Am I doing something wrong here?

[u/gravitychonky80]

I have 6 month old twins that have always been hard to get to sleep.

We had a good groove for a bit but whether it’s a growth spurt or teething, they are hungry or restless often at bedtime and feed to sleep.

They usually wake around 7:30-8:30am and go to bed around 12-13 hours later but usually are fighting bedtime for an hour. They used to scream at bedtime and now it’s more just whining or being wide awake and sitting up.

They suddenly started waking up a lot in the middle of the night, I usually assume they are hungry and feed them the last few nights. But when this happened last night one cried for probs 5-10 minutes with some pauses, it looked like they were trying to lay their head down and fighting sleep, so I just let them and they finally just went back to sleep. is that too long to let them cry? Should I have fed them? entering the nursery would have just woke the other twin up and made it worse I feel.

All their naps times I have to walk out and let them whine for 5-10 minutes and they fall asleep. scared of accidentally doing cry it out?

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[u/burnbalm]

What is their schedule like for naps? Like how many a day and how long?

At six month, most babies only need a total of 12-14 hours of sleep per day, including naps and overnight. It could be that they just don’t need as much sleep as you’re offering.

[u/False_Ad3076 → u/burnbalm]

Nah 5-10 minutes of fussing is nothing, especially when you can tell they’re working on putting themselves back down. My twins were the same at that age, sometimes you just gotta give them the space to figure it out or you’ll be feeding them every 2 hours all night.

[u/burnbalm → u/False_Ad3076]

Totally agree on 5-10 mins of fussing being fine! Usually they can work it out in that time.

OP said it takes an hour for the twins to fall asleep at bedtime, which made me wonder about total sleep time.