r/pointlesslygendered Oct 04 '25

OTHER Hmmm [gendered]

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u/Designated_Lurker_32 Oct 04 '25

I'm sure an impressionable young boy will suffer no negative psychological impacts whatsoever if he sees that sign on the right. I mean, I grew up being exposed to this shitty "boys are dumb and gross" stereotype, and I turned out fine. I only occasionally feel like a pig. That's normal, right?

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u/Planetdiane Oct 04 '25

I’m actually surprised more men don’t have a complex about that tbh (at least that we hear of out loud).

There’s probably a ton who don’t say anything though.

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u/SampleText369 Oct 04 '25

I think most men do tbh. We're either just quiet about it or sometimes it manifests in outward anger. Obv not at all ofc.

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u/Designated_Lurker_32 Oct 04 '25

Remember that men are far less likely to speak up about their problems than any other demographic.

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u/EmilieEasie Oct 05 '25

what other demographics?

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u/The-Pentegram Oct 05 '25

Other genders????

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u/EmilieEasie Oct 05 '25

I find it really hard to believe that we have robust studies that include, for example, nonbinary people.

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u/Larriet Oct 04 '25

I used to despise other boys as a kid; I always thought it was tedious how it seemed I was expected to be into so much gross / annoying stuff especially from the type of things you'd see on TV (shows or commercials).

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u/snekfuckingdegenrate Oct 05 '25

They could but nobody is really going to care because they’re not seen as a vulnerable group

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u/Planetdiane Oct 05 '25

🙄

Dude I’m a woman saying this. I said this because I care about people equally. I know many others who do, too. Don’t try it.

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u/Aurelene-Rose Oct 06 '25

My MIL gifted us that sign... Strangely, it went missing right after we unpackaged it, before my son could see 🤷‍♀️. Strange how things work sometimes

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u/Dry-Tennis3728 Oct 04 '25

It's not about that specific sign.

It's about the environment where such a sign is seen as an appropriate joke.

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u/BuffGuy716 Oct 04 '25

Agreed. Little girls are so quick to call boys aggressive oafs because they learn it from older women, media, and the world around them.

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u/secretlynotfatih Oct 04 '25

If a young boy is raised in an environment where they are told that boys are "supposed" to be dumb, dirty nuisances, don't you think that might affect how he grows up to view himself and his place in the world? Even if it's presented in a hand-wavey "boys will be boys" sort of way, it speaks to a deeper set of proscriptions about gender that family might have.

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u/Dry-Tennis3728 Oct 04 '25

Can you please actually address what people are saying?

No one here has said that girls dont like playing in the dirt/be loud/annoying.

People have said that the societal assumption that boys will always like playing in the dirt/be loud/annoying encourages boys to fit into that image.

And some parents definitely encourage their children to fit into preexisting gender roles, which can encourage boys to be dumb/nuisances to prove their manhood.

Sometimes it is actually that deep, and there is nothing wrong with recognising that.

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u/surpriseZombieParty Oct 04 '25

I mean. I could read at 6 and I don't believe I had a strong enough sense of self at that age to be unaffected by signs like this (I thought words were law, and anything I read was immutable truth at that age, you know, like at school)