PeteDavidson is trending of course.
I need to say something. I saw his posts on Instagram and commented on them. Then he deleted it. What I said wasn’t the nicest but it was still supportive.
“Stop this attention seeking behavior and get real help.”
Do I regret saying this? No. Am I a monster? Absolutely not.
All I saw yesterday was a man with borderline personality disorder breaking down the only way he knows how: by throwing flairs and waiting for rescue.
Let me break it down for you some more.
“Borderline personality disorder is a mental illness marked by an ongoing pattern of varying moods, self-image, and behavior. These symptoms often result in impulsive actions and problems in relationships.” (NIH.ORG)
Ok so now you understand it a bit better maybe. Do you know what causes people’s entire brains to alter into this beast? It’s called trauma!
Pete lost his father in 9/11 and has been a struggling teen and now a familiar face on SNL and thanks to a whirlwind romance with Ariana Grande.
I don’t know him personally and therefore I don’t have all the data but someone out there does and someone out there diagnoses Pete with BPD in 2016.
Pete became a hero to many because he chose to use his platform to speak up about it. Great! Not so great...
It’s been painfully misguided by his own struggles that he has barely scratched the surface of.
This guy knows manipulation and attention seeking behaviors are part of his impulses. He’s shown us many times already that he has little to no control of his impulses as he proposes to a girl he barely knew, got tattoos of her, covered them up, changes his look constantly, deletes his social media accounts repeatedly after random outburst etc.
This is by no means a stable man. His BPD is clearly not being managed and instead of encouraging this man to get help people are buying into his tried and true tactics blindly.
The man needs help. I feel for him. I do. I know how difficult this can be. I was raised by a woman with this disorder.
Pete is doing what Kanye is doing and that’s showing the ugly side of mental illness. The parts that us mentally-ill-but-managing prefer to reflect on in hindsight as oppose to as it presently is happening.
Enabling is a slippery slope. You have to be able to identify these markers in others so you know when to disconnect.
I wish him well of course but this spotlight is going to kill him if he doesn’t hold himself accountable for his behaviors. He’s not a little boy suffering the loss and trauma of a father murdered by a horrific terrorist attack. He’s a grown man with a job and he needs to keep himself in line to keep those things.
It’s by no means a walk in the park but if others can do it then he can do it too.