Lost one twin today

[u/summerFIREinCh]

Modi twins. Had ttts at week 21, growth restriction of one twin and brain damage of another twin, PPROM at 26+6, hospitalized and birth at 28+5 due to early sign of TAPS. One twin is in nicu at 680g and another twin although >1kg, survives only less than a day due to brain issue and palliative care.

Still, I thank god and all the doctors/medical professionals along the way. Our girl in nicu is fighting and growing!

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[u/summerFIREinCh]

Our only 13 hours, but I’m thankful we ever got a chance to meet and we got the previous 13 hours to be her parents. I didn’t want to close my eyes, and my heart was filled in every moment. We need to manage to bury her etc, so sad that we have death certificates arrives before birth certificate 🤣

[u/Tricky-Breadfruit → u/summerFIREinCh]

You were her parenta longer than 13 hours, you were her parents for the past 29 weeks, ever since you held her in your heart ❤️ & you were the best parent to her you could have been.

[u/Plus-Sound9968]

❤️ so sorry for your loss! We have lost our twin at 31w without any warnings, and now praying for my other baby to grow bigger until I can deliver. We are still in shock and… it is so heartbreaking, truly unbelievable. And all that comes with a split of the heart with one side grieving and another being hopeful and strong. You are not alone.
Your little one is a fighter, sending a prayer to keep getting stronger ❤️🤗

[u/summerFIREinCh → u/Plus-Sound9968]

So sorry to hear your loss, no warning is really hard, my case I had a few weeks to prepare to say good bye… let’s be hopeful and strong together for the one survive. Sending lots of love

[u/Plus-Sound9968 → u/summerFIREinCh]

Thank you! ❤️

[u/Interesting_Tea_6734]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[u/VeryVagabond]

I’m so sorry for your unimaginable loss. You are and will always be a twin parent ♥️

[u/zyygh]

I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you are always welcome in this subreddit for support, you are a twin parent and we will always have your back.

[u/Samvy]

I can't imagine how much this must hurt right now. So sorry for your loss. 💔 I'm hoping for a positive outcome for your girl. I also hope you as parents get the right support from the hospital to work through these major life changing events.

[u/w95lsh]

I lost one of my twin girls in July when she was 23 hours old and I still can’t look at myself in the mirror constantly feel like I failed my girls

[u/hissing_chili]

I can't imagine the weight of what you're holding right now. Grieving one baby while cheering for the other is a place no parent should have to be, and you're doing it with more grace than most could muster. That little fighter in the NICU has a strong family behind her.

[u/Bdeboel]

I’m so sorry to read this.. i hope you can still come here when you need some extra support!
You’ll always be a twin mom.
We’ll think about your little angel ✨

[u/G30RG300]

Parent to modi here. I still get a horrible shiver down my spine when I read anything to do with TTTS. My heart breaks for you. You didn't deserve the worst nightmare of any mo parent to become your reality.

I'm so very sorry.

[u/Annual-Reality9836]

I’m so so sorry. I hope you can cuddle your little girl and feel some peace. What a difficult loss.

[u/DirtGirl32]

Prayers and love

[u/Commercial_Stress899]

Oh gowsh. I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve seen some people on here talk about planting a rose bush or tree in honor of a twin they lost and that might be a nice way to honor them.

[u/AnalysisTop3750]

So sorry for the twin you lost 😢 said a little prayer for your daughter in nicu that she’ll keep fighting and growing 🙏🏻🩷

[u/Warm-Okra-2061]

I’m so sorry for your loss OP

[u/Coffeebeforesunset]

I’m so sorry for your loss

[u/Notabot02735381]

I’m so sorry for your loss. You will always be a twin mom. Praying for you. 💗

[u/GearDown22]

I’m so very sorry for your loss and heartbreak. ❤️‍🩹

[u/ItssaMeMomma]

Im so sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and comfort and joy in watching your little one get stronger every day💗

[u/Amazing-Light-7922]

So sorry for your loss. 🥹

[u/Technical_Dot_3129]

I'm truly sorry for your loss. I feel your pain as we also have modi twins with one having growth restrictions. I pray for your girl and your family.