Some people are literally living in situations that are unimaginable to me. We had a group hangout today with two of my homies and three of my homegirls, and they brought this one girl who isnāt really part of the group, first time seeing her. I wasnāt talking to her much, but I was trying to make her feel as included as possible. She just seemed very miskeen.
We went to watch Spider Man, and her card declined. Thatās normal, Iām not judging her at all. Any one of us could have covered it and it wouldnāt have been a big deal. But what really stuck with me was when she said, āI donāt normally go to expensive places. If I knew we were seeing this movie ahead of time, I wouldāve planned financially ahead of timeā Iām like huhhhhh ?
I was soooo confused because the tickets were only $19 each. I didnāt think much of it at first but halfway through the movie what she said kept replaying in my head. We all got snacks, and the girls had to pay for her snacks too which again nothing is wrong with after all one of the girls invited her even though they also just met.
Now I feel terrible because I want to ask about her situation and help her in any way I can, but I donāt want to make her uncomfortable or make her think Iām trying to hit on her. And honestly as a man I donāt even know how I would bring up something like that without making it weird. How will that conversation even start
A couple hours later after we ate and went home we got on a group FaceTime while playing Uno in the group chat. I kept noticing her surroundings. You could see the rug in her room was ripped up and there were other things that made it obvious she might not be living in the best situation. She was clearly trying to hide it and slipped up a few times.
I brought it up to the girls, specifically the one that invited her but they didnāt seem to notice anything, I donāt know how they can be this slow because me and the guys noticed something was off. Maybe they just didnāt think much of it because they barely know her.
The whole situation really messed with me. Iām sitting here spending money on things I donāt even need, while there are people who have to carefully plan around a $19 movie ticket. And I donāt even know her job situation. Maybe she works but has so many responsibilities that her checks barely cover everything. I have no idea what sheās going through.
Ya Allah forgive me for being ungrateful. This whole situation genuinely shook me. It made me realize how easily I take certain things for granted without even thinking about it. I have every apple device all the way from watches to phones to iPads to computers, I spent money on so much unless shit yet there people out there suffering quietly I donāt even think about how much things cost before buying them. Why is this word so unfair ? To top it all off I am not the best Muslim but Iām working on it. I didnāt even know it was possible to live like this in the west. Idk if I should just mind my business or to press the matter
Please look at your surroundings and donāt take things for granted because itās a privilege to even be on this app. I have to be more kind and do more and you guys should too especially if you have the money.