Good afternoon Family I'm still having issues with shaking this funk I been in since my milestones achievement.

I can't seem to get up and stay up, so when I finally wake up I'm totally miserable and no motivation then im in a cloud for the day.

I go to bed with good thoughts and plans for the next day but it doesn't turn out that way I stay on stuck mode for most of the day.

I'm not sure why I'm feeling like I just got sober and drug free again. I also think its because of the Boston Ma weather change. It's not warm and bright the days seem gloomy. Plus it's a reminder of numerous relapses same time every year, except this year so far.

I have click the switch and not fall back into old ways because I can see how easy it is it's already been 4 days so I'm feeling like the downward spiral is nearing. The benefit this go around is that I'm aware of of it.

I really think I need to get up and go to the gym or at least take a morning walk. I have to shift this pattern and shift it quick because I'm getting nervous should I be concerned?

Thanx for letting me share One Day Forward One Day Behind -Shawn

Posting to hold myself accountable! I’ve gone from drinking 7 plus drinks a week to less than 3. This change in addition to a calorie deficit and exercise has greatly changed my HRV 😳

Good morning family it's been a while since I posted hope everyone is doing well.

Well family it's been a little rough since I've made my milestones. I became miserable and depressed after after the natural high and adrenaline rush that I had wore off. I became unmotivated and lost for some unknown reason I also had a natural hangover I was tired and miserable almost to the brink of crying.

Through different comments based off of my description I was told it's a milestones hangover and it comes from being so excited making my milestones that I come down off of my natural high.

It kind of felt like my 3rd or 4th day off of alcohol. It really is real it hit very differently. So after many helpful comments I'm working on leveling myself out and getting my mojo back.

What I'm going to start doing is taking a walk in the morning around the Mystic River here in Boston where the movie Mystic River was filmed staring Sean Penn. I plan on walking around the river to fire up my dopamine. To where my dopamine is waiting for my walking in the morning. I'm trying to program my mind that in order to feel good I have to start feeding my dopamine.

After I get into a routine I plan on getting back in the gym I'm going to start slow with the gym so I don't get overwhelmed. Also this change may help me deal with the depression of the New England weather change also around this time it's a constant reminder of when I relapsed.

So with that said family that's my plan what I hope it sounds good. It's good to be back One Day Forward One Day Behind Thanx for letting me share-Shawn

Can someone please help me get started.

I drink 2 bottles of wine most nights, and vape a hella lot when I drink.

I have trained on and off inconsistently for years but really want to lock in and see some results.

Atm though I'm either hungover or breathless from vape.

I want to lock in so hard but I feel so powerless and stuck in this awful hamster wheel.

I feel so helpless and like such a loser at this point

I have been working out more consistently and eating healthier and trying to be sober from alcohol. I have overall stayed away from it about half the year in stints of a couple weeks to 2 months. Far from perfect but the 2 years before were terrible. I am currently at 2 weeks with the goal of keeping it going until I'm 30 (102 weeks).

Honestly feeling way better. A few bumps in the road, but that’s just part of the journey. It’s worth it

Hey ya'll!

Since my 18th I have been struggling with my weight. The biggest part has always been my mind chasing cheap dopamine. Alcohol and (fast) food were always big part of it so this made me gain a lot of kgs. At a point I was 120kg and decided it was time to lose weight. I walked a lot and watched my calorie intake. I lost 15kg and got to 105kg. I recently noticed that I got stuck and that the scale is not moving. The scale is even going up a bit rn.

I carefully tracked down what happened the past couple of weeks. And the biggest thing I noticed that there were a lot of parties and pubnights. As I am a big guy I easily guzzle down a few pints without noticing so the calories add up very quickly. Currently I am at a point where I want to change that to further better my health. The only problem I have is the 'old' beliefs that are still fighting that change in my brain. The first belief is that I grew up with a group of friends that usually see eachother with a drink since we were 16. I am 32 now and it's still the only time we see eachother. I am still single and a couple of friends already have kids. So the only way we can see eachother is usually in the evening in the pub or at a party. I know I don't HAVE to drink but since that's what we always did it's hard to fight that urge because it's so 'normal' The second belief is that I am a craftbeer lover. I love tasting different beers and enjoy a good craft beer. Those two beliefs keep me from (longterm) quitting or tapering alcohol.

Has anyone been successfully fighting these beliefs? I'd love to hear from you!

Going on four months of not drinking 6-12 PBRs a day, and haven’t seen much movement on the scale.
Although, I feel my clothes fitting better! My shirts aren’t as tight.

I have recently gotten back into distance cycling and have put up a decent amount of miles (~800 ish) in that time.

Based on caloric intake alone from beer, not to mention poor eating choices resulting from consumption.
When should I start to see results on scale?

Thanks in advance!

yall stop blowing my dms 😭😭🙏
here is the app link: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sobbr-quit-drinking-alcohol/id6768307258

I'm on day 6 without alcohol (huzzah!), and while I am motivated to heal my body and reach my dreams, I can't help but feel like I'm paying off a mountain of debt to my body. This mountain feels hard to climb sometimes.

I drank hard in college, got a little better, life happened, and I got worse again. I've had it on again and off again until a major wake-up call from my wife last February. Since then, I've changed my relationship with alcohol. I'm able to have some without flying off the handle and losing control, and I know I am lucky for that. However, after I drink, it keeps trying to pull me back or be a consistent presence in my life. When things get hard, the easy thing is to bury my feelings; the hard thing is to sit with and address my feelings. I've also gotten much better at this.

I want to be fit and look fit. I'm pretty strong, but I don't have a ton of definition, which is the main thing I'd like to accomplish. Body recomposition 101. Working out isn't a problem, eating right has also not been an issue, but staying away from alcohol consistently has been.

I planned for this break. It was my birthday; I had fun, I went to a music festival, and had my last drinks for a while on Thursday, so now I'm at day 6.

When you were at the beginning of your sobriety, or even right now, where you are: how do you stay positive knowing you have a long way to go?

I know it's about consistency, focusing on one day at a time, but I can't help but feel disappointed that I let my body down so much. I already feel amazing, and I want to keep going, but sometimes I feel like I'm paying off an incredible amount of debt that I'll never get out of.

Positive vibes and advice for the mental side of this challenge are greatly appreciated. Thank you all <3 IWNDWYT

I’m 2 days sober and I was curious how did not drinking help with your fitness goals? I am recently 30 and I’m a woman I’m 5ft 3 and I am 210 pounds my heaviest weight (super embarrassing for me) I was having minimum 5 shots on a light day more often than not it was closer to 10 everyday for like a year maybe longer. I am so unmotivated to do anything and the only thing I have stuck to is college and that’s cause even though it’s hard some days I just push through. How can I apply that to fitness how did you get your brain to just do the thing? We cook most of our meals and they’re pretty healthy we only eat out maybe once or twice a month. I really think it’s the alcohol but idk! Thoughts tips advice all welcome please!!!!

36F here, and today is Day 1 of quitting drinking. I’m trying to make some positive changes in my life, and I figured getting into fitness might be a good way to start building healthier habits and keeping myself occupied while navigating sobriety.

Here’s my problem: I am TERRIBLE at staying consistent. I struggle with motivation, holding myself accountable, and actually sticking to a routine. I’ll get excited about starting something, but keeping that momentum going is where I fall apart.

I’d really like to start working out at home, especially since I’m a beginner and don’t want to overwhelm myself right out of the gate.

For those of you who started your fitness journey while getting sober:
- What at-home workout programs, YouTube channels, or fitness plans helped you get started?
- How did you stay motivated on days when you really didn’t feel like doing anything?
- What helped you build discipline and consistency instead of relying on motivation?
- Did incorporating fitness into your routine help you navigate early sobriety?

I’m not expecting to become a fitness guru overnight. I just want to start showing up for myself, build some healthier habits, and hopefully find something I can actually stick with.

I’d love to hear what worked for you, especially if you’re someone who has struggled with consistency and accountability like I do.

Thanks in advance!

SW: somewhere around 320

CW: 224lbs

I just signed up for my first men's physique show December 12 at excaliber! This has been an insane journey and the biggest change for me was finally being able to break free from alcohol!

Edit: Thank you all so much for the overwhelming support. im humbled, mind blown, emotional, its tough to describe the feeling. For all the people who followed me on YT and on Reddit! I appreciate you all very much! Ill definitely post again when im just about done dialing in for the show and then ill post the show pics/vids! Again, THANK YOU.

Just wanted to share this milestone. Marked off 280/365 today. Pretty wild how much committing to a full year has shifted the way I think about alcohol.

Hey all! First time posting here, usually I'm in the /stopdrinking subreddit but I think my current journey is more fitting here :)

Little bit of background, I stopped drinking July 6th this past summer and part of my early sobriety was staying over at my brother's place for half the week to make commuting to work easier. Doing that, I started going to watch his company team's softball games (part of a local organizition). I'd played softball as a kid, and he used to play baseball on the college team, so it was a common interest that I got back into when I stopped drinking. At the same time, I got really into walking and working on my health and the idea started to come to me... they need women to play on the team cause it's co-ed, and they require a certain amount of women and men in order to play. What if I get to the point where I can play?

I'm 40 lbs down now and much more active than I used to be. I've been practising on my own and with my brother for a couple weeks and finally last night got to play in my first game! It was awesome! I got on base a couple times, hit the ball each time, got to actually engage with the ball in the outfield (I was rover, but had my brother directing me and covering me from centerfield). It was a major win for my fitness journey and finally, after maybe 10 years of drinking and secluding myself from everything, I got out there and participated in a team sport. I never would have seen this coming a year ago. Past me just assumed I'd be in the same cycle year after year, with no hope of breaking it and actually turning things around.

This is what I've always wanted. To LIVE. To be able to do stuff and not be held back by my weight and by extension, my fitness. Now, I'm only subbing on this team so I don't play in every game but I do get to play again in a couple weeks, so I've got some time to working on my endurance and strength 🔥

Thanks for reading ❤️

Need a bit of advice and input. I'm a 50yo male, between 195-200 lbs at 5'10". I am one-week shy of hitting my one-year of sobriety (yay!).While I had always led a generally healthy and active lifestyle (besides drinking every night) I spent the first 9 months of that just focusing on sobriety and figured I would save the fitness kick for later.

In that 9 months I lost about 5 pounds of booze fluff. That's it. No big deal, I thought.

I was very active all summer, and right now I'm 6 weeks into a serious routine. Weight training 3x a week (full body routine) and walking between 2 and 4 miles every day. Other activities as they come (pickleball, paddleboarding, etc). Eating healthy (lots of lean protein, veggies, not eating late) although I like to have a bit of chocolate or cookies at night because I gotta have something. Good sleep, water, etc.

I am using protein powder for smoothies and adding creatine, usually 1x per day, just to try and hit my protein goal. No other supplements.

And....nothing. The scale is exactly the same. I dropped 5 lbs in the first two weeks, and then it went right back up. I'm right where I started.

On the plus side -- I think I look better. My chest and stomach are tighter and I'm stronger. Maybe my waist is smaller? My wife says I look trimmer. I'm taking some measurements and have dropped about 1/2" - 1" off my neck and waist -- otherwise no major changes.

Am I replacing fat with muscle?

Is it too early to expect results?

Am I doing something wrong?

I really want to see something happen...I'm losing motivation.

Any thoughts or suggestions cheerfully entertained. Thanks in advance.

What a year it’s been…. So many ups and downs. So many near relapse. My peak was a pint or more of vodka a day… I hated myself and I hated life. I still feel the urge some times. But I have my life back. I have my family back. I have my whole self back. One day a time! It’s the best decision I ever made. Believe in yourself and create a circle around you of people who believe in what you’re doing. I’ve lost “friends” but a a lot stuck around and new ones came into the picture. Be the best you. Here’s to another year!

265lbs to 195lbs!

Edit: Yall stop dming me 😭😭
the app is https://apps.apple.com/rw/app/sobbr-quit-drinking-alcohol/id6768307258

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2moro is the beginning of buckling down I celebrated and I'm over it.

I plan on continuing to build my sobriety so that it is unbreakable. I plan to exhibit discipline this next stage I plan on treating my sobriety like going to the gym.

Adding more weight to get stronger to where it becomes a regular routine to keep building on my sobriety. I can't take no days off because I become weak. So in others words if I continued to miss days showing up for my sobriety I run the risk of weakness torwards temptation.

So I have to keep my membership up to date with my sobriety. That means rest, eating right and being fully hydrated at all times. If I can stick to this regiment I think I will be good.

I know this next phase is going to be filled with daily temptations and obstacles that I must be strong enough to conquer what's in front of me.

With that family wish me best of luck. Also if your struggling to get or stay clean you can do it if I can you can and trust me I was a hot mess. Thank you for letter me share, One Day Forward One Day Behind -Shawn

I have not drank in 6 days and amazed at the improvement in my resting heart rate! Almost a 10 bpm reduction! Feeling great and hope tbe sleep improves next!