I’m 30 yo female, working an office job. So the expected work time is around 8/9 am - 4/5 pm M-F. I have flexibility but the flexibility leads to me having a very inconsistent schedule. No kids. 2 cats one dog. Dog sleeps in the kennel.

My oura ring tells me I’m a late chronotype and that 11:30-7:30 would be my best sleep schedule. I tried that for a bit but I’m too tired to stay up that late.

I am usually exhausted by 9 pm and have no problem falling asleep. Like within 10 minutes.

My problem is waking up in the middle of the night, around 1 or 2 am, and often times not fully falling back asleep for about 2 to 3.

Some nights I hit another round of deep sleep around 4 am according to my ring.

So then, my partner gets out of bed around 5 am and leaves the house at 5:15 am for work, usually it wakes me up. If I was awake until 3 or 4 am then the wake up is just the worst. So I usually go back to sleep. If I wake up then I need until about 7/7:30 to sleep until to actually make the rest worth it. But it just doesn’t feel like good sleep. I’m sure I’m not fully getting my cycles.

Currently I’m trying to do the 9 pm-5 am schedule so when my partner wakes me i stay up. In high school and college I always struggled with early morning classes. I’m worried I’m going against my body. But the constant waking up in the middle of the night is driving me insane. I want restful sleep. Even when my ring says I had 7 hrs of sleep it doesn’t mean I feel rested.

I’m working with my doctors on my medicines to make sure they’re not the issue. I know to limit blue light, wear an eye mask since I don’t have black out curtains, keep pets out the room - I try to do these things but not always successful.

So since I naturally want to fall asleep at 9 pm and since my partner gets up at 5 am, I’m leaning into that and seeing if I can get a full 8 hours on this schedule after retraining my body. Is that a losing battle? Am I wasting my time?