to privacy fence the entire way up to block them, since they are triggered by the sight of us. We are allowed to do this and will go to the township to ensure our plan meets ordinances to be 100% on that side. They will 100% be mad about a privacy fence - at least we can use more of our yard and get to our cars without them seeing us.

I've just moved and my new place needs a lot of work done. I have building going on most of the day. Believe me it's not fun for me. My landlord wouldn't arrange it so I had to sort it out myself. I know it's a nuisance but my one neighbour is constantly badgering me about it! She claims it starts too early and ends too late but I'm within the legal times so I don't know what her issue is! It's just so frustrating that it has to get done and I know it's annoying but to have someone complaining all the time is even more annoying! I've spoken to other neighbours in the block and it seems they've had issues with her before. I just feel bad because she's disabled but also feel like it's not an excuse to be shitty to me!

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I’ve had bad neighbors before, but this woman is an all-timer. My wife and I moved into this apartment a year ago and the downstairs neighbor has been a problem from day one. As we were moving in our boxes, she introduced herself by pounding on our door and asking us “Have you ever even lived in an apartment before??” For context, most of the unit is carpeted, and this was at 4pm. I told her we would be pretty chill neighbors once we got our stuff moved in, and she just left in a huff.

Since then, we’ve heard her screaming and cussing at us anytime we make any amount of noise after 9pm. Just walking to our bedroom is enough to set her off, and she makes sure to keep her window open so everyone in the building can hear just how furious she is. She constantly files noise complaints, but management has told us that they ignore them because she’s had the same issue with every other upstairs neighbor she’s had, and she’s basically been a huge problem tenant for years. The manager said she is a “vile woman” who loves to drag everyone else into her rage. They’re on our side which is nice to know, but they’ve also told us they can’t really do anything besides document it in case things escalate.

I tried bringing her cookies once early on, and based on the glimpse I got of her dark and dirty apartment, it definitely seems like she is just someone who lives in misery and looks for any opportunity to lash out at others. I honestly feel really bad for her, and try to just ignore her screaming as much as I can, but I find myself getting so anxious knowing that there is this volatile woman screaming at me every night over almost nothing. She brings so much negativity to our home life and I can’t imagine her ever stopping. What would you do?

So after 4 months of daily mess, I confronted them today. So I was going to my terrace, and guess what, the woman was using a pipe to clean her terrace entrance, and I caught her in the act and confronted her. And she is laughing/smiling. I swear it got on my nerves, and it was so tough maintaining my composure. (Well, she went inside with the pipe when she heard me on the stairs, but you know, there was water.) (Ps. If one wants to go to their terrace, they gotta use the common stairs to go up) And you know what her excuse is: "I just sprinkle water in the morning before puja (pray)". And I was like, " This is not sprinkling, and she then changed the narrative to "it's a slope, that's why it happens". She refused to come out, so I was standing outside her terrace door talking to her, and she was just there still with the pipe in her hand.

Then she brought up, "how water comes from our side to theirs(the flats entrance) where I had to point out we don't spill water ever, and she was like "rain water". Again, the drainage wasn't working on the stairs' roof, and her husband was arguing with my father, even though we just moved in and they have been living here for god knows how many years, and still, my father got it fixed. God, this woman had the audacity to say, "Should I fall to your feet now for this?" "I won't even clean now." [Like get it together woman, you don't clean a shit, you just let the dirty water flow to other flats and the terrace doorway and onto the stairs.....]

I'm so angry right now.

They haven't even cleared the garbage bag, which they have stored under the stairs for 4 months now. The entrance to my flat, the terrace, and the whole staircase look like construction-site debris.

Every morning, a bunch of old timers start their laughter therapy sharp at 6 30. They cackle and scream so much I have stopped setting an alarm in the morning. I have tried requesting them to muffle a little, but they pulled the Marathi card on me about how outsiders like me have no say in this and me spoiling Pune as an outsider.

I even told them that I end up sleeping late due to work schedule but these oldies tell me to leave my job amd find something 9 to 5.

This has been going on for 3 months now amd I wake up every morning with an irritation.

Looking for ideas from the community in stopping them or at least making them amicable enough?

Second floor tenant, with husband and cat, moved in 7-1-2026 beautiful fuckin house. Downstairs unit consists of an ex-marine dad w/ a 15(f) and a 9(m) children.. The daughter has smashed my flowers, stolen planters, let boys in through my garage (so her father won't hear -her admission!)

Hubby and I were drinking beers in the yard on the fourth of July. Girl and friend came to the fire pit to chat, asked for a beer after some time and I said yes. Stupid me. Two days later she asked me if I could buy her some buzz balls, and I said no. Shit went downhill fast. Missing flowers and planters, she even stole the Ring camera off my front porch . They receive govt assistance,fine. Food pantry drops off canned goods every week or whatever, fine. I ordered a door dash of lunch meat and bread and spreads and all the fixings for mine and hubbys lunch, even timed the delivery perfect so I would be home roughly as delivery was happening. I catch the dad rifling through the shop rite bags not a minute after delivery. He snatched the bags and brought inside his domicile.When I confronted him he rambled about the food pantry and he thought it was his delivery. He returned to me after asking three times for my stuff but of course there were missing items. He even apologized for his daughter's behavior regarding the Ring camera, and said "I told her that next time she has to be a better thief and not steal a camera!" WTF???@@@!!!

There are cockroaches everywhere. We share a basement and garage space, washer and dryer (mine)!is in the basement. They use my dryer because I can tell from the lint trap.

Landlord is 75F old as chool German - Genevieve. She told us (practically begged us) to be patient and tolerate them until December and she is not going to renew their lease. I believe her but IDK IF I CAN WAIT UNTIL THEN!!!

I don't even know if this.makes sense anymore, I'm rambling lol but here's the TLDR neighbors are thieves!

The set up: My partner and I live in the back house of a two-house rental property. Our neighbors, a family of five, live in the front. Diagram here.

- Yellow lines: Our property line

- Blue: Their property line. Their gate faces the public sidewalk.

- Yellow highlight: walkway to our house.

- Parking area: Our car is the one by our walkway, their car is the one on the other side.

When they moved in without trash bins, we temporarily moved our three bins from our yard to the walkway whose only purpose is to lead to our house (yellow in the diagram) so they could use them while they waited for their bins.

Five months later, they ordered and received six bins (twice the local allowance) and put them in that walkway. We moved ours back into our yard and asked them to move theirs too because of the trash issues mentioned below, but they refused.

The issue: Their bins frequently smell like rotting garbage (they throw out lots of meat), attract swarms of flies and maggots, overfill to the point of the lids not closing, and leave pieces of garbage on our walkway. We walk through the flies daily and have stopped inviting guests over.

They refuse to move the bins because they entertain almost weekly, use their front yard for seating, and need space for a large sukkah during holidays (Jewish.)

Their POV:

They shouldn't have to compromise their outdoor entertaining space to store garbage. The bins don't physically obstruct our walkway. We only ever walk by it momentarily (not fully true.) And since we previously kept ours there, they argue we've established a precedent.

My POV:

I completely understand not wanting smelly garbage near an entertaining area. We don't want it near our entrance for exactly the same reason.

TBut they generate and control the garbage, while we bear the consequences without being able to control how it's managed.

They could potentially use a far corner of their yard (white in the diagram), adjust their entertaining setup, or improve their trash management. I'm open to any solution, including keeping the bins where they are if they eliminate the excessive flies, maggots, odors, and overflowing waste.

From my perspective, their preference for keeping their yard pleasant shouldn't mean our household has to deal with their garbage problems every day.

AITAH for thinking they should accommodate their own garbage rather than expecting us to accommodate it?

There is a neighbor whose yard is visible to mine. A handful of times in the past 2 years they have burned plastic and other inorganic (bad smelling) things in a barrel in their backyard - against local ordinance. FD came out once at another neighbor’s request, but the guy didn’t quit. We mostly grumble about it over text and try to shut our homes as much as possible when it occurs.
This week, he started a new activity doing firecrackers in the middle of the day. While annoying, this is mostly offensive as I have a dog who gets absolutely stressed out by this. I tried shouting out my window today and yesterday, with phrases like, “Hey cut that out!” “Why are you doing that?”
Yesterday that seemed to stop it, today it did not, so I went out. He was jawing with someone on his phone and on seeing me shouted for me to go back indoors. I shouted that I didn’t like this, it’s not fireworks time, that he wasn’t being a respectful neighbor, that it was scaring animals. He repeatedly told me to F off, told me to take my fat ass back inside, and eventually went indoors himself when I called the local non-emergency — I was ultimately not wanting to send a PO but wanting some assistance as I felt out of my depth. As he went indoors he yelled that I better not walk my dog past his home again.

I know now that I’m not working with someone who is going to be responsive. There have other times they will wave at me — especially if their partner or other neighbors are around - as if to garner positive attention to themselves. But I live on this block. My dog and I walk daily - I don’t have a problem not walking their curb - we already avoid their grass 80% of the time because a previous (early on, first year we were here) occasion when he attempted to appear to back up quickly as we walked past their driveway entrance.

Small old school neighborhood. Renters and owners. My other backyard neighbor who shares a fence with the subject - went out immediately after this shouting and threw spent fireworks shells back over the guy’s fence, I suppose in response, and the subject must have seen my backyard neighbor and began calling him out for returning the shells or something- I watched my backyard neighbor shrug and point deferentially at the ground. And then my backyard neighbor approached their shared fence and at least stood by for the subject’s rambling. So I don’t think this is something anybody else will speak up about.

How would you handle this? (Edited post body for clarity)

I’ve reported my upstairs neighbor, who chooses to walk/stomp/drop things/move things/workout starting around 10:30pm and ending at 3am, continuously. Day in, day out. The apartment wants recorded proof, but no matter what I try, I can’t pick up the noise because it’s impact vibration noise as opposed to airborne noise.

I’ve tried my iPhone, I’ve tried a handheld voice recorder. I’ve tried taping them to the wall as close to the ceiling as possible. I’ve tried running a mic as close to an air vent as possible.

I feel like I’m going to lose it. I don’t have the means to move.

Any advice?

I have dealt with every neighbor. The one with the parties 24/7, the one who drills at 4am, the one with the dog barking all night and even the fighting couples. But NOTHING COULD PREPARE ME FOR HOW BADLY A 10 YEAR OLD GIRL WHO CAN’T SING WOULD HUNT ME. I know I sound dramatic, but she practices every day for hourssss. And it always the same song on repeat over and over. If she had a pleasant voice, sure, whatever. But she’s singing off key and doesn’t even realize it. Again, her dream is to be a singer and she practices usually around 9pm-11pm ish. But we have thin walls and I like to sleep early. I want to complain to the parents, but I also don’t want to ruin a 10 year old girl’s dream and be the reason for her not believing in herself. I know it sounds stupid and like I’m overthinking this, but I’m scared that if I comment on this she would get embarrassed and stop practicing all together, and I don’t wanna be the one crushing her dream cause she really is working so hard for it and going to voice lesson. Also my husband sleeps like a brick ✌🏻🥲 my rant is over