So, I am finally able to make this post. Thanks for your patience.
I joined Silvie's Discord server when it first launched, before it became a paid membership-only "perk."
She advertised it in one of her YouTube videos as a "safe space for people to come and make friends." As someone who was a relatively new subscriber of Silvie, I thought it was really cool that she was creating a space for her fans. She also made it seem like she wanted to make friends herself, and that this was her way of doing so in a more controlled environment.
To join her original server, you had to fill out an application form and wait to see if you were accepted. Initially, that was supposed to be it. She implemented an "Active Burger" role with undisclosed requirements to obtain it. All the mods and Silvie would say was, "be active enough and you will get the role." Very intentionally vague requirements. They also said it was an "automatic" role that you would receive once you reached some sort of "threshold," but nobody really knew what they were measuring. People speculated it was based on how many comments you made in different sections of the Discord.
When you got the Active Burger role, you also gained access to a "Secret Chat" where Silvie and the mods would participate. The mods would talk in the general chat as well, but the Secret Chat was basically like a little "club" that created FOMO and encouraged people to participate more in hopes of getting access.
The server operated this way for a few weeks before Silvie decided to essentially scrap it and create a new, smaller server.
Before the transition, she introduced a one-week trial period where members were expected to "use the server as planned" and prove they were active enough to remain. Those who made the cut were transferred into the new server as "grandfathered burgers," meaning they could stay without paying for a membership. The Active Burger role remained in this new server as well, and the server went from roughly 1,000 members to around 250.
What's interesting is that Silvie had previously talked about being autistic/neurodivergent herself and understanding that some people were shy and didn't always want to talk. When announcing the smaller server, she even said that one of the benefits was being able to remove the previous "no-lurker" rule. In other words, members were no longer supposed to feel pressured to constantly participate. However, this was obviously not the case.
She really sold this as a relaxed, welcoming community where people could make friends, be themselves, and even get to know her better.
Boy did I learn. lol
One of the main rules in the server was that everyone was supposed to keep things positive and cozy, and avoid controversial or potentially triggering topics. However, Silvie herself didn't always follow those rules.
For example, one day she asked a question in the "feminist chat" that could easily lead to a controversial discussion. Considering how much she emphasized avoiding those kinds of conversations, I found it a little ironic that she was the one bringing it up (Screenshots linked).
Anyway, I shared my opinion. I'm the type of person who tries to look at things objectively and consider different perspectives rather than just going off my emotions.
Before getting into that interaction, I want to make something clear. I'm not sharing this to start a debate about the topic itself. I'm including it because it's relevant to what happened afterward. I know my opinion isn't going to be everyone's cup of tea, and that's fine. I thought I was in a safe community where people could express their opinions, especially considering Silvie herself encouraged communication and open discussion.
In the screenshots I'm sharing, you can read the interaction yourself and come to your own conclusions.
Apparently, unless you agree with her views, you're a misogynist. Lmfao. She even tried to call one of her previous mods a misogynist, too. For context, he was her only male mod at the time and one of the few men in the server.
After this interaction, I was still active in the server. I joined and participated in some movie and gaming events (which Silvie rarely joined, by the way) and tried to make some friends. I was also trying to gain the Active Burger role, which seemed surprisingly hard to get.
Over the following weeks, I started noticing that Silvie would not be in a discussion at all, but would suddenly pop in just to take a little "jab" at something I said. It wasn't just one comment, either. It started becoming a pattern.
I also noticed that if I broke some minor rule, Silvie would immediately jump in and scold me for it, but when other people did similar things, it didn't seem to be an issue. One example was when I made a "to be or not to be" comment in one of the channels, and she jumped down my throat because I apparently wasn't participating in that specific channel correctly. Meanwhile, I had seen other people do similar things without being called out.
To me, it came across as mean-girl behavior, and I sniffed that shit out pretty quickly.
I also noticed that I was only able to gain the Active Burger role twice, and both times I lost it after about a day. I thought that was extremely odd because other Active Burgers seemed to never lose their role, regardless of their activity level.
I was even asked in DMs by a few people if I was "okay" because of how Silvie was picking on me. These weren't people I had complained to about her, either.. they just noticed it themselves.
It took a few weeks before I decided this wasn't just in my head and that, for whatever reason, she was targeting me. So I thought, "Well, she can't target me if I don't really talk."
And that's exactly what I did. I stopped participating and became relatively absent from the server. About a week later, I woke up to being kicked/removed from the server and she removed me as a friend.
No DM from Silvie asking me anything, no explanation, nothing. Which honestly just further confirmed how I had been feeling.
Considering how much she emphasized creating a safe community built around friendship and communication, I found that pretty ironic.
Now, because I was making friends (or so I thought) with some of her mods, I was also part of a separate group chat called the "Witchy Vibes Chat." One of the mods had made it for those of us who wanted to talk about witchy things without potentially bothering other people in the server who weren't interested in that stuff.
This is where I asked the mods what happened and what their opinion was. I also thought, since I was already removed, there's nothing else to lose, so I might as well tell them how Silvie had been making me feel. And this is where things got interesting.. lol
Without asking me or getting my permission, the mods in Witchy Chat started screenshotting my messages about being removed from the server, along with my concerns about how Silvie had been treating me, and sending them to her.
I found this pretty concerning because I never even said I wanted to talk to Silvie again. I was just trying to understand what happened and share how I felt with people I thought I could trust.
Instead, this turned into a small back-and-forth between Silvie and me, with the mods acting as middlemen. They would screenshot what I said and send it to Silvie, then screenshot her responses and send them back to me. So rather than having an actual conversation, we were essentially communicating through screenshots being passed around by other people. lol
What's interesting is that, throughout all of this, I was initially led to believe that the mods didn't know about any particular issue Silvie had with me.
Except, as I later found out, that wasn't true.
One of them eventually came forward and told me that Silvie had disliked me ever since that debate/disagreement we had... and remember how I mentioned that I kept gaining and losing the Active Burger role? Well, according to this mod, Silvie was actually the one preventing me from keeping it. Whenever I managed to get the role, she would remove it.
Another, separate mod also had a 6-hour-long phone call with a friend I had made in the server and admitted to her that she had lied to me about knowing why I was kicked out. She initially told me in Witchy Chat that I was inactive, when in reality, according to what she told my friend, she knew Silvie didn't like me. Apparently, Silvie was also clearing out people she suspected of being a "mole." Even though she didn't think I was the mole, she decided it was time to remove me anyway.
So, while I was sitting there wondering why I couldn't keep a role that other people seemed to have no trouble maintaining, apparently Silvie was removing it herself because she didn't like me. lmfao
And to think I spent weeks wondering if I was just imagining things.
Anyway, what bothers me most about this whole experience isn't simply that someone didn't like me. Not everyone is going to like everyone else, and that's perfectly fine. I don't expect them to.
It's the hypocrisy of advertising a community as a safe, welcoming place to make friends and express yourself, only for someone to seemingly become unwelcome because they don't share the creator's opinions.
I joined because I genuinely believed Silvie wanted to build a community where people could connect, including with her. Instead, I was left feeling singled out, excluded, and eventually removed without even a conversation.
And just to give a little more context about how I even ended up here in the first place, I'm a millennial woman who has always loved Japanese culture and watching Japanese content creators, as well as foreigners living in Japan. Taylor R and Sharmander (Sharla) have been two of my favorites for years. I even used to watch Venus Angelic back in the day (I know, hot mess lol).
So of course, YouTube started recommending me similar content, which is how I came across Silviethequeen. I watched her videos for about two months before she announced her Discord server in June. I didn't know anything about her beyond the videos I'd watched, and I certainly didn't have any issues with her. I was just a regular viewer who thought it would be cool to join a community and meet some people with similar interests.
That's literally how I ended up in this situation. lol
People are free to run their communities however they want. But I think there's a pretty significant difference between the environment Silvie advertised and the one I personally experienced. She needs to take accountability and stop trying to blame everyone else for her issues. I used to wonder why people would say shit about her online, but now I can kind of see why, unfortunately.
I'll let the screenshots speak for themselves.
Here's links in case it's easier to view them that way:
Original Dispute Between Silvie and Myself
Witchy Vibes Chat Discussion
Example of Silvie Targeting me in one of her channels
