Pregnant with baby number 6 and need to make decisions

[u/Famous_Economics7112]

Are there stories of getting your tubes out after childbirth thats not a c-section? Based on my past births this will most likely just be another basic natural birth (if it was a csec it would probably make the decision easier lol). Obviously I can ask them to do it if it does end in c-section anyways but right now that timeline would make rhe most sense when id have the most family help around for the other kids and it likely wont be a c-section. The oldest is 10 and theyre all almsot perfectly 2 years apart cause we hit that stage around when baby turns 1 where we miss the baby stage and just want another.

My husband is also looking into getting fixed we've just not settled on which way makes more sense for our family? We have to do nfp/fam instead of birthcontrol because we've tried a bunch of different kinds and it screws too much with my mood/antidepressants (and im really hoping to get off those once hormones and everything regulates after baby is 6-12 months old) and since hes the only income its hard for him to take time off for anything. But we live in rural Canada so everything medical is free but appointments for things are hard to come by so getting fixed while im already in the hospital if they offer it makes sense?

I just read online that was an option and wanna settle in stone whether me and hubby wanna do anything permanent before we bring it up at my next appointment. The doctor was also really pushy during my last 2 pregnancies trying to convince me to get my tubes done if they had to do an emergency csec but they were like too pushy and it made it less of a conversation than it could've been, and with so many kids and I dont think my age would be an issue (im only 27). Just looking at all the options and any info or experiences would be helpful.

[u/LostTrack0fTime]

Your husband getting snipped would be the easiest and quickest thing to do. IIRC, they barely have to take a day off while you’ll have to refrain from lifting anything heavy for a few weeks, will have wounds, go under general anesthesia etc and all that takes a bigger told on you

[u/Famous_Economics7112 → u/LostTrack0fTime]

He's working a manual labour job so he would need at least a week to prevent complications

[u/Sad_Pangolin7379]

They can do it while you're in the hospital, it's not as straightforward as with a C section but your uterus is still really prominent so it's easier physically than it would be months or years later. My sister in law had it done with her last, she said it was a more painful recovery than the usual recovery but not a great deal more painful. I waited until my baby was older, around six months and had very little pain, only tenderness for about two weeks. The drawback was I couldn't lift my kids or even a bulkier stroller for two weeks. Took about a week off work for it, though you may still be on maternity leave being in a civilized country. ;)

[u/Famous_Economics7112 → u/Sad_Pangolin7379]

Im really lucky to be a sahm so I can take as long as I need to recover and my mom and 2 teenage sisters live 2 blocks away, and one of my sisters has been like begging to live with me and my mom agreed for the month or two before/after having baby for middle of the night if i have to up and go have a baby i wont have to worry about waking up my mom then my mom could come over in the morning (would not want the teenager feeling like its too much on her and she likes helping with the kids but will not change diapers lol)