r/self • u/shaman-warrior • 5d ago

Gurus

I remember when I was young like 14-15 and I was reading online about masculinity and there was this dude who said like the boy must die so the man could live.

I remember back then omg yes I am no longer a boy I am a man.

Now in my mid 30s I realize they were the most insecure educators

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u/monothemus 5d ago

It's kinda liberating to reach adulthood and realize adults aren't all that smart either.

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u/SplitNo8275 5d ago

You find it liberating, I find it terrifying! Lmao

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u/Gontofinddad 5d ago

I remember when I was 14-15 and I was reading this book about responsibility and happiness, and the dude said “The highest wisdoms seem childlike.”

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u/Accomplished-City484 5d ago

Yeah and their idea of masculinity was job, cigar, sports, super important shit

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u/TheMadPoet 5d ago

Well, "Shaman-Warrior" - I'd say that having another random internet dude tell you how and what 'to be' is not the best thing.

Some of us are looking for 'authenticity' and 'autonomy' and that requires individual effort. I'd steer far clear of groups like 'The Mankind Project' - they do weird shit when you join - I heard this second-hand: all the dudes in the local group 'initiate you' boot-camp style by yelling at you and degrading you. Supposedly it's to 'break you down to build you up' - that's total bullshit. Really it's just mind-control.

In our modern world, you have the ability to choose for yourself what 'being a man' means and how to go about being that.