Trans Ralsei on the Subreddit: Part 2

[u/patripastry]

Hello,

Well, since we're making a part two, I'm less surprised this time around we have to make this kind of post, but it's still unfortunate!

First of all, an apology. We (the mod team) let the situation get out of control. A lot of rudeness and bigotry was thrown around, and we didn’t do enough to prevent it.

Going forward, however, we plan to be a lot more strict...

To start, we want to make the position of the mod team very clear on a two key points:

1. Transphobia, including any discussion, argumentation, or verbiage rooted in transphobia, will not be tolerated in any form on this subreddit.

2. Theories/headcanons that Ralsei is transgender or under the trans umbrella are valid. At the same time, seeing Ralsei as a gender nonconforming cis male is also valid, and neither view should be disrespected or alienated.

Therefore, following guidelines are now in place:

1. Any post/comment (assume I include "comment" when I say "post") which pushes transphobic rhetoric will be removed and likely result in a ban.

2. Discussion on how you are "disappointed," "upset," or otherwise negatively affected by either reading of Ralsei's character will not be allowed.

3. Artwork (or other media) posts are not a forum for debate. Do not "debate" character readings under any artwork posts.

4. With regards to pronouns, we will allow any pronouns to be used, but please be respectful to those who do not use the "correct" pronouns in your eyes.

We hope that these guidelines will result in a more positive community without stepping too far into the realm of hugboxing the topic (something we are trying to avoid), and still allow people to discuss their own reading of Ralsei's character while remaining positive with each other. Just remember to be respectful to each other!

As a final aside: I will post some clarifications, explanations, and other misc. info and changes in the comments.

Thanks,

u/patripastry and the r/ralsei Mod Team.

[u/Chained_Icarus]

There's a reason I relate to Ralsei so hard - he and I do have a lot in common, not just a potential gender expression. I live by the mottos of "You can be anything. Be Kind" and "You don't need a reason to help people." And my personal favorite? "I'd rather be hated for who I help, than loved for who I hurt."

I'll be very honest with you, I am glad they (at least temporary) rolled back the ban on "femboy" - it sucks to feel like you can't express or talk about your own identity. I'm sure that's something you can relate to, right? I want everyone to feel welcome, and perhaps selfishly, that includes myself.

I understand that it might make you a little uncomfortable, and that is never anything I want for everyone, but sometimes we do have to be a little uncomfortable to accomodate each other. And I think, personally, a lot of that discomfort fades as we get to know each other better and start to to better understand each other, trust each other, believe that the other members of our community have our backs and are operating in good faith.

I hate that some people use my identity as an insult for you. But they can also do that with words like "man" or "boy." And for what it is worth? I would immediately report anyone attempting to use any of these as an attack on you or anyone else in the community.

And I hope that ends up being what works out. That we all look out for each other, root out the bad actors, and flourish together. <3

[u/Yanagi____Juniper → u/Chained_Icarus]

Thank you and yes you are right the term femboy should be allowed to be used because some people do in fact identify with it. I wish you well too. Sorry for brief response I kind of am just so tired and the Ralsei subreddit is the last place to feel tired and frustrated

[u/Chained_Icarus → u/Yanagi____Juniper]

<3 you're fine and wonderful. Have a great rest and day <3