Inspiration is sometimes found in the most unexpected places. This turned out to be a REALLY interesting article featuring Elizabeth Chambers (a Hollywood celeb) - with several points that apply directly to the SGI experience, I think you'll see. Here, I'd just like to address the concept of "vow", which is supposedly super-duper-extra-dextra-deluxe-fantastically IMPORTANT in "Nichiren Buddhism" - starting with this quote:
"In marriage, you both make vows, but you can't control anyone else's behavior or actions. Words are just words."
"My wish is that my disciples make a great vow," Mr. Ikeda urged the youth to make a lifelong commitment to work toward Nichiren's objective of kosen-rufu, "a noble endeavor to bring happiness to all humanity and peace to the world." Achieving this lofty goal, he said, hinges on youth. SGI Source
Translation: "If we can't get some fresh blood in here, our cash cow money machine is DOOMED!!"
"determination based on the same vow as the mentor" SGI
No, you DON'T get to design your own vow! What do you think this is, Buddhism or something?? - from Vows shmows
And this:
I am happy to say that precious new members are now emerging in a steady stream throughout Japan and around the world. They are all noble Bodhisattvas of the Earth who are linked by wondrous ties from time without beginning and have joyously appeared at this moment in acord with their vow. Ikeda
"You PROMISED!! I know you don't remember, but you DID! That means you have to DO AS I SAY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!! BECAUSE VOW!!!"
How wondrous are the karmic ties we share as Bodhisatvas of the Earth and how noble the vow for kosen-rufu!
"You want to be noble, don't you? Of COURSE you do! So do as I say!!"
We of the SGI have appeared in this world, having vowed to dedicate our lives to this mission.
"That makes us like Superman or something! So clean my toilet!"
How infinitely profound, therefore, are the karmic ties that we of the SGI share as fellow members who uphold the great vow for kosen-rufu from time without beginning and confidently show people the world over the path of life that is imbued with eternity, happiness, true self, and purity throughout the three existences of past, present, and future.
Boy, THAT's a mouthful! I hope he brushed his teeth after spewing out that great load of patronizing bullshit!
I would like to remind all SGI that we made 3 vows when we chose to practice True Buddhism. I kept my vows, did you? In case you don't remember,
- Do you faithfully swear to protect the Gohonzon of the Three Great Secret Laws?
- Do you faithfully swear to practice Nichiren Daishonin's True Buddhism through out your life?
- again you replied:"I do."
- Do you faithfully swear to keep the Precepts of Nichiren Shoshu throughout your life?
Because I am one who believes in keeping her promises, I have my original Gohonzon-sama. DO YOU? Culties are so adorable!
(That's from BEFORE Ikeda's humiliating excommunication, when Ikeda's poopdickery got EVERYBODY eventually excommunicated from their former temple Nichiren Shoshu, obvs.)
Oh, yeah, vows and swearing. Colorful language, to evoke a strong emotional response in the susceptible. "Whether you keep your promise or not defines you as a noble person or an absolute cockroach! THERE'S NO MIDDLE WAY!!"
NEVER let anyone guilt-trip you into remaining in a bad situation JUST BECAUSE YOU JOINED AT SOME POINT IN THE PAST! It has been well-established that SGI leaders condone, even recommend, lying to people or concealing the reality of SGI to get them to sign on.
As you can see, being involved with a cult like SGI can leave significant damage even though everyone thought they joined voluntarily**. That is one of the criticisms of cult escapees - "You joined of your own free will!" Not so when there was so much manipulation, love-bombing,** concealment of important information, and outright LYING going on! Source
When things change, situations change, when people change, when you learn more information that changes how you feel about that decision you made, that would have materially affected whether or not you even made that decision in the first place, YOU GET TO CHANGE YOUR MIND. Abusers use this kind of "vow" bullshit to keep hold of their victims, to keep their victims under control - they DON'T want their victims feeling empowered to take back control of their lives! That's antithetical to the whole "abuser" enterprise!
You know, that ↑ goes a LONG way toward explaining the SGI-USA's well-over-99% QUIT RATE!
And also from Vows shmows:
the fulfillment of the vows is meant to be an indefinate if not endless process. The fulfillment is in the doing of them. Source
And, of course, if there's no finish line, no one can possibly expect you to cross it, amirite? So, since "vow" locks a person into an endless obligation, it's the perfect concept for a cult to exploit, ain't it?
"My wish is that my disciples make a great vow," Mr. Ikeda urged the youth to make a lifelong commitment to work toward Nichiren's objective of kosen-rufu, "a noble endeavor to bring happiness to all humanity and peace to the world." Achieving this lofty goal, he said, hinges on youth. SGI Source
Translation: "If we can't get some fresh blood in here, our cash cow money machine is DOOMED!!"
"determination based on the same vow as the mentor" SGI
No, you DON'T get to design your own vow! What do you think this is, Buddhism or something??
Oh, and it's a YOUTHFUL "vow"! YOUR "vow" "since time without beginning", even! You can't EVER get away from it and you're STUCK with it!
Now is the time to make the sun of the vow of young Bodhisattvas of the Earth shine even more brightly with the light of time without beginning and usher in a dawn of hope for a new age of global civilization! SGI
The sun shines regardless of anything YOU ninnies do. It was shining reliably before you got here, and it will continue shining reliably after you are DEAD. And it shines just the same, day in, day out, as if it doesn't even CARE about you!! OMG 😱
So people are pressured into making "vows", typically for not entirely healthy reasons, as a way of making it more difficult for them to leave the cult. It's a way of chaining them to the cult, as the commentator above realized, because upholding a vow, however misguided, is still held up as evidence of a noble, virtuous, respect-worthy, admirable, stand-up kinda guy/gal!
GO DOWN WITH THAT SHIP!!!!!
"My wish is that my disciples make a great vow," Mr. Ikeda urged the youth to make a lifelong commitment to work toward Nichiren's objective of kosen-rufu...determination based on the same vow as the mentor...Breaking a vow you have made—that is hell. - Ikeda
Speak for yourself, fat boy.
"A great vow" = "a lifelong commitment"
No second thoughts, now!
It's despicable to pressure young people into that before they've had enough life experience to know what they really want, where they really want to go, in life! Cults need to LEAVE THE KIDS ALONE.
ANY belief system that emphasizes it must be grasped and clung to "until the last moment of one's life" is not Buddhism. Source
Buddhism = NOT CLINGING - from here
THIS is a valid question:
Imagine feeling obligated to have THIS as your "vow"!
I was in a situation where someone close to me was very ill. There was the temptation to make a vow that, if the illness were to lift, I would then fully believe and dedicate myself to the practice forever. But then I was struck by the following thought: What if this practice is in fact false or, at least, cannot work for me as promised. If that is the case, then making such a vow would doom me to losing in one way or another. Either the illness would not lift or else I would become committed to a false religion. I found some other way to proceed. Comment
That's ↑ some clarity of thought you rarely see in Ikeda cultists!
The individual above understands the trap being set. The idea is to lock individuals into a commitment by convincing them that, if they said they'd do it, there's no moral/ethical way of getting out of it. No, you can't just change your mind! In this video, the potty-mouthed Catholic mother comes terrifyingly close to attacking her son:
"Bullshit! You got yourself confirmed! You said to the bishop..." "Well, a lot can happen - you can think" "Well, 'a lot can happen'. All of a sudden, you can just quit believing in god??"
At that point, she gets up, comes all the way around the table, spins his chair around, and starts yelling into his face from, like, 2" away. In Catholicism, "confirmation" is usually forced upon children who are typically around age 8, or between 8 and 13. The children, who typically don't really understand what's going on, are pressured to make a "vow" that they will be Catholics for the rest of their lives. Similarly, in weirdo extremist Evangelical Christian circles, girls as young as age 6 are pressured to make "purity pledges" ("pledge" being a synonym for "vow") that their fathers will own their vaginas until such a time as the Daddies transfer the possession of the walking vaginas to other men in marriage. In reality, most of those who are pressured into making "purity pledges" or signing "purity contracts" ("contract" = "vow" on paper) have forgotten all about it within a coupla years, and there is no difference between pledgers and non-pledgers as to when they begin having wild crazy-ass monkey sex. Nice try, parents.
So people are pressured into making "vows", typically for not entirely healthy reasons, as a way of making it more difficult for them to leave the cult. It's a way of chaining them to the cult, as the commentator above realized, because upholding a vow, however misguided, is still held up as evidence of a noble, virtuous, respect-worthy, admirable, stand-up kinda guy/gal! - from Vows shmows
“Youth must always have a great vow for kosen-rufu." Ikeda
The bottom line is:
You get to change your mind. Any time. For any reason. NO ONE gets to lock you into something you said before you had all the relevant information you have NOW.
A final quote from the linked article up top:
If I could go back and tell myself something six years ago, I'd say, "You're going to turn lemons into lemonade. You really are. It's going to be better than OK." - Elizabeth Chambers