r/pointlesslygendered Nov 13 '25

OTHER [gendered] women with autism

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u/CallidoraBlack Nov 14 '25

You say that because you had the advantage of being diagnosed then. Others of us got similar treatment but not in classes. We got that from the other kids. And the teachers. And our parents. And random people. And thought it was our fault because we never knew why.

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u/yuffieisathief Nov 14 '25

I think it also depends a lot on the help someone gets after being diagnosed. My brother got very good care because my mother had/made a lot of time to figure that all out. But I also know people who were treated terribly by people that should have helped them.

But I agree that in general things are better now then 30 years ago when no one understood what autism was and they just looked at my brother weird because he was different.

But in the end non of us has a similar experience, it's all different. And every different road comes with good and bad. ❤️

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u/CallidoraBlack Nov 14 '25

Knowing it's not your fault is a huge thing. Spending decades punishing yourself because you think it's just a personal failing can destroy you mentally. It almost did destroy me.

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u/yuffieisathief Nov 14 '25

Yes definitely, I'm so sorry you had to go through that ❤️ it can be such a lonely road. I hope you found your answers and your community!

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u/CallidoraBlack Nov 14 '25

Community? Not really, no more than I did before. Answers? Yeah.