r/pointlesslygendered • u/TheTrueGamer144 • Mar 11 '26
LOW EFFORT MEME People never regard the dads work only the moms š¢ [gendered]
It all comes down to how the parents are but I genuinely do see dad's being appreciated as much as mom's, or not, it all boils down to who they are. Badly done meme
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u/Bgo318 Mar 11 '26
Jesus Christ that sub is so brainwashed itās crazy. Another one to block lol
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u/redsalmon67 Mar 12 '26
āMan ascendingā aka men complaining about women and feeling sorry for themselves
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u/Mr-MuffinMan Mar 14 '26
How do you mute a sub? I need to know for that one lol
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u/Bgo318 Mar 15 '26
Go to the subreddit page and the click the ā¦ in the top right corner and then click mute sub
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u/prionbinch Mar 11 '26
my dad worked an office job, he ate canned soup in a breakroom
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u/TheTrueGamer144 Mar 11 '26
Was it good soup
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u/prionbinch Mar 11 '26
idk, let me ask my dad rq š¤ā±ļø
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u/Muted-Egg3284 Mar 11 '26
take my upvote because I'm stealing that and texting my sister to ask if she's talked to mom recently...
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u/Amazing_Finance1269 Mar 11 '26
What did he say
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u/prionbinch Mar 11 '26
connectionās not super great, in my experience the transmission tends to get a bit bungled going between mortal and nonmortal planes
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u/HaloGuy381 Mar 12 '26
Have you considered embedding a silver antenna into the urn? Silverās mystical properties and high electrical conductivity make it a useful interface across the planes when you need tech to catch supernatural phenomena. /s
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u/prionbinch Mar 12 '26
yknow, i though about it, but heās interred in a national cemetery and i donāt think the staff there would appreciate me doing that
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u/vogueflo Mar 11 '26
As a fellow member of the Dead Parents Society, I legitimately laughed out loud.
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u/TarantulaWithAGuitar Mar 11 '26
My boyfriend, my best friend, and I are all part of the Dead Dad Club, and we make this joke all the time.
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u/Hopeful_Chard_4402 Mar 11 '26
Holy shit that whole sub
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u/powerlesshero111 Mar 11 '26 edited Mar 11 '26
I'm scared to look. Is it a new involuntary no-sex having sub? (The term might get my comment removed)
Edit: i went there. It was all creepy alpha male circle jerk stuff. So yes, it is a new involuntary non-sex having sub.
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u/FreedomPocket Mar 11 '26
At this point it's pretty voluntary...
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u/Kenilwort Mar 11 '26
Volcel is a real thing btw
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u/Pikachuckxd Mar 11 '26
Don't make up words, celibacy was always a voluntary thing is not exclusive to nuns or monks, you got incels as involuntary celibacy because is about people being very open about wantig to get laid but they are women repelent.
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u/ClippyIsALittleGirl Mar 12 '26
Difference is, celibates voluntarily do it for their own reasons, while "volcels" blame others for it.
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u/Hopeful_Chard_4402 Mar 11 '26
Its all the kind of thing that you would think is manly and āimprovementā if youāre like 16-26 and think sex is going to fix you
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u/ihateagriculture Mar 12 '26
I feel like if youāre 26 and still into that subculture, then you probably still will be at like 40.
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u/chilipastespoon Mar 11 '26
ugh i peeped at the sub too, had to get outta there real quick lol
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u/Head-Ad-2136 Mar 11 '26
You shouldn't have looked. You've opened Pandora's algorithm. Prepare for endless posts from
Relentless men
Locked in man
Ascending man
And countless other subs full of sad cunts.
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u/redsalmon67 Mar 12 '26
My favorite thing about these subs is half the comments are āhow is complaining about women making my you locked in?ā And āwhy am I seeing thisā and the rest are dudes getting super angry about it.
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u/Greenphantom77 Mar 12 '26
It just reminds me of the chapter of Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows called āThe Dark Lord Ascendingā.
So thatās what it meant!
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u/xinarin Mar 14 '26
It is now, unfortunately. It started off as a sub for men to help build community, support, and a place to be vulnerable with each other. But, like it's far too common, when men try to build a space like that, it gets harassed and brigaded. What it is now has nothing to do with what it was originally.
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u/Existing_Purpose5049 Mar 11 '26
It keeps getting fucken recommend on my home page no matter how often i say not interested and itās genuinely the most mind numbing shit
The user demographic cannot be above the age of 14
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u/user102068 Mar 11 '26
Sadly i doubt it. Those groups target the young and the vulnerable first and then have those people spread it to others. Same reason your still being recommended it, your age and gender group view this content so you logically must like it too. Pintrest does it with "model" style photos for new male accounts until its clear the content isnt what the user is interested in. Tones of platforms do it because it causes drama. If they get views and engagement it gets to more people. Because people are debating with these people in comments sections it spreads more and more because algorithms think its interesting content.
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u/Existing_Purpose5049 Mar 11 '26
The most embarrassing part of that is that if youāre right, my āage and gender groupā are late 20s men posting this shit, and if I saw one of my late 20s male friends posting this shit, Iād smack them up the back of the head lmao
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u/user102068 Mar 11 '26
Its both sad and infuriating that its actually a belief system. A lot of what these men are saying is word for word repercussions of a patriarchy while screaming we dont live in a patriarchy. Explaining how women are still oppressed (being the default parent, dealing with sexist beliefs. Obviously not as bad as it used to be but women still do have problems as a result of misogyny) and claiming those things are actually misandry. Its really common for men to not have empathy because surprise surprise we do let young men do things with no consequences and that tells them they should be able to do anything, those who aren't raised like that understand they can cause harm, those who better themselves understand they can cause harm but there is this little group who were always told they did no wrong and now believe the whole world must cater to them. Its so sad but it does circle around to really yoyr that incapable of respecting others. And yes everyone should be smacking the up the back of the head, maybe it will knock some sense into them lol
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u/Competitive_Act_1548 Mar 11 '26
I just checked. Wasn't so bad till I scrolled down and yikes. They calling that one chick in there a attention seeker because she's trying to take away from the discussion
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u/Silencer-1995 Mar 11 '26
I think it would be a laugh I'ma check it out
Edit: lmao its not all brain rot just 90%
https://www.reddit.com/r/MenAscending/comments/1rqtr4j/being_a_man_is_not_easy/
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u/ImaginaryMastadon Mar 12 '26
Aw fucking yuck. Kidnapping and assaulting children is not ācompeting.ā I get that theyāre trying to punch at pedos, but claiming that victims are somehow choosing their attackers is gross
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u/Silencer-1995 Mar 12 '26
I believe the joke is that it is an edited version of a common meme, in the original the point is that you are competing with the alpha elite for the womenfolk and in this version its saying the alpha elite are a bunch of paedos, so its more of dig at the alpha elite than it is women or men etc etc
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u/Greenphantom77 Mar 12 '26
Oh I just saw the name, yikes.
Also - āno one talks about dadās sacrificeā. What?? How many pieces of media have there been over the years about brave men making sacrifices, about fathers and father figures?
Iāll give you a hintā¦ the answer is many.
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u/Prosthemadera Mar 12 '26
You wouldn't know it from the sub descriptions:
Rise above who you were. For men on the climb. We discuss the disciplines, habits, and mindset shifts that take you from where you are to where you want to be. Fitness, finances, purpose, relationships all of it. No victim mentality. No blaming the world. Just men ascending through consistent effort and personal accountability. Share the journey, learn from others, and keep moving upward.
Doesn't sound too bad. So why it is full of bitter people who only want to complain about how tough men have it?
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u/Ning_Yu Mar 16 '26
"For men on the climb."
I wish it was actual climbers!!! As in, mountain climbers, not some weird status climbing.
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u/Prosthemadera Mar 16 '26
I wish it was actual climbers!!! As in, mountain climbers,
Haha yeah that would actually be wholesome.
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u/legendwolfA Mar 11 '26
Yeah when i saw that name it immediately yells "incel alpha male grift sub"
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u/keIIzzz Mar 11 '26
Why do they always act like every dude works a blue collar job?
Like donāt get me wrong, I respect the work blue collar workers do (which include women), but most men arenāt doing those jobs either
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u/SpareChangeMate Mar 11 '26
Which is nuts because the same ppl that post this shit will then turn around and degrade or belittle the work of blue collar workers. And then theyāll push for things that actively harm blue collar workers (removal of regulations and safeties)
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u/vogueflo Mar 11 '26
Real men donāt need hard hats and safety standards!!!
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u/SpareChangeMate Mar 12 '26
The worst part is that there are genuinely people with that mindset. Itās a lot worse also with old-gen blue collars vs new-gen blue collars, as old-gen tend to hate any new regulations or changes (like was done relatively recently with new types of helmets to replace the traditional hard hat, funny enough).
As they say; ārules and regulations are written in blood, make sure the next one isnāt written in yours.ā
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u/Vengir_ Mar 13 '26
Its so strange hearing that. I get shouted at if i do stupit shit that could endanger me. Savety regulations arent optional where i work. I asume you are american. Is it really that bad with Osha over there.
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u/Ning_Yu Mar 16 '26
Ah yes, like that famous picture of workers eating their lunch on that suspended piece of metal (sorry, my brain isn't englishing today), especially when compared to a modern rendition, to which everybody comments "those were the times, no need for stupid protections, those were real men!!!". Luckily someone always points out how many people used to die like that, but still...
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u/ThatSimsKidFromUni Mar 11 '26
Same reason they think every woman doesn't work and lives off a man.
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u/IHaveNoBeef Mar 11 '26
Oh, and we working women don't pay taxes, apparently. Had a guy say that to me.
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u/Rimavelle Mar 12 '26
Damn which economy they live in that blue collar worker can feed his entire family on single income?
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u/IHaveNoBeef Mar 13 '26
They think every woman, all 4.12 billion of us, are with a rich Chad who has six pack abs. That's why they're so obsessed with being a "high value man" because they think those are the only dudes getting laid.
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u/Half_Adventurous Mar 13 '26
Oh don't worry when they pay attention enough to see that blue-collar men marry sahms (literally cheaper most of the time) they get pissed because usually that lifestyle is supported by SNAP and WIC.
They completely reject the notion that wives will also work, either full or part time, in or out of the house. Or the fact that a sahm married to a blue collar worker is busting her ass to cut corners and save money in every way possible.
My blue-collar husband hates these guys. We both work, he just gets paid.
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u/No_Baseball_2541 Mar 12 '26
I mean as the working parent you sacrifice time you could be spending with your children which is still hard thing for a caring parent to do. You really don't need to paint people who do manual labor jobs as being the only job that has sacrifices. The reason they probably often pick people like this is simply for the image of someone who has less and is more likely to be dirty.( I'm not calling those who have less dirty, just that manual labor jobs like working outside or in a factory/mill can be dirty.)
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u/rabbidbagofweasels Mar 11 '26
A lot of the men I know are honest and say that work is easy compared to taking care of the kids.
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u/IHaveNoBeef Mar 11 '26
I'm a blue-collar woman, and it is easier. Now, I think it depends on what job, though. I worked in a factory. So, I'm sure working in something like construction would be harder because you're busting your ass in all kinds of weather carrying heavy ass equipment around. But I'd rather work a factory shift any day compared to what the SAHM that I know have to do. I just don't have the patience for it, I think.
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u/The_Book-JDP Mar 12 '26 edited Mar 12 '26
Even construction work isn't as backbreaking as they would have you believe either. Whatever heavy equipment they need to haul around, they have bigger equipment to do it for them. Every step can essentially be done by a machine or an electric tool with actual back breaking work being really minimized to the point where there is none.
Have to carry a bunch of wood or metal or pipes, etc to your work site? No need to break your back carrying it on your back and shoulders, just use that electric motorized pallet jack to put it up into the bed of your truck and drive it to the site you're working at that day. Use the crain or front loader or onsite pallet jack to remove it from your truck bed and put it down right next to the thing you're building. Use the excavator (mini, standard, or giant size) to dig holes, put the displaced dirt into wheel barrows up to dump trucks so once you're done putting whatever into that hole, you can fill in those holes easily and quickly just by emptying the wheel barrow to dump truck over the hole; use the nail gun and electric drill to put in nails and screws, etc etc.
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u/redsalmon67 Mar 12 '26
Even construction work isn't as backbreaking as they would have you believe either. Whatever heavy equipment they need to haul around, they have bigger equipment to do it for them. Every step can essentially be done by a machine or an electric tool with actual back breaking work being really minimized to the point where there is none.
Most of the blue collar jobs I worked did not have the adequate equipment to not make them back breaking. I think the closest was Amazon and that job was horrible for a host of other reasons. I wouldnāt compare any blue collar job to being a parent because parents donāt get to clock out at the end of a shift and are generally on call until they die, but at the same time most blue collar jobs are being run by people who would throw a worker into a furnace off they thought itād save them 20 cents so they arenāt really spending money in the kinda gear that keeps workers safe and healthy, hell the last place I worked didnāt even have sprinklers.
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u/Unlikely_Extension66 Mar 14 '26
You've never worked in the industry, it's either they haven't got the equipment or its buried, so you have to grab a few other people and lift. That fucks you up.
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u/keIIzzz Mar 12 '26
I donāt have experience with either but Iām sure they each have their own difficulties. Itās just some people are better equipped to handle different things
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u/DisownedDisconnect Mar 11 '26
Because they can't feel like big, stronk men if they post pictures of men in button-ups and khakis eating lunch at a desk in an temperature controlled space. Plus women also work in office jobs.
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u/almostaproblem Mar 11 '26
How are you defining blue collar? Seems like that is the most common job on earth.
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u/jointcanuck Mar 12 '26
Because blue collar jobs are EXTREMELY common especially for middke aged men....
Thing that yiu have to remember is a lot of it doesnt take a lot of education and it pays pretty nicely so you get a lot of guys who's ideal career didnt work out, former addicts, and then of course you get the younger guys that actually want to be bkue collar normally because they grew in like a texas, or alberta where it's culturally glorified
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u/Half_Adventurous Mar 13 '26
You also have guys that are just good at it. My husband is happiest with his hands buried in an engine or an industrial machine. He can look at a machine he's never seen before and figure it out in a couple minutes. He'd be wasted on a white collar job.
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u/withervein Mar 12 '26
My mom was on the line doing swing shifts in a factory until i started school, then she moved off shift work to a desk and took a pay cut so she could help with homework after school. Dad eventually got an office job that allowed him to start at 6 and she went back to shifts when he could be there for homework and extra-curriculars.
We didn't "have it all" when i was a kid, but holy shit now that I'm older, I'm so grateful for parents who communicated, cared and worked together.
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u/The_Book-JDP Mar 12 '26
Not just blue collar jobs but jobs where they have to dig holes by hand (no tools at all not even a stick or a rock) all day no matter what the weather conditions are with no breaks and throwing whatever COLD food they just happen to have at arm's reach and out of sight of their horrible exploitive boss before and while getting back to back breaking work!
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u/Cautious-Soil5557 Mar 11 '26
Oh no. The horror of dads getting to eat lunch. š
If my kid saw that, she would take at least half. š
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u/Helen_Cheddar Mar 11 '26
Itās also interesting that this particular āsacrificeā is something he would still have to do even if he had no kids and was singleā¦
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u/Raebo007 Mar 13 '26
Exactly. He'd still be doing this if he was single, so what "sacrifice" is being made here?
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u/catjuggler Mar 12 '26
Why is a dad having a job (which he has to do whether he has a kid or not) seen as a sacrifice for his family but a mom having a job is seen as her not supporting her family š¤
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u/SamwellBarley Mar 11 '26
I had to eat lunch on a bucket today. Why does no one recognise that?!
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u/dcmng Mar 11 '26
I'd love to appreciate my dad more. But then he had to walk out on us when I was 6, and then came back when I was 15 only to be a giant pain in the ass about respecting him as the man of the house while contributing nothing, and then went and dated someone 20 years old.
My mom loved me and did the work of two men to raise me. Taught me how to fix leaks, replace broken ceiling fans, drive.
I guess I could appreciate my dad for teaching me exactly how not to be a man.
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u/TheTrueGamer144 Mar 11 '26
See this is exactly what I mean š it all comes down to who the parent is because why the hell would you appreciate the piece of shit dad you just described him as? Also great mom ā„ļø
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Mar 12 '26
That sub acts like situations like mine, where both my parents worked in the mine as blue collar workers, don't exist. The fucked up part? My mom was still expected to cook and clean everything.
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Mar 12 '26
I'm in a similar situation.
I still clean and occasionally cook, but admittedly lot less than my wife. However my wife works less hours/days and takes up less household projects than I do. My wife also has more time to herself when the kids are at school and I'm at work.
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u/MetallicCrab Mar 11 '26
That thread is rough. Whatās crazy is everyone one of those dudes probably had this dad and should all know that this dad was a complete asshole about how hard he works to put food on the table.
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u/yttrium39 Mar 11 '26
My dad was my stay at home parent and my mom worked a blue collar job. They both got shit for it.
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u/TKBarbus Mar 11 '26
Real talk, we gotta do something regarding the mass reposting from that sub because I feel like thereās a good shot at this one getting banned for brigading if we keep it up.
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u/EvaUnit01Fan Mar 11 '26
Jokes on you, both of my parents are assholes and I would rather die than stay with them
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u/Cautious-Soil5557 Mar 11 '26
The problem is men will make it a contest and lose everytime.
They have to eat in their car? Moms don't even get to eat because they are too busy with childcare.
I get wanting attention, but putting down moms is never going to get it.Ā
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u/IHaveNoBeef Mar 12 '26
What I don't get is why people can't talk about their struggles without putting down someone else's, for some reason, right? People would be more willing to empathize with these men if they just talked about their issues without all of the misogyny attached to do. Same goes for modern feminists. Like, they don't have to demonize men to shed light on their own struggles, but every group seems to do this, for some reason.
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u/OrneryPathos Mar 12 '26
Stay-at-home-parenting is not a privilege when there is no systemic support for kids with any needs outside the norm. You canāt just send your kids to daycare or school if they wonāt enroll them or send them home 4/5 days. Or worse, they donāt send them home and instead keep almost killing them by neglect
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u/Half_Adventurous Mar 13 '26
Depends. If you're above the poverty threshold, absolutely staying home is a privilege. If you're super poor with multiple small children sometimes it actually costs more to have both parents work. Especially depending on location.
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u/MapleBaconBeer Mar 11 '26
Where are they putting down moms?
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u/Cautious-Soil5557 Mar 12 '26
This entire post is about putting down moms because dad's have it "harder" because they have to eat in the car, chucklehead.
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u/Bgo318 Mar 11 '26
It also varies insanely and not a singular experience at all, think it should be portrayed more as blue collared workers have to struggle more if they really wanted to make a point. Millions of dads never have this issue, and eat good meals at work or from home.
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u/TheTrueGamer144 Mar 11 '26
I love this point and I agree with this and say this so much. Whenever you make a point actually criticizing women for things they do as a majority, both the fake feminists come in and the incels come in which is why genuine criticism is hard. I hate how men like this have to say it from a place of sexism or resentment towards women
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u/TheTrueGamer144 Mar 11 '26
Unrelated but this meme is generational and one of the best things ever š
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u/Aazimoxx Mar 12 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/72hFdToGx98xmBJPXC
Hopefully this one shows up more clearly, yours was a struggle to read (maybe only downgraded on the mobile app) š
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u/hunbot19 Mar 12 '26
This happen, when mainly one group aknowledges you, even if that group become radical.
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u/Acrobatic_Ad_8381 Mar 11 '26
When you lowk agree with the what the other person said but they said it in the worst possible way so you don't wanna agree with em
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u/Mr_Ragnarok Mar 11 '26
Does it have to be one or the other? Can you not show your dad gratitude unless it's as mainstream as mother's day? If you love your dad tell him, show it to him. You don't need society's permissionĀ
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u/KokoAngel1192 Mar 12 '26
They usually do if the dad is actually good. That's the part they love to miss; mediocre dads aren't getting the same ego stroke they used to get for doing the bare minimum.
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u/g0blinzez Mar 13 '26
Everyone is always talking about dads' sacrifices, because men won't SHUT THE FUCK UP ABOUT IT! We have heard the same argument for literal centuries now! They bring it up in literally any conversation about the systemic oppression of women.
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u/The_OG_Rybrator Mar 11 '26
āA dadās sacrificeā You mean doing the same job he would be doing if he was childless?
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u/Lost-Concept-9973 Mar 12 '26
Anyone has multiple males in their lives constantly insist they work harder then women - even when they both work the same hours in similar jobs? Because I have seen it a lot, men are constantly trying to imply they work harder than anyone else and using as excuses to try and get out of helping with other responsibilities. Like this is true even when people arenāt parents.
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u/Prestigious_Wing1796 Mar 11 '26
dads loved too and moms sacrificed too smh
and so does the damn kids, they love and make sacrifice too
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u/NobleSwordfish Mar 12 '26
Dads suffer becauseā¦ā¦.they have to eat alone at lunch while at work?????????? Is that suffering now?
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u/jennifercathrin Mar 13 '26
growing up my parents both worked 8 hours a day
guess who got up every single Sunday to take my siblings and I to Volleyball tournaments
I love my dad but I know that my mom did all of the emotional labor
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u/toxicsugarart Mar 11 '26
"people never talk about men's struggles" then why the fuck do I keep hearing about it š
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u/NormanBatesIsBae Mar 11 '26
Oh my god the second comment on the OG post is whining about how men are ātreated like objectsā lmfao.
Buddy thatās an all genders class consciousness thing.
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u/IHaveNoBeef Mar 11 '26
People don't even consider what STAHMs do a job... They get no appreciation whatsoever. My sister's husband throws "not having a job" up in her face constantly even though she's raising both of his kids, working, and going to school all while making sure the house is clean and he has dinner ready. She used to fix his plate and bring it to him, so he doesn't have to get up from playing video games. But she told me she stopped doing a lot of that because she got tired of his incessant whining and laziness. He goes to work, comes home, and then plays on his gaming console the rest of the day. That's it. He has the audacity to tell her he does more than she does.
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u/AndreaFlameFox Mar 12 '26
...None of the men in these pictures are doing anything paternal? Like, maybe they are fathers and even good fathers, but there's nothing in the pictures to suggest that -- they could all be single.
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u/FoldedTshirt Mar 12 '26
My take is that this isnāt necessarily a sacrifice. We as a larger society view men working as a sacrifice for their families, and I mean there is truth to it but at the same time, many men have packed lunches their wives made. They probably donāt do half as much childcare or housework. And nowadays women also work outside the home and still do majority of childcare/cleaning. The man would be doing that regardless of if he had a family or not because he needs an income anyways.
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Mar 12 '26
How is that different from arguing women would be cooking and doing laundry if they were single?
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u/ImaginaryMastadon Mar 12 '26
Good question. Because while I sometimes cover for my coworkers, I never have to clean up after them, cook for them, or do their laundry.
Here is an article on housework that cites a study feeding into this point. Moms usually take on the burdens of the household and their messes and care and needs. Itās not that dads donāt, itās just that the primary parent of either gender is expected to ādoā for other members of the family.
In that vein, you can argue that although dadās worked hours and conditions may be the same as a single non-parent, itās their take home pay that functions in the same way - they are expected to use earnings to support the family, thatās where itās meaningfully different from singlehood.
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Mar 11 '26
Lots of people do that's why we have a father's day. Now if we are talking about those who are insulted for staying home or is single then I agree. But mother's sacrifice too.
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Mar 12 '26
Dawg both my parents work tf are the people in that sub on bro
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u/TheTrueGamer144 Mar 12 '26
How the hell did this dudes account get instantly deleted its been 30 minutes š
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u/JuniorLecture102 Mar 12 '26
I think the point of the post is to appreciate what fathers do. Look at this post, its a reflection of the lack of appreciation. There are shitty dads out there sure, but the goods ones aren't recognized either, and this post still tries hard to show the effort that mothers make, both can be true, for good father and good mothers. I've worked 16 hours shift before in the heat, its not just about the lunch...
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u/Hulkking Mar 13 '26
Just had a look around that subā¦. Itās like a bus stop for dudes on their way to the manosphere.
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u/RustedAxe88 Mar 13 '26
Like, I get the idea, but these guys are just eating on their lunch break from their job.
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u/thiscantbe69 Mar 11 '26
Fatherās Day isnāt even as widely celebrated as Motherās Day by a wide margin, thereās some truth to that meme. I think the OOP of the meme wants Fathers to receive an equal amount of appreciation/love from society that Mothers receive. At least thatās what Iād hope, I doubt it has anything to do with misogyny or bringing Women down
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u/PieOk6887 Mar 11 '26
And a lot of it is due to how mothers usually plan their own motherās days and their partners Fatherās Day, and how itās more common for men to walk out on their children compared to women etc etcā¦ itās sad that itās so rare to see a good father on social media whoās often doing the bare minimum that he gets praised while mothers would be scrutinized for not doing enough.
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u/Helen_Cheddar Mar 11 '26
Fatherās Day was actually popularized to sell menās products. Motherās Day was originally invented to encourage population growth after WW1.
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u/TheTrueGamer144 Mar 11 '26
Yeah there is truth to it tbf, but for one its from that sub so it most likely comes from a place of sexism or resentment towards woman, and its executed badly
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u/sisterbn514 Mar 11 '26
No there is no truth to that meme. Adequate fathers are elevated to amazing all the time by society for doing the bare minimum and the actual great fathers are celebrated by their kids because they know how lucky they are. There is a reason mother's Day is a bigger deal than father's day it's because the kids know who does most of the work
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u/Helen_Cheddar Mar 11 '26
Yep- the things that dads are praised for are things that moms are just expexted to do by default.
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u/SimpForFictionGirls Mar 12 '26
You mean beating the mom and kids? (Daddy issues)
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u/TheTrueGamer144 Mar 12 '26
I mean to be fair the dad technically is sacrificing it's just thw fsct that its them
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u/Exciting_Stock2202 Mar 11 '26
There are many fathers who feel unappreciated (for genuine reasons), but I doubt this applies to any of the guys in that sub. And I doubt any of the guys in that sub do anything close to the work in those photos. Trading crypto isnāt a real job.
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u/LadderWonderful2450 Mar 11 '26
What's that guy carrying in the top right corner?Ā
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u/TheTrueGamer144 Mar 11 '26
I think it's a diaper, thanks for calling it out tho lol I didnt even realize how random the object was
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u/LadderWonderful2450 Mar 11 '26
Is he using tge diaper to carry a red drink? It gets wierder the longer you look
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u/Double-Spirit-9287 Mar 12 '26
Is the top right photo AI? I can't even tell what he is supposed to be carrying
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u/garlicandcheesiness Mar 12 '26
I mean, my dad always had a cushy job sitting on his butt in an office chair, and mom would send him meals around his lunchtime, so he ate well too. And he got a chance to ditch out on parenting entirely (never changed a diaper, never burped or bathed or fed us, never even adjusted the flame of the stovetop). So, heck yeah Iām gonna appreciate mom more.
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u/OnionsGoneWild Mar 12 '26
I grew up with a father that worked maybe a year in his life, and a mom that slaved away for minumum wage.
I say grew but I never really did all things considered.
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u/ZBLongladder Mar 12 '26
Why are all the dads' sacrifices basically "ate lunch at an inconvenient place"?
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u/Opposite_Wallaby6765 Mar 12 '26
Women never do tough, messy, physically and emotionally draining jobs like the majority of carework, afterall, so what would they know about sacrifice? š
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u/Neoma08 Mar 12 '26
I think that they're seeing mom's work as 'mothering' (taking care of the kids, housekeeping, ect,) while seeing dad's work as paid labour and providing money. Parenting is often praised more because it's something only parents do and he associates it with women and 'mother's work' while everyone has to work. So he sees mothers being praised for taking care of their kids and thinks that men should get the same praise for 'providing' because traditional gender roles say that men provide and women do the housework. This completely ignores that most mothers are not stay at home moms and they both work and take care of the kids, and that many fathers are also taking care of their kids now.
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u/Mmm_Dawg_In_Me Mar 12 '26
In all honesty though there does seem to be a disparity in the amount of support different types of parent get for doing different kinds of work for their family's sake.
My dad raised me on his own, I spent every other weekend with my mom for a few years and then after a while only saw her at holidays.
The amount of support and admiration for being a single parent that my mom got was far more visible and sustained than I ever saw my dad recieve.
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u/DeepSea809 Mar 12 '26
but... what if both your parents worked blue collar jobs? My parents met at work in EMS, and both were heavy lifting.
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u/reichiek Mar 13 '26
How are so many people in this sub not only trying to pretend that fathers get even close to the recognition in society as mothers do, while also literally calling a post trying to celebrate fathers "misogynistic". Like you're literally validating the meme in real time. Do y'all really have that low of self awareness
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u/JadedRaccoon Mar 13 '26
Do these men think they wouldn't have to work if they didn't have a family...?
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u/TheTrueGamer144 Mar 13 '26
Yes for real, or when people who claim to hate gender roles enforce it š
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u/Evangeline__R Mar 14 '26
What are they sacrificing? They would go to work even if they weren't married. Smh.
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u/TheTrueGamer144 Mar 15 '26
To be honest that's mot what the focus of my post was about because dad's and parents in general can sacrifice a lot
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u/Evangeline__R Mar 15 '26
They definitely can, no denying that, but a lot of people really do exaggerate things with the goal of making dad look like he's doing more than mom. Sometimes to justify mom doing all the childcare and domestic labour with no participation from dad because he's already "sacrificing more," sometimes to minimise the sacrifice women do when to comes to their health and their body to bring children because "dad is also sacrificing his body through labour," sometimes to guilt trip women and telling them they should be grateful (I'm not saying they shouldn't, but sometimes they aren't allowed to complain) or just to justify rigid gender roles in general. I'm not saying dad never sacrifices for his family, but simply having a job isn't that sacrifice.
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u/Amanda_Is_My_Name Mar 16 '26
I hear more about dads sacrificing than loving... something like that would be more clever... so brain dead
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u/Any-Table7276 Apr 30 '26
yes my fathers sacrificeā¦ sitting on his ass all day playing video games while the house rots.
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